Psychology 409b October 3, 2006

Psychology 409b October 3, 2006

Sexual Blackmail

By: Crystal Bulda

Instructions for this activity are found at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj.leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Leon James and Diane Nahl (2000). Lecture Notes on the Unity Model of Marriage for G25. Unit 10. Online at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm

I. Dr. Laura’s Advice

A. What is a good man?

1. Have a decent job to support family.

2. Want to spend time with wife by going to church, sex, trips, etc…

B. What women should do?

1. Feel lucky when they have a good man for a husband.

2. Cater to him and his needs.

3. Express appreciation for his courage in going out into the world to earn a living.

C. Against being unfair to women in marriage, but draws the line of fairness on the male side.

1. Doesn’t ask the man if and how he shows his appreciation of her being a good wife.

II. Double Standards?

A. Male Dominance Model Perspectives

1. Dr. Phil

a. Let’s husband off easy, hardly challenging any of his statements with a smile.

b. Focuses on wife, not smiling, confrontational, and intimidating.

c. Wants wife to feel that she is the one who is at fault, and who needs to change.

2. Dr. John Gray

a. Wives should give their husbands sex everyday or as often as the men want.

III. Why so many women support these behaviors?

A. Pressures those women feel from husbands and society to support dominance model.

B. Brought up to please male sex.

C. Promotion of sexual slavery of women in media.

On Sex Positiveness- Lucky Nickel is part the radical feminist movement, who wrote a journal pertaining to the how the male species has taken advantage of sex. She mentions the current situation in which men are allowed free and easy access to sex without the drag of protocol, courtship and responsibility. Women are just expected to take care of the children, chores, and wash their husband’s underwear. An issue of sex positive is also mentioned where a revolution must take place to allow men to do what ever they want and to not take it as anything bad, which Lucky badgers, as a stupid conclusion to help society with their already set negative attitudes toward women.

http://www.historymatters.gmu.edu/d/6562/

The Unrealistic Sex- Traditional gender norms were culturally and historically determined rather than derived from nature. Dr. Judson and Mary investigated contradictory assessments of the typical American male and stated that although males were the weaker sex biologically, their struggles to conform to cultural ideas of superiority and dominance led to disastrous relationships. Males are considered as the stronger gender due to the biological determinism of their endocrinological functioning.

http://www.academia.org/campus_reports/2000/december_2000_4.html

The Many Benefits of Traditional Marriage- Sara Russo doesn’t mention the negative views that the wife holds, but rather that everything will be healthy once a couple commits into a traditional marriage. Sara Russo writes an article in Accuracy in Academia on the benefits of traditional marriage. Sara reports evidence provided by Maggie Gallagher and Linda J., where they state that the “till death do us part” vow of matrimony creates a unique relationship that enriches the husband and wife in every observable way. Marriage is stated that is changes people’s goals and behavior in ways that are profoundly and life enhancing.”

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