Psychology 409b October 20, 2006

Mental Abuse

By: Crystal Bulda

Instructions for this activity are found at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

Leon James and Diane Nahl (2000). Lecture Notes on the Unity Model of Marriage for G25. Unit 11. Online at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm

I. Defining Mental Abuse

A. Cruel and denigrating behaviors performed by husbands upon their wives.

1. Threats

2. Name Calling

3. Forcing physical intimacy

4. Neglect

5. Manipulation

6. Using as a sex object/slave

7. etc…

B. Wife’s self-respect and human dignity is injured

C. Wives denied their human rights.

II. Three Models of Marriage Perspective

A. Dominance

1. Blame on wife.

2. Husband is self-centered.

3. Husband is genital-centered.

4. Husband wants sexual relief.

5. Cooperates with husband’s perspective and advocates sexual blackmail.

6. Physical intimacy first before mental intimacy.

B. Equity

1. Puts blame on both the husband and wife.

C. Unity

1. Puts blame on husband.

2. Husband who stands in the way of mental intimacy with wife.

3. Wife centric focused.

4. Wife wants mental conjunction and intimacy.

5. Sexual intimacy is a spontaneous and delightful consequence of mental intimacy.

6. Not healthy for a woman to have sex with a man who is unwilling to b mentally intimate with her.

7. Mental intimacy first, then physical intimacy.

Mental Abuse: 7 Important Things you should Know- In this site, Annie Kaszina lists 7 things that may be acted upon a partner that you should take notice as mental abuse. Most of her 7 issues generalize much of Leon James’s Lecture notes based on mental abuse. It begins from “Sticks and Stones won’t break my heart,” where words are underestimated in terms of the emotional pain that results from them.

http://www.healthyplace.com/Communities/abuse/breakfree/index.html

Break Free- This site pertains to breaking out of domestic, as well as mental abusive relationships. This article is a personal story of a female’s experience in her relationship where she had undergone abuse for fourteen years. This story reflects how she had put up with the abuse to finally realize that this wasn’t how a marriage was supposed to be.

http://www.mhnet.org/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=8476&cn=2

Types of Abuse- This site explains the different types of abuse that exist. Once you are able to identify what each abuse involves then a victim is better prepared to recognize such behaviors. Then a victim may begin to take steps to stop it from happening or repeating again.

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