Psychology 409b September 5, 2006

Outline 1: Unity 2

By Christina Afonin


Instructions for this activity are found at:

Instructor: Dr. Leon James


Leon James (2006). Seminar on the Unity Model of Marriage for G25. Section 2. Online at:



  1. Mental Anatomy and the Individual’s Threefold Self
    1. Section 2 Part A

                                                              i.      The Affective Organ

1.      Gives us the subjective life of feeling

2.      Corresponds to the circulatory system in physical body

a.       Because feelings nourish life of experience

3.      Feelings give us

a.       An affective consummatory life, i.e. desires, needs, wants

b.      An affective optimizing life, i.e. intentions, purposes, resolve, endeavors, motives, compassion, love, their opposites, etc.

                                                            ii.      The Cognitive Organ

1.      Gives us subjective life of thinking

2.      Corresponds to the respiratory system in physical body

a.       Because thoughts give social/cultural content to life experience

3.      Thoughts give us

a.       A cognitive appraising life, i.e. memory, words, meaning, imagination, topics, knowledge, conversation, logic, common sense, concepts, etc.

b.      A cognitive planning life, i.e. inventiveness, predictions, rational reasoning, fantasies, schedules, blueprints, hypotheses, management policies, etc.

                                                          iii.      The Sensorimotor Organ

1.      Give us the subjective life of sensing environment outside body

2.      And of acting upon the environment with motor decisions

3.      Corresponds to the nervous system in physical body

a.       Because sensations give us life of experiencing world outside of us

b.      Because motor determinations give us ability to make bodies move and interact with environment

4.      Sensations and Motor Determination give us

a.       A sensory noticing life, i.e. hearing, tasting, seeing, touching, pain, cold, pleasure, heat, etc.

b.      A motor execution life, i.e. pushing, pulling, chewing, moving, drawing, writing, dancing, verbalizing, etc.

                                                          iv.      Exact correspondence between physical and mental anatomy

1.      affective consummatory life = circulatory veins

2.      affective optimizing life = circulatory arteries

3.      cognitive appraising life = respiratory inhaling

4.      cognitive planning life = respiratory exhaling

5.      sensory noticing life = nervous afferent input

6.      motor execution life = nervous efferent output

                                                            v.      The Threefold Self

1.      The make up of the three spiritual parts, to be studied, described and understood:

2.      The affective life of feelings cumulatively makes up the affective self

3.      The cognitive life of thoughts cumulatively makes up the cognitive self

4.      The sensorimotor life of sensations and motor determinations cumulatively makes up the sensorimotor self

    1. Section 2 Part B

                                                              i.      Marriage

1.      Affective self operates feelings/motivations maintained in dating/marriage relationships

2.      Cognitive self operates thinking/reasoning in relationships

3.      Sensorimotor self operates sensations/perceptions and motor acts performed in gender relationships

a.       “motor acts” refers to overt verbal behavior (talk, discourse) and non-linguistic behaviors (appearance, expressions, style)

b.      Motor acts and talking are not from themselves but from cognitive acts (thinking and lifestyle philosophy) which occur from affective acts (motivations and needs guiding our thinking towards goals.

4.      The three parts create perfect synergy between thoughts, feelings, and actions. (ala: Threefold Self)

                                                            ii.      In gender relationships act along three domains of behavior

1.      deepest and most influential: affective operation

a.       maintain selected motivations/desires in accordance with our primary needs/satisfactions

b.      select and guide the other two domains

2.      “we entertain and prefer a way of thinking that will support and promote our motivations and feelings”

3.      affective and cognitive domains select and determine the sensorimotor behavior

a.       this will appear in our actions, appearance, words, styles

b.      what we do and say amounts to our overt gender behavior, which is the result of what we think, and that is the result of how we feel and what motivates us.

c.       Often more aware of what we think than of how we feel (what motivates us)

                                                          iii.      In relationships (between men and women):

1.      women get more practice in becoming aware of own feelings and motivations

a.       because women more motivated to spend time/focus to figure out how really feel/what really want.

2.      Women more aware of man’s feelings/motivations then man is.

a.       because women more motivated to form united couple, men more motivated to maintain their independence/options

3.      Men do not have less feelings because of this

a.       Men less motivated to discover their feelings and feelings of women

b.      Men can learn to acquire interest/habit and practice

                                                          iv.      Important:: Both men and women have same amount of feelings and emotions

                                                            v.      Emotional reactions

1.      necessary part of all thinking/acting

2.      not possible to act/react in conversation/interaction without feelings/motivations present AT ALL TIMES

3.      difference between men/women is awareness/consciousness of feelings/emotions of self and partner

4.      women specialize in becoming aware of feelings/emotions of partner; motivated to practice more than men

a.       women motivated to conjoin towards intimacy, men motivated to keep emotional/feeling independence

b.      this specialization/prodding and resistance/strain gaps the relationship- division/conflict arises

c.       good news: men can learn motivation towards understanding/recognizing feelings of self and partner

                                                          vi.      As we are raised our interpretation of relationship styles depends on our parents, other adults and the media surrounding us, by the time we begin our relationship journey there are already set stereotyped gender behaviors {in threefold self}

1.      exploitative feelings/intentions {affective self} (from men)

2.      sexist thoughts towards negative {cognitive self} (from men)

3.      injurious/hostile actions/words {sensorimotor self} (from men)

4.      atmosphere of conflict/discord = more work

  1. Mental Anatomy of Men and Women
    1. Section 2.1 Part A

                                                              i.      Mental anatomy-is it transparent and ghostly?

                                                            ii.      Swedenborg is the only one with factual info about spiritual world/afterlife

                                                          iii.      Marriage

1.      people who find heaven in their minds, a reflection and symbolization of mental unity is marriage..

2.      Swedenborg experienced the conjugial couple as one being from a distance but closer they became two.

a.       Their oneness is an outward representation of their inward mental unity

3.      Spiritual = afterlife of eternity

  1. Spiritual Gender Genes
    1. Section 2.1 Part B

                                                              i.      At birth

1.      man’s mind made of interior good/love surrounded by external truth/wisdom

2.      woman’s mind made of interior truth/wisdom surrounded by external love/good

                                                            ii.      Conjoining couple

1.      two levels of conjoining between husband/wife

2.      Phase I –Spiritual-

a.       External and spiritual

b.      Conjoins husband’s external truth/wisdom with wife’s external good/love

3.      Phase II –Celestial-

a.       Interior or celestial

b.      Conjoins wife’s interior truth/wisdom with husbands interior good/love

                                                          iii.      Un-united couple

1.      couples not progressed to internal union, meet and live together briefly then become aware of each other’s internal character/disposition and are separated

2.      each given another partner so internal marriage possible in heaven (regenerated in physical body only)

3.      one who is regenerate goes to heaven with new conjugial partner

4.      other, not regenerate, goes to hell-given infernal ‘concubinage’ with partner

a.       infernal marriages- externalizing and partners are “devils” so they hate each other but are forced to endure.. what hell



Related Links: -an interesting read about “spiritual marriages”. Just to see what the searched phrase would come up with, it’s quite different from what Swedenborg describes. -this is the Swedenborgian Church website. I was going to email them and see what their response would be to my question about vows. I’d also like to know what their divorce rate is. -a general biography of Swedenborg, I used to gain knowledge about him as well as a general overview of his work.


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