Psychology 409b November 22, 2006

How Sex is According to the Dominant Model

By: Crystal Bulda

Instructions for this activity are found at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

Laura Schlessinger (2004). The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.  (New York, NY: HarperCollins Publishers Inc).  Reviewing pages 119-142.

I.  Women should be a girl

            A.  Avoid the “Frump Syndrome”

                        1.  Wearing flannel pajamas and socks.

                        2.  Not shaving legs or grooming nails.

            B.  Behave sweetly and flirtatiously.

            C.  Take care of self to then chare herself with her husband.

            D.  Intimate, sensitive, and vulnerable.

            E.  Be more romantic

                        1.  How she presents herself to him as a woman.

                        2.  Treating him as desirable and competent.

            F.  Tune out self and tune on to him.

II. Wives’ Bodies

            A.  Husbands need to enjoy their wives’ bodies visually for their emotional well-being.

            B.  Responsibility to keep their appearance up, within reason.

            C.  Men desire for their wives to dress and behave coquettishly.

            D.  Visual input and seductive behavior.

            E.  Her willingness to share her appreciation of her own body feeds a man’s sense of well-being.

III. Men’s Sexuality

            A.  Desire for sex wasn’t just about a “release”.

            B.  Women need to be more open to discussing sex rather than immediately dismissing all men as just “sex hounds”.

            C.  Sex and affection should be given freely and eagerly in a good relationship.

            D.  Physical rejection leads to emotional hurt.

IV. The Wives’ Role

            A.  Although tired, she should always have sex with her husband since he is expected to go to work.

            B.  Need to take control by initiating sex play themselves and at reasonably frequent intervals.

            C.  Women need to reciprocate understanding and not be critical when their husbands desire them.

            D.  Be more available, agreeable, open, experimental, and sensitive.

Related Links:

http://marriage.infomedia.com/asp/role_wife.asp

The Role of the Wife- The primary role of the wife was to fulfill the role of helpmate to her husband and mother to her children, only venturing out of the bounds of the household to be involved in charity work.  Many women have allowed undue stress to be placed upon them as they attempt to balance their very jealous careers with their roles as wife and mother.  A wife is to submit to her husband not because she is inferior in an inferior role but because she is in a different role.   

http://www.leaderu.com/cl-institute/mirror/chap9.html

Wives: How to be Happily Married- The role of the women is defined by giving respect to her husband.  Her duty is to submit to her husband, which is the ultimate expression of respect.  This provides an authority structure in the marriage, most likely meaning a dominant model of marriage.  The husbands’ role is to love their wife.  Love is volitional rather than emotional; as an act of the will by choice.

http://spr.sagepub.com/cgi/content/abstract/4/4/429

Sex Role Identity, Role Performance and Marital Satisfaction of Newly-Wed Couples- I found this site interesting because it analyzes research that wanted to find out what type of femininity or masculinity in either male or female would produce satisfactory in the sexual area of the marriage.  The outcomes came to be that men appeared to be more satisfied if married to masculine women, and wives’ satisfaction was brought by feminine men.  Martial satisfaction was also positively related to mutuality of expressive behavior and negatively to perceived segregation of expressive roles.

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