409B October 24th, 2006

Housework, Sex, Childhood, and Parenting

By Emily Georgeo

Instructions for this activity are found at: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

Coleman, Joshua (2005). The Lazy Husband: How to Get Men to do more Parenting and Housework. (New York, New York: St. Martin’s Griffin). Reviewing pages 182 to 191.

I. Sex

A. Women are more interested in having sex when they’re married to men who are more willing to do

housework

B. Good sex life makes men feel important, cared about, and connected to wives

II. Housework

A. When a guy does housework it effects the woman’s sexuality

1. Makes her feel cared about

2. Decreases her stress levels

B. Ways to work together

1. Write a list with your wife and what she’d like the husband to do

2. Are there bargains to be made?

3. Don’t fight her influences

III. Childhood

A. Being passive or aggressive in your marriage may stem from your childhood

IV. Parenting

A. Men are less quick in responding to children’s frustrations or cries of distress

B. Men want children to experience risk and adventure

C. Children with involved fathers are more emotionally secure and closer to fathers when older

Related Links:

Sex Problems?

http://www.christianitytoday.com/marriage/features/realsex/

Go to this site and it gives tips of how and why your spouse may be acting the way they are. It is also anther Christianity based website, but also has a huge selection of topics and advice on it all. They also have links to advice from experts.

Get him to do housework

http://www.marriedromance.com/columns/friedman/housework.htm

By going to this website and reading the tips that Marty Friedman gives the women reading this website. I say women because he directs it towards women and how they should handle their husbands/boyfriends with doing the household chores and other such things in their relationship.

Daddies should go to this site

http://cyberparent.com/men/parenting.htm

This was a great site, I even made my husband sit down and read this with me, seeing how we have a daughter. It was really nice to finally see a site directed towards males and their roles that they play in their children’s’ lives.

My home page: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bf2006/georgeo/georgeo-home.htm

Class Home Page: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/classhome-g25.htm