Psychology 409b September 5, 2006
Outline 1: Unity 2
By Christina Afonin
Instructions for this
activity are found at:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm
Instructor: Dr. Leon
James
Leon James (2006). Seminar on the Unity Model of Marriage for G25. Section 2. Online at: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm
i.
The Affective
Organ
1.
Gives us the
subjective life of feeling
2.
Corresponds
to the circulatory system in physical body
a.
Because
feelings nourish life of experience
3.
Feelings give
us
a.
An affective
consummatory life, i.e. desires, needs, wants
b.
An affective
optimizing life, i.e. intentions, purposes, resolve, endeavors, motives,
compassion, love, their opposites, etc.
ii.
The Cognitive
Organ
1.
Gives us
subjective life of thinking
2.
Corresponds
to the respiratory system in physical body
a.
Because
thoughts give social/cultural content to life experience
3.
Thoughts give
us
a.
A cognitive
appraising life, i.e. memory, words, meaning, imagination, topics, knowledge,
conversation, logic, common sense, concepts, etc.
b.
A cognitive
planning life, i.e. inventiveness, predictions, rational reasoning, fantasies,
schedules, blueprints, hypotheses, management policies, etc.
iii.
The
Sensorimotor Organ
1.
Give us the
subjective life of sensing environment outside body
2.
And of acting
upon the environment with motor decisions
3.
Corresponds
to the nervous system in physical body
a.
Because sensations
give us life of experiencing world outside of us
b.
Because motor
determinations give us ability to make bodies move and interact with environment
4.
Sensations
and Motor Determination give us
a.
A sensory
noticing life, i.e. hearing, tasting, seeing, touching, pain, cold, pleasure,
heat, etc.
b.
A motor
execution life, i.e. pushing, pulling, chewing, moving, drawing, writing,
dancing, verbalizing, etc.
iv.
Exact
correspondence between physical and mental anatomy
1.
affective
consummatory life = circulatory veins
2.
affective
optimizing life = circulatory arteries
3.
cognitive
appraising life = respiratory inhaling
4.
cognitive
planning life = respiratory exhaling
5.
sensory
noticing life = nervous afferent input
6.
motor
execution life = nervous efferent output
v.
The Threefold
Self
1.
The make up
of the three spiritual parts, to be studied, described and understood:
2.
The affective
life of feelings cumulatively makes up the affective self
3.
The cognitive
life of thoughts cumulatively makes up the cognitive self
4.
The
sensorimotor life of sensations and motor determinations cumulatively makes up
the sensorimotor self
i.
Marriage
1.
Affective
self operates feelings/motivations maintained in dating/marriage relationships
2.
Cognitive
self operates thinking/reasoning in relationships
3.
Sensorimotor
self operates sensations/perceptions and motor acts performed in gender
relationships
a.
“motor acts”
refers to overt verbal behavior (talk, discourse) and non-linguistic behaviors
(appearance, expressions, style)
b.
Motor acts
and talking are not from themselves but from cognitive acts (thinking and
lifestyle philosophy) which occur from affective acts (motivations and needs
guiding our thinking towards goals.
4.
The three
parts create perfect synergy between thoughts, feelings, and actions. (ala:
Threefold Self)
ii.
In gender
relationships act along three domains of behavior
1.
deepest and
most influential: affective operation
a.
maintain
selected motivations/desires in accordance with our primary needs/satisfactions
b.
select and
guide the other two domains
2.
“we entertain
and prefer a way of thinking that will support and promote our motivations and
feelings”
3.
affective and
cognitive domains select and determine the sensorimotor behavior
a.
this will
appear in our actions, appearance, words, styles
b.
“what we do and say amounts to our overt gender behavior,
which is the result of what we think, and that is the result of how we feel and
what motivates us.
c.
Often more
aware of what we think than of how we feel (what motivates us)
iii.
In
relationships (between men and women):
1.
women get
more practice in becoming aware of own feelings and motivations
a.
because women more motivated to spend time/focus to
figure out how really feel/what really want.
2.
Women more
aware of man’s feelings/motivations then man is.
a.
because women
more motivated to form united couple, men more motivated to maintain their
independence/options
3.
Men do not
have less feelings because of this
a.
Men less
motivated to discover their feelings and feelings of women
b.
Men can learn
to acquire interest/habit and practice
iv.
Important::
Both men and women have same amount of feelings and emotions
v.
Emotional
reactions
1.
necessary
part of all thinking/acting
2.
not possible
to act/react in conversation/interaction without feelings/motivations present
AT ALL TIMES
3.
difference
between men/women is awareness/consciousness of feelings/emotions of self and
partner
4.
women
specialize in becoming aware of feelings/emotions of partner; motivated to
practice more than men
a.
women
motivated to conjoin towards intimacy, men motivated to keep emotional/feeling
independence
b.
this
specialization/prodding and resistance/strain gaps the relationship-
division/conflict arises
c.
good news:
men can learn motivation towards understanding/recognizing feelings of self and
partner
vi.
As we are
raised our interpretation of relationship styles depends on our parents, other
adults and the media surrounding us, by the time we begin our relationship
journey there are already set stereotyped gender behaviors {in threefold self}
1.
exploitative
feelings/intentions {affective self} (from men)
2.
sexist
thoughts towards negative {cognitive self} (from men)
3.
injurious/hostile
actions/words {sensorimotor self} (from men)
4.
atmosphere of
conflict/discord = more work
i.
Mental
anatomy-is it transparent and ghostly?
ii.
Swedenborg is
the only one with factual info about spiritual world/afterlife
iii.
Marriage
1.
people who find heaven in their minds, a reflection and
symbolization of mental unity is marriage..
2.
Swedenborg
experienced the conjugial couple as one being from a distance but closer they
became two.
a.
Their oneness
is an outward representation of their inward mental unity
3.
Spiritual =
afterlife of eternity
i.
At birth
1.
man’s mind
made of interior good/love surrounded by external truth/wisdom
2.
woman’s mind
made of interior truth/wisdom surrounded by external love/good
ii.
Conjoining
couple
1.
two levels of
conjoining between husband/wife
2.
Phase I
–Spiritual-
a.
External and
spiritual
b.
Conjoins
husband’s external truth/wisdom with wife’s external good/love
3.
Phase II
–Celestial-
a.
Interior or
celestial
b.
Conjoins
wife’s interior truth/wisdom with husbands interior good/love
iii.
Un-united couple
1.
couples not
progressed to internal union, meet and live together briefly then become aware
of each other’s internal character/disposition and are separated
2.
each given
another partner so internal marriage possible in heaven (regenerated in
physical body only)
3.
one who is
regenerate goes to heaven with new conjugial partner
4.
other, not
regenerate, goes to hell-given infernal ‘concubinage’
with partner
a.
infernal marriages- externalizing and partners are
“devils” so they hate each other but are forced to endure.. what hell
Related Links:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiritual_marriage
-an interesting read about “spiritual marriages”. Just to see what the searched
phrase would come up with, it’s quite different from what Swedenborg describes.
http://www.swedenborg.org/index.cfm
-this is the
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swedenborg
-a general biography of Swedenborg, I used to gain knowledge about him as well
as a general overview of his work.
My home page: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bf2006/afonin/afonin-home.htm
Class home page: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/classhome-g25.htm