Psychology 409b, September 20, 2005

Outline of My First Oral Presentation

This is a Presentation of The Lazy Husband

By Christina Ramirez

Is Your Marriage Traditional, Transitional or Egalitarian?

 

The Lazy Husband by Joshua Coleman (St. Martin's Press, 2005), pages 72-99


Instructions for this activity are found at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy23/409b-g23-oral.htm

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

 

I. The Traditional Marriage

  1. The husband’s role is to provide income for the family and does not participate in housework or spending time with the children.
  2. The wife’s role is to care for the home and children.  She is not expected to work.  She at times can feel overwhelmed.
  3. Women do not have bargaining power because they depend on their husband financially.  They feel they must accept the marriage the way it is.

Opinion:  This type of marriage can never be a happy one.  The women may have resentment toward her husband that she may never resolve.

 

II.  The Transitional Marriage

  1. The husband can participate with household chores but when doing so both believe it is helping not equally divided.
  2. The wife can have a career but must put her family first.
  3. The wife tends to all household issues such as doctor appointments and she stays home when the children are sick.
  4. Women encourage their husband’s non-participation with household chores because they feel it is easier for them to do it without them to avoid conflict.

Opinion:  Women want to be in control of the home because they are stuck to the notion that a women’s place is in the home.  They do not want to be labeled as a women who needs help from her husband to manage her home.

 

III.  The Egalitarian Marriage

  1. Both husband and wife provide family income.
  2. The housework and parenting of the children is equally divided.
  3. There is no division of housework by the sex of the person.
  4. The confusion of roles is present in this type of marriage.  Women are reluctant to take on responsibilities that are labeled a man’s job such as calling the mechanic.

 

My Home Page:                       www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bf2005/ramirez/homepage.htm

 

 

The G23 Class Home Page:      http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy23/classhome-g23.htm

 

 

Related Websites 

Family – BeingThe Primary Breadwinner:

http://www.bluesuitmom.com/family/relationships/moneyrelationship.html

Work and family: Today’s Juggling Act http://ianrpubs.unl.edu/family/g1078.htm

Ending The Chore War: How To Get Your Mate To Help On The Home Front http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/toddler/toddlerfamily/1425641.html