Psychology 409b – December 5, 2006

Anti-Unity Values

By:  Dayna Hasegawa

Instructions for this activity can be found at:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Instructor:  Dr. Leon James

I. Anti-Unity Values (just to name a few)

a. Living together unmarried

b. Having children out of wedlock

c. Making each other jealous on purpose

d. Adultery for various reasons

e. Promiscuity and bi-sexuality

f. Promoting the idea that one should not try to change one’s partner but should accept them with their faults

g. Girls only or boys only entertainment

II. Observing AUV’s

a. Idea of promoting the idea that one should not try to change one’s partner but should accept them with their faults

i. AUV because unity can not be achieved if partners are not free to influence one another with their personality traits. 

ii. When a couple is aiming for unity

1. The wife strives to please her husband by getting to know his tastes, sense of humor, and likes and dislikes, making her feel attached to him

2. The husband strives to please his wife by making her feel comfortable by abandoning the behaviors that upset the her and learn new behaviors

b. Idea of Girl only or boy only entertainment

i. AUV because it excludes their partners from participating in activities together

ii. Males practice this because it is their way of keeping their independence

III. Swedenborg’s Conjugial Love

a. Love for eternity

b. Married partners are united and they are linked with eternal happiness

c. Two are not separated by death of one; the spirit of the deceased dwells with their living partner and when that partner dies, they will come together again reunited in the spiritual world

d. Partners that are truly living in the state of conjugial love do not wish to remarry once their partner dies

Related Links

Media Influences

http://www.media-awareness.ca/english/issues/stereotyping/women_and_girls/women_sex.cfm  I chose this site because anti unity values are so common in the media.  AUV’s can be found on television shows, movies, and even through the music we listen to.  And unfortunately, whether we like it or not, the media has so much influence on young people today.  This site is about how the media puts so much pressure on women to feel that they have to look a certain way, just for men to like them.  It also shows how the media has such a negative influence on society today. 

True Love

http://www.christiananswers.net/q-dml/dml-y030.html  I chose this site because Swedenborg uses a religious view to support his theory of conjugial love.  He explains that it is God’s interest for us to desire true conjugial love.  This site explains from a Christian point of view, what true love is supposed to be. 

Faithful/Unfaithful

http://www.cbn.com/LivingTheLife/Features/DrLindaHelps/HowFar_IsTooFar.aspx  I chose this site because it talks about staying faithful to your partner.  Adultery for various reasons is one of the many anti unity values that were discussed, so I wanted to give a link that people could visit if they had any confusion on AUV’s and what is considered infidelity.  It also related back to God and gave opinions from a religious point of view. 

My Home Page:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bf2006/hasegawa/hasegawa-home.htm

Class Home Page:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/classhome-g25.htm