409B November 28th,
2006
Competence Foci
By Emily Georgeo
Instructions
for this activity are found at: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm
Tannen,
Deborah (1994). Gender and Discourse. (Oxford, New York: Oxford
University Press). Reviewing pages 161-174
I.
Pragmatic Identity
Partners use similar devices to
similar ends
Example 1. She’s
upset. He says let’s drop the subject and go to bed.
Example 2. He wants to
talk. She doesn’t want to talk about painful subjects, and says, it’s
getting late, let’s go to bed.
II.
Pragmatic Synonymy
Partners use different linguistic
devices to achieve similar ends
Example 1. He comes home and
wants to tell her he is leaving her. She uses excessive conversation.
Example 2. He uses abstract
generalizations
They are doing this to get away
from the real issue at hand
III.
Pragmatic Homonymy
Partners use same surface devises
to achieve different ends
Example 1. Partners use
questions after question but does not want a real answer
This can look like camaraderie but is more like distance because they are avoiding the problem
Related
Links:
Partner
Communication
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/couples/lifeasacouple/communicatingasacouple
I like
this site because it has the different types of communication, verbal,
nonverbal, body language, and what it really means, deep down. It also
has links to various other articles on issues of relationships and topics
relating to cohabitating. It is also gender savvy, so both male and
females can use this site.
http://www.tangomag.com/Home/tabid/138/Default.aspx
I decided
to use this website, and it’s home page because you can decide whether you are
single, taken, or starting over. You can pick one of these and then decide
to search for various topics of whatever issues you and your partner
have. If it’s communicating or sexual healing you need, it’s here.
“Communication
and Understanding in Marriage”
http://www.blackwell-synergy.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1468-2958.1984.tb00022.x
This is
just an abstract but as I was reading the summary, it shows five different
things that couples either agree or disagree on according to communicating and
understanding each other. The summary results were also alarming because
one of them is that even though the couple was understood they still had
negative statements about not being able to communicate.
My Home
Page: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bf2006/georgeo/georgeo-home.htm
Class
Home Page: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/classhome-g25.htm