Psy 409 September 11, 2006
Outline #1 Treatment of Husbands by their Wives
By: Katie Ide
Instructions for this activity are found at:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm
Instructor: Dr. Leon
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger (2004). The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. (
I) Women do the strangest things
a) Stay in abusive relationships
b) Women resent the fact that they have appreciate and show their gratitude for what their husbands do for them on a daily basis
c) Asking if it’s appropriate to take “extended vacations” without him
d) Intentionally make life hard for their husbands
i) Feels it’s their right to withhold sex just because
ii) Makes frozen dinners instead of home cooked ones
II) Men are simple creatures
a) Men spend their entire lives looking for acceptance and approval from women
b) All men need is respect, food, sex, appreciation, and direct communication
i) Men will turn into putty and do anything you request when you give them all of these things
ii) Men will suffer in silence before something pushes them over the edge
iii) Men mean exactly what they mean when they say it, otherwise they wouldn’t say anything
III) Double standards
a) If women change their minds, men are supposed to accept it
i) If women don’t feel like having sex, men have to not complain about it
ii) If men don’t feel like having sex, women automatically think there is something wrong with their attractiveness or suspect cheating
b) If men change their minds they are considered irrational and insensitive
i) Children are often used as a buffer to why women feel their husbands should respect the decision to break a promise such as a vow.
IV) Women don’t admit it but they are in control
a) We hold the right to use power for positive or negative reasons
b) Attitudes of women have a big part in the behavior of men and in the long run their treatment of women
c) Men have a soft spot when it comes to women being upset or angry about something
V) Men need to climb the priority ladder because the notch they’re at now isn’t cutting it
a) Step back and consider that the man would do anything for his woman even if it meant moving half way around the world, he expects the same from you
b) If a woman finds that her job is becoming an obstacle in her marriage, she should quit because the man is known as the “breadwinner” anyways.
c) Men should come first, then children, then the woman’s needs
d) A woman that thinks she can handle a career, being a mother and still have a healthy marriage is asking for a slow and painful death.
Related Links
1. Women prefer Jerks
This is the most common complaint I hear on a daily basis from my guy friends. I stumbled across this website that actually lists the top ten reasons why women don’t like nice guys and choose to date jerks instead. I was reading through the list thinking that Dr. Laura would probably give a million dollars to whoever wrote this because it surrounds everything she talks about when it comes to why women prefer abusive and negative relationships with men.
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/datejerk.shtml
2. Women and Work
This article is talking about a survey that was conducted regarding the percentage of women who went to high education institutions and dropped out of the work force to take care of their families. The article talks about if a woman was most likely to marry a man from the same level college or university, the man would have a higher income. This would result in the woman not having to work if she felt that she needed to give time to her children and husband. More time for the husbands and kids results in a more stable family and a lower risk of divorce or problems in the home. So basically the underlying goal was to say “Ladies, marry a man at your college!”
http://www.becker-posner-blog.com/archives/2005/09/elite_universit.html
3. Women refusing sex
I found an article that was quite astonishing. It talks about a village in turkey by the name if Lysistrata. The women of the village were complaining about not having a proper water supply and the men were doing nothing about it. The women decided to be proactive about the situation and refused to have sex with their husbands until they had running water in their houses. Sure enough within a week or so there was a plan drawn up to start the building of new pipes. It just goes to show that sex is vital thing in a relationship and as long as women are supplying the sex, they get to be spoiled by their men.
http://www.amrep.org/lysistrata/ages.html
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