Taking Care of Men Is Simple
By Tiffany Akiyama
http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm
Instructor: Dr. Leon James
- Men are simple
- Treat him right, he'll do anything you want
- Treat him right, creates a happy home
- He should not have to "understand" your situations
- Attitude makes all the difference
- Improper Care
- Double standard
- Men follow their wedding vows, women do not
- The reason women do not follow wedding vows is their "Self-Centeredness"
- Love as a gift
- A distressed marriage = hurt children
- Solution: The woman needs to change
- Women are impossible
to please
- Women go on "power trips"
- "Power Trips" mostly lead to anger and disappointment
- Women need to show more gratitude
- Double standard
- White Rabbit Syndrome
- Always make time for your husband
- The Hurried Woman Syndrome
- Women are not the perfect mother or wife
- Women need to give up things to ensure the safety of their marriage
- Make him higher on your
list (first priority)
- When your husband is your first priority (good results)
- There's more pleasure, more peace
- There's reduced stress = joy (shared)
- When your husband is not your first priority (bad choices)
- It means the wife is:
- Self-centered
- Shortsighted
- Immature
- Stupid
- It creates a poor environment for the husband
- When your husband is your first priority (good results)
- Prioritize is a MUST!!!
- If the wife does not put her husband first, then she broke her wedding vows
http://www.hurriedwoman.com/
This site provides information about a book entitled, "The Hurried Woman Syndrome," written by an OBGYN specialist, Dr. Brent W. Bost. It speaks specifically a little more in depth about Dr. Laura's label, Hurried Woman Syndrome, she gives to (mostly working) women who "want it all." Except, this book includes that it occurs mostly in "stay-at-home" wives instead of working wives, which is what is stressed so far in Dr. Laura's book. I don't believe that it focuses on the dominance model like most help books do since there is a section in the book for the husbands to read if they have a low sex drive, and to help them to improve it for themself and their wife. It seems to be a book written to help a woman feel more organized and in control of her life rather than letting the events take her for a rollercoaster ride.
http://www.christianitytoday.com/mp/7m1/7m1008.html
It's an interesting passage of how one man's perspective and results of living with a "double standard" helps a relationship reach the Unity Stage of development. Unlike in Dr. Laura's book, she says it's selfish of a woman to not uphold to her wedding vows and not being able to understand her husbands feelings or situations from everyday stresses. She tells a lot of her listeners to put themselves in their husband's shoes, but the men should not need to put themselves in their wive's shoes. However, putting themselves in each other's shoes is what has helped this couple bring their marriage to a whole new level.
http://www.marriagemissions.com/married_women/what_husband_needs.php
This is a religious Christian site that speaks of "man's" basic needs. It seems to mention between the lines of what a husband needs from a wife in order to help him to "change." Also, the site states scriptures that give the idea of how "God calls wives to respect their husbands" (Ephesians 5:33). It's interesting because even though this site has the connotation of Dr. Laura's concept of fulfilling man's simple needs and receiving "happiness" in return, it still states in the end that it's "sacrifical" for both parties.
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Updated: 10/14/06