Psy 409 October 2, 2006
Outline #3 Men feel things too!
By: Katie Ide
Instructions for this activity are found at:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm
Instructor: Dr. Leon James
Schlessinger,
Dr. Laura C. (2004). The Proper Care and Feeding of
Husbands. (
I) Utter disregard for a man’s feelings
A) Being a hypocrite when it comes to
activities with friends
B) Justifying things as a need vs.
irresponsibility
C) His vs. her family members
D) Wife’s priorities matter more
II) Male ego vs body ego
A) Husbands compliment on our bodies and
the way we look in jeans but we can’t fill their egos with “yummy food”
B) men need compliments on stuff just as
much as women do
C) wives’ approval is as important as
oxygen
III) Open Ears
A) Most wives are the oppressors when it
comes to marriages, they just don’t realize it
B) Wives should respond with openness, compassion,
sensitivity to their husbands feelings
C) Most of the time the reaction is anger,
shock, reproach, threats, and tears
D) Sometimes women are left thinking “ how
did his attitude get to the point of where it is” women start wondering what
they did wrong or what they can do better to render the situation
IV) Husbands are not going to be your
girlfriend
A) Husbands only want the basics, no
frilly, lacy details, keep it simple ladies.
B) If husbands aren’t supposed to do
anything, why are you telling them?
C) Expecting your husband to listen to you
like your best girl-friend is a huge mistake
D) If you treat your husband as a man, it
will bring something totally different.
V) Who said it all had to be verbal?
A) Non-verbal communication can be just as
important if not more than verbal words
B) Verbal communication is a form of a
power struggle which men usually end up giving into
C) Women nag and is never satisfied is the
common complaint about communication
D) Men are insensitive and doesn’t mean
emotional needs and won’t do anything around the house are the common reasons
for communication problems within a marriage.
Related links
1. Women need
their own list
http://www.americasfamilycoaches.com/radio/todays_tips_and_resources.php?tip=329
This is a list
giving the men some advice about what women need out of them in order to
understand their role with their wives and how they can better their
relationship
2. Non verbal
communication among newlyweds
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=PubMed&list_uids=7175683&dopt=Abstract
this is a study
done about the level of non verbal communication among 48 newlywed couples and
they way they decoded the communication.
3. Traits and
support
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=PubMed&list_uids=7175683&dopt=Abstract
this is an article looking at the social support in
regards to personality traits in marriage
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