Psychology 409b

November 28, 2006

By:  Katie Ide

Instructor:  Dr. Leon James

Instructions for this activity can be found at:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Leon James and Diane Nahl (2000).  Lecture Notes on the Unity Model of Marriage for G25. Unit 14.  Online at: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm

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I) Witnessing Dominant Model of Marriage

A) Gender Politics when it comes to sharing power

1) Man automatically has the right to say “No” to a woman’s perceptions and intuitions

B) By conducting joint activity, it unites two people in the external sensorimotor self

1) A man keeps separates thoughts and attitudes and is able to resist when she tries to change them

C) Men have a dominant role and a submissive role to a woman

1) Women are already stereotyped by society and norms to go along with the male being dominant in a relationship

II) Unity model of Marriage

A) Not even the slightest bit of hostility, negative feelings, anger, or disagreements between the couple

B) Both people are united from the affective level outward to the cognitive and sensorimotor

C) Organic deals with reciprocity and mutuality

1) Unit is working as one person

2) Reciprocal and mutual dependence of differentiated parts, each part is working to contribute to the whole

D) Women have the lead in certain parts of the relationship

1) The mans unrecognizable feelings of motivation

2) His feelings that are hostile to her

3) Men voluntarily submits to a woman’s pleadings and expectations

E) United internally at cognitive level and at the inmost affective level

1) The husband will allow his thinking to be influenced by his wife to achieve unity at the cognitive level

2) A husband will put his wife’s motivations and perceptions above his own in order to be one at the affective level

F) Lead role is given to the woman, from the man’s voluntary submission to the wife’s affections and her motivations

G) A husband has to acknowledge the ways he keeps himself affectively separate from his wife by doing something called self-witnessing

Related Links

1. Roles in marriage

http://www.xenos.org/books/mythmw.htm

I found this article somewhat interesting. It talks about the roles of marriage along a biblical sense; it talks about how men should be the spiritual “Head” of the marriage between him and his wife. When it comes to the women, it talks about how women must adopt the role of submissive leadership.

2. marriage as a weapon

http://www.backlash.com/book/marriage.html

This article talks about how men use marriage as a tool to control female sexuality and gain control over women. It’s not about vows and love, it’s basically about control. It talks about how a shift is happening when men used to think that women used marriage to control them. Now apparently the shoe is on the other foot

3. States of mind in marriage

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3600_state.html

This article points out three different states of mind women and men have during a marriage. Intimacy, conflict and withdrawal.

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