Psychology 409b October 3, 2006

Outline 3: Unity 7& 8

By Christina Afonin

 

Instructions for this activity are found at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

 

Leon James (2006). Seminar on the Unity Model of Marriage for G25. Sections 7 & 8. Online at: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm 

 

  1. Unity 7
    1. The Threefold Degrees of Conjunction

                                                              i.      Contains the threefold self

1.      Sensorimotor

2.      Cognitive

3.      Affective

                                                            ii.      And the model that governs their interactions

1.      dominance

a.       corporeal mentality

2.      equity

a.       sensuous mentality

3.      unity

a.       rational mentality

                                                          iii.      The 9 stages that make up the conjunction

1.      Sensorimotor

a.       (1) Dominance Corporeal Acts

b.      (4) Equity Sensuous Acts

c.       (7) Unity Rational Acts

2.      Cognitive

a.       (2) Dominance Corporeal Acts

b.      (5) Equity Sensuous Acts

c.       (8) Unity Rational Acts

3.      Affective

a.       (3) Dominance Corporeal Acts

b.      (6) Equity Sensuous Acts

c.       (9) Unity Rational Acts

    1. Sexual Behavior Applied to the Threefold Degrees of Conjunction

                                                              i.      Dominance Model

1.      Corporeal Acts

a.       Sensorimotor Corporeal

                                                                                                                                      i.      Sensations and pleasures felt as a consequence of maintaining control over partner

b.      Cognitive Corporeal

                                                                                                                                      i.      Involved with thoughts of how to pressure partner to cooperate and be non-resisting

c.       Affective Corporeal

                                                                                                                                      i.      Motivated and striving to overcome and compel partner to be submissive

2.      Sensuous Acts

a.       Sensorimotor Sensuous

                                                                                                                                      i.      Sensations and pleasures felt as a consequence of their performance or achievement

b.      Cognitive Sensuous

                                                                                                                                      i.      Involved with thoughts about evaluation

c.       Affective Sensuous

                                                                                                                                      i.      Motivated and striving to compete with or gain more from the partner

3.      Rational Acts

a.       Sensorimotor Rational

                                                                                                                                      i.      Sensations and pleasures felt as a consequence of their mental unity

b.      Cognitive Rational

                                                                                                                                      i.      Involved with thoughts about their spiritual and eternal conjunction

c.       Affective Rational

                                                                                                                                      i.      Motivated and striving to achieve mental closeness

  1. Unity 8
    1. Table to demonstrate the relationship of married partners
    2. The Relationship Levels

                                                              i.      Dominance –General

1.      Corporeal Acts

a.       Sensorimotor

                                                                                                                                      i.      Wife’s movements directed by husband using force, threat, intimidation

b.      Cognitive

                                                                                                                                      i.      Wife knows husbands prerogatives, strives to submit to them because of fear of retaliation

c.       Affective

                                                                                                                                      i.      Partner’s interactions controlled by tradition and family

                                                            ii.      Equity –Personal

1.      Sensuous Acts

a.       Sensorimotor

                                                                                                                                      i.      Partner’s movements competitive with each other

b.      Cognitive

                                                                                                                                      i.      Partner’s aware of but disagree with each other’s opinions

c.       Affective

                                                                                                                                      i.      Partners take turns giving in even if they disagree

                                                          iii.      Unity –Particular

1.      Rational Acts

a.       Sensorimotor

                                                                                                                                      i.      Partner’s movements coordinated with each other

b.      Cognitive

                                                                                                                                      i.      Partners discover/strive to agree with each other’s opinions

c.       Affective

                                                                                                                                      i.      Husband strives to align feelings/desires to match his wife’s

 

 

Related Links:

 

http://www.familydigest.com/stories/marriage_stages.cfm -this is just a short article online that describes the stages of marriage. I chose to put this in the related links because after reading it I got the impression that marriage, if you follow those few simple ideas, should be really simple and easy to maintain. There are of course some ideas that can be compared to the models of marriage that are discussed in Dr. James’s lecture notes. I am beginning to feel that the idea of marriage is somewhat backwards because it is so easily influenced by media.

 

http://in.rediff.com/getahead/2005/oct/07wed.htm - in my search for some relevant material that applies to this outline, I typed in “marital bliss” in the google search. All the sites that popped up were just how to’s or questions pertaining to marriage. But this one caught my attention because it was a “recipe” for marital bliss, which I thought would be interesting to compare to the tables that were illustrated in the lecture notes. And my interest was right. The person who wrote the blurb describes a marriage I would believe to be in the equity model, they are not conjoined spiritually because she allows them to be different and emphasizes their need to be alone.

 

http://www.savethemarriage.com/?hop=savmarriag.savmarriag&gclid=CM6jxbfE4IcCFQ8aYQod6BVODg –So this website is an overview and a sort of abstract into a self-help book. A self help book for what? Yes, saving your marriage. Now, I have to wonder, if your problems are so difficult that you have to buy books to help you attempt to solve them, then do you honestly think your problems are worth the time and effort to save? And who knows if the book has the information you need for the type of problem you’re going through? Wouldn’t it be better if you just stepped back and looked at your marriage objectively and then analyzed what your next step should be, for your benefit as well as for your partners? Why not try to look at the most civil and simplest way to solve your situation. Isn’t that what a self-help book is going to tell you anyways? Do you really need to sit down and read a book that will tell you to get up and go. It’s like watching a commercial about getting outside and exercising.

 

My Homepage: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bf2006/afonin/afonin-home.htm

Class Homepage: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/classhome-g25.htm