409b October 14, 2006

The Two Different Versions of Psychology

By: Caitlin Fields

Instructions for this activity are found at:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Instructor Dr. Leon James

Leon James and Dr. Diane Nahl (2006). Lecture notes version 12A on the Unity Model of Marriage, Everyday I’m Yours More and More. Reviewing Section 13 Pages 57-59. Online at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm

I. Negative Bias

A. Leads to Materialism and Atheistic Psychology

B. Dominance Model and Equity Model

II. Positive Bias

A. Leads to Theistic Psychology

B. Unity Model (Based on Swedenborg’s observations)

C. Dualistic Perspective: Addresses this life and the afterlife or “spiritual worlds”

D. Scientific and Empirically Oriented

III. Heaven and Hell in the Afterlife

A. Heaven

1. Live in a conjugial state of unity for eternity.

2. Endless joy and happiness everyday.

3. Have a communal mental reality (continuing immortal life in the afterlife)

4. The heaven of our minds, which is determined by our traits in life on earth.

5. Eternally happy with heavenly traits.

6. Couples kept together by mental unity

B. Hell

1. Have a communal mental reality.

2. The hell of our minds, which is determined by our traits in life on earth.

3. Not eternally happy with heavenly traits.

4. Living together as couples (with hatred towards one another, not love) in gross, dark, smelly places.

Related Links:

What is a Marriage?

http://mystic.nazirene.org/cridentials.htm

This article basically says that a man does not have the power to say whether two people are married or not. Technically they do in society today by a certificate stating the couple is married, but a paper does not mean a couple is truly married. In God’s eyes, a true marriage is when the couple forms a union to become one. A certificate or marriage license can say all it wants, but that piece of paper does not officially determine a true marriage between a man and woman. I found this website interesting because I never really thought of marriage from this perspective before, but it is very true. Anyone in the world could say they are “married” because of a sheet of paper, but actually hate one another, which is not a marriage. Since I have began learning about the Unity Model of Marriage in this course, I have been telling my serious boyfriend about this model. I don’t know if it is even possible to reach the affect self before married, but I think it would be a very good idea for couples to try before they get married. If a couple has a lot of difficulty with it before married, it is just going to become more of a struggle later down the road. So, right now I am really trying to show my boyfriend for us this Unity Model.

A Heavenly Marriage in Today’s World

http://www.msfinancialsavvy.com/article.php?aId=220

This article gives a brief description on a couple’s story of when they got married. I just wanted to compare the beginning of the story and show how it follows the Dominance Model and how the second part follows the Unity Model. From the very beginning, the poor wife told her husband she did not want to get married yet because she was too young. He said he was in love with her and was ready, so she gave in and got married. If he truly loved her, according to the Unity Model, he would’ve waited until SHE wanted to get married. They had a bad start to their marriage, as it began with an accident, but right before they changed their lives around, they never communicated on the same level, and she was ready to commit suicide because she was so unhappy. Communication should never be a problem within the Unity Model because when both of them reach the cognitive and affective level of unity, they should be able to think as one and know how the other feels. Thankfully, both of them turned to Jesus Christ, and began living their marriage through the Unity Model. I find it very interesting how so many people are unhappy in their relationships, and still let themselves to continue, when they can be so happy in a second if they would just follow the Unity Model.

Independence

http://www.ldsces.org/inst_manuals/marriage/manualindex.asp

I found a very interesting and helpful Christian website that is divided into sections pertaining to relationships in marriage, before marriage, after a family has arrived and so on. The one section that I want to talk about is a couple living without marriage, which is also one of the AUV’s discussed later in the readings. A female quoted in this section, “Marriage should be done away with. I already know people who are living quietly together without marriage, but I haven’t yet seen the effect of this on children as they grow up in such a society.” This just shows how accepted this anti-unity value is in today’s culture. I usually never see women making comments such as these. I just found it very interesting to see this written from a woman’s perspective. I also want to heavily disagree with it not effecting children as they grow up. It certainly will, because in my opinion, they will be brought up thinking that it is okay to have numerous relationships, living with them, and then repeating the same cycle as their parents…living with their significant other without marriage. Besides not following the Unity Model by doing this, it also is just NOT the way it should be. Couples are supposed to get married before they have children, let alone live together. I just absolutely hate seeing how people cannot agree with this and finding it not a problem to want to break away from marriage all together. I just do not understand it.

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