Psychology 409b November 28, 2006
Outline 9: Unity 18
By Christina Afonin
Instructions for this
activity are found at:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm
Instructor: Dr. Leon
James
Leon James (2006).
Seminar on the Unity Model of Marriage for G25. Section 18. Online at: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm
Unity 18 –Happiness &
Unhappiness on the Ennead Chart
I.
The Happiness
Chart
a.
Unity
i.
Focus on
partner
1.
Sensorimotor
a.
Zone 7
b.
Sensorimotor
Unity (SU)
c.
Altruistic
Sensations
d.
Pleasuring
the Partner
2.
Cognitive
a.
Zone 8
b.
Cognitive
Unity (CU)
c.
Altruistic
Thoughts
d.
Thinking that
they are each others more and more
3.
Affective
a.
Zone 9
b.
Affective
Unity (AU)
c.
Altruistic
Feelings
d.
Striving to
align self with partner’s preferences & succeeding
b.
Equity
i.
Focus on
intellect
1.
Sensorimotor
a.
Zone 4
b.
Sensorimotor
Equity (SE)
c.
Intellectualized
Sensations
d.
Giving and
Receiving Pleasure in Equal Amount
2.
Cognitive
a.
Zone 5
b.
Cognitive
Equity (CE)
c.
Intellectualized
Thoughts
d.
Thinking that
they each must respect each other’s POV
3.
Affective
a.
Zone 6
b.
Affective
Equity (AE)
c.
Intellectualized
Feelings
d.
Striving to
justify oneself to partner and succeeding
c.
Dominance
i.
Focus on self
1.
Sensorimotor
a.
Zone 1
b.
Sensorimotor Dominance
(SD)
c.
Self-Centered
Sensations
d.
Being
Pleasured by the Partner
2.
Cognitive
a.
Zone 2
b.
Cognitive Dominance
(CD)
c.
Self-Centered
Thoughts
d.
Thinking that
partner is compliant in all ways
3.
Affective
a.
Zone 3
b.
Affective Dominance
(AD)
c.
Self-Centered
Feelings
d.
Striving to maintain
primacy over partner & succeeding
II.
The
Unhappiness Chart
a.
Unity
i.
Focus on
partner
1.
Sensorimotor
a.
Zone 7
b.
Sensorimotor
Unity (SU)
c.
Altruistic
Sensations
d.
Not Being
Involved in Pleasuring Partner
2.
Cognitive
a.
Zone 8
b.
Cognitive
Unity (CU)
c.
Altruistic
Thoughts
d.
Thinking they
are not perfect for each other
3.
Affective
a.
Zone 9
b.
Affective
Unity (AU)
c.
Altruistic
Feelings
d.
Seeing
partner as independent or indifferent
b.
Equity
i.
Focus on
intellect
1.
Sensorimotor
a.
Zone 4
b.
Sensorimotor
Equity (SE)
c.
Intellectualized
Sensations
d.
Not receiving
back as much as one gave to partner
2.
Cognitive
a.
Zone 5
b.
Cognitive
Equity (CE)
c.
Intellectualized
Thoughts
d.
Thinking that
partner is getting away with not doing their share
3.
Affective
a.
Zone 6
b.
Affective
Equity (AE)
c.
Intellectualized
Feelings
d.
Feeling
competitive and arguing without resolution
c.
Dominance
i.
Focus on self
1.
Sensorimotor
a.
Zone 1
b.
Sensorimotor
Dominance (SD)
c.
Self-Centered
Sensations
d.
Having to
pleasure partner
2.
Cognitive
a.
Zone 2
b.
Cognitive
Dominance (CD)
c.
Self-Centered
Thoughts
d.
Thinking that
partner is rebelling and refusing to be submissive
3.
Affective
a.
Zone 3
b.
Affective
Dominance (AD)
c.
Self-Centered
Feelings
d.
Being abused
or physically intimidated by partner
Related Links:
http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=46357
–Yet another example of the dominance model of marriage. Although some
anti-unity values are presented against their case. It states that the most
important thing in a marriage is happiness.
http://www.wwlegal.com/module-guides-viewpage-pageid-105.html
-In searching for something about unhappiness in marriages, I found this
question on my hits list about what to do if in an unhappy marriage. So, I have
to ask, how long do you try at a relationship until you finally give in and
decide that nothing will come of it and move on to find that conjugial love?
http://www.allaboutlifechallenges.org/spouse-abuse.htm
-It says it there in plain view on the heading of the website, misuse of power.
And I have to wonder, since when is a relationship about power? When and how
did this type of relationship become an established and normal part of society?
Why is it that people are constantly at a struggle to hold power over each
other? Not just in relationships, but in general through government and through
sports, competitions, through every aspect of our lives, why is power the most
important most emphasized thing? The unfortunate side effect of power is abuse,
of torture, of hurting another human being.
My Homepage: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bf2006/afonin/afonin-home.htm
Class Homepage: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/classhome-g25.htm