409B October 17th, 2006

Double Standards

By Emily Georgeo

Instructions for this activity are found at: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g-25oral1.htm

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

Schlessinger, Laura (2004). The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. (New York, New York: HarperCollins Publishers Inc.). Reviewing pages 51 to 64.

I. Wives Expect

A. Wives expect their husbands to wine and dine them because they do things around the house (e.g. laundry, cooking, cleaning, taking care of children).

B. But do the wives give back? The man goes out and works to support his family then comes home, mows the lawn, and fixes the cars, so do we wine and dine them?

II. Religious Morality

A. Women and men are more complete “when bonded to the opposite sex in holy matrimony.”

B. Without foundation “women may see marriage as” a “temporary arrangement of shacking up,” “threat of oppression,” or a “fulfillment of some important material goals.”

III. Modesty, Chastity, and Fidelity

A. Women have to deal with men that may expect sexual actions of a date

B. Women ignore nature to bond and become hurt and bitter

IV. Commitment to Family and Child Rearing

A. Women looked for right man to marry and went to parents for help

B. “Fewer women look upon marriage and child rearing as stable or even normal.”

Related Links:

Balancing the Family

http://www.foreverfamilies.net/xml/articles/commitment.aspx

I chose this article and site because it just goes to show that you can balance work, family, and relationships all at the same time. It has a lot of links on how to balance these things out too. Along with family, work, and relationships it shows how to balance finances and how to make the home a sacred living for the family.

Commitment to family

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3345_fam.html

I chose this one because it has various issues of how to manage family and the marriage as two separate units and then as a whole. It has sections on the emotional needs of a partner and what needs to be done and how to achieve that subject, whatever it may be. It has basic concepts of how to have a successful marriage and how to keep it that way, when family, work, and everyday life come into play.

Religious Morality

http://atheism.about.com/od/doesgodexist/p/GodMorality.htm

I chose this site because it has a different view of morality and values, and how you can still have values without a “God.” Even though I am not an atheist, I still liked this article and site because it explores different options of life, love, and marriage. It also has different topics of how to look at life from an atheist point of view, even if you are not one.

My Home Page: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bf2006/georgeo/georgeo-home.htm

The Class Home Page: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/classhome-g25.htm