PSY 409b October 16, 2006

Sexual Blackmail

By Christina Delapena

Instructions for this activity are found at:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

Leon James and Dr. Diane Nahl (2006). Lecture notes version 12A on the Unity Model of Marriage, Everyday I’m Yours More and More. Section 10.

Online at: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm 

I. Dr. Laura's Perspective On Male Dominance

a. Women should appreciate and feel lucky their husbands are good men.

b. Husband expects and deserves his wife to cater to him, his needs, and express appreciation for financially supporting his family instead of having affairs.

c. Dr. Laura's against being unfair to women in the marriage, but sides with the male side for fairness.

d. Most people may start the marriage in male perspective dominance--considered traditional.

II. Double Standards In Male Dominance Perspective With Media Therapists

a. Dr. Phil McGraw

i. Easy on the husband when couple has problems, being nice and friendly.

ii. Confrontational and intimidating towards the wife, making her accept blame for their marriage problems.

b. Dr. John Gray

i. Wives should give their husbands sex everyday, even if they don't want to.

III. Abuse

a. Where there's physical abuse, there's mental abuse.

b. Can have mental abuse without physical abuse.

Related Links

The Male's Addiction to Sex

http://www.couplescompany.com/advice/tom/BornAgainVirgin2.htm

This website is describes some reasons of why men are addicted to sex. But then it goes on say it's not really sex men really want, it's emotionally strong women. Through sex, he will use her and see how she really is.

Men's Reaction to Female Sexual Coercion

http://www.batteredmen.com/batrsexcoer.htm

This website talks about men who are sexually coerced by women. Women are most likely to use psychological pressure such as pleading, emotional blackmail, and deception. A study revealed that men who are very upset by an incident of female sexual coercion are likely to experience subsequent distrust and wariness around women and to have relationship difficulties.

Top 10 Reasons Women Don't Want Sex

http://blogs.webmd.com/sexual-health-sex-matters/2006/07/top-10-reasons-women-dont-want-sex.html

This website talks about why women don't want to have sex. One reason included disagreeing with one's mate. Conflicting feelings can lead one not to want to have sex. Lack of sleep and stress were also other reasons.

My Homepage is: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bf2006/delapena/delapena-home.htm

Class Homepage: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/classhome-g25.htm