Psychology 409b November 28, 2006

Outline 9: Unity 18

By Christina Afonin

 

Instructions for this activity are found at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

 

Leon James (2006). Seminar on the Unity Model of Marriage for G25. Section 18. Online at: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm

 

Unity 18 –Happiness & Unhappiness on the Ennead Chart

 

I.                    The Happiness Chart

a.       Unity

                                                              i.      Focus on partner

1.      Sensorimotor

a.       Zone 7

b.      Sensorimotor Unity (SU)

c.       Altruistic Sensations

d.      Pleasuring the Partner

2.      Cognitive

a.       Zone 8

b.      Cognitive Unity (CU)

c.       Altruistic Thoughts

d.      Thinking that they are each others more and more

3.      Affective

a.       Zone 9

b.      Affective Unity (AU)

c.       Altruistic Feelings

d.      Striving to align self with partner’s preferences & succeeding

b.      Equity

                                                              i.      Focus on intellect

1.      Sensorimotor

a.       Zone 4

b.      Sensorimotor Equity (SE)

c.       Intellectualized Sensations

d.      Giving and Receiving Pleasure in Equal Amount

2.      Cognitive

a.       Zone 5

b.      Cognitive Equity (CE)

c.       Intellectualized Thoughts

d.      Thinking that they each must respect each other’s POV

3.      Affective

a.       Zone 6

b.      Affective Equity (AE)

c.       Intellectualized Feelings

d.      Striving to justify oneself to partner and succeeding

c.       Dominance

                                                              i.      Focus on self

1.      Sensorimotor

a.       Zone 1

b.      Sensorimotor Dominance (SD)

c.       Self-Centered Sensations

d.      Being Pleasured by the Partner

2.      Cognitive

a.       Zone 2

b.      Cognitive Dominance (CD)

c.       Self-Centered Thoughts

d.      Thinking that partner is compliant in all ways

3.      Affective

a.       Zone 3

b.      Affective Dominance (AD)

c.       Self-Centered Feelings

d.      Striving to maintain primacy over partner & succeeding

II.                 The Unhappiness Chart

a.       Unity

                                                              i.      Focus on partner

1.      Sensorimotor

a.       Zone 7

b.      Sensorimotor Unity (SU)

c.       Altruistic Sensations

d.      Not Being Involved in Pleasuring Partner

2.      Cognitive

a.       Zone 8

b.      Cognitive Unity (CU)

c.       Altruistic Thoughts

d.      Thinking they are not perfect for each other

3.      Affective

a.       Zone 9

b.      Affective Unity (AU)

c.       Altruistic Feelings

d.      Seeing partner as independent or indifferent

b.      Equity

                                                              i.      Focus on intellect

1.      Sensorimotor

a.       Zone 4

b.      Sensorimotor Equity (SE)

c.       Intellectualized Sensations

d.      Not receiving back as much as one gave to partner

2.      Cognitive

a.       Zone 5

b.      Cognitive Equity (CE)

c.       Intellectualized Thoughts

d.      Thinking that partner is getting away with not doing their share

3.      Affective

a.       Zone 6

b.      Affective Equity (AE)

c.       Intellectualized Feelings

d.      Feeling competitive and arguing without resolution

c.       Dominance

                                                              i.      Focus on self

1.      Sensorimotor

a.       Zone 1

b.      Sensorimotor Dominance (SD)

c.       Self-Centered Sensations

d.      Having to pleasure partner

2.      Cognitive

a.       Zone 2

b.      Cognitive Dominance (CD)

c.       Self-Centered Thoughts

d.      Thinking that partner is rebelling and refusing to be submissive

3.      Affective

a.       Zone 3

b.      Affective Dominance (AD)

c.       Self-Centered Feelings

d.      Being abused or physically intimidated by partner

 

Related Links:

 

http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=46357 –Yet another example of the dominance model of marriage. Although some anti-unity values are presented against their case. It states that the most important thing in a marriage is happiness.

 

http://www.wwlegal.com/module-guides-viewpage-pageid-105.html -In searching for something about unhappiness in marriages, I found this question on my hits list about what to do if in an unhappy marriage. So, I have to ask, how long do you try at a relationship until you finally give in and decide that nothing will come of it and move on to find that conjugial love?

 

http://www.allaboutlifechallenges.org/spouse-abuse.htm -It says it there in plain view on the heading of the website, misuse of power. And I have to wonder, since when is a relationship about power? When and how did this type of relationship become an established and normal part of society? Why is it that people are constantly at a struggle to hold power over each other? Not just in relationships, but in general through government and through sports, competitions, through every aspect of our lives, why is power the most important most emphasized thing? The unfortunate side effect of power is abuse, of torture, of hurting another human being.

 

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