Psychology 409b
November 28, 2006
By: Katie Ide
Instructor: Dr. Leon James
Instructions for this activity can be found at:
http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm
Dr. Laura Schlessinger (2004). The Proper Care and
Feeding of Husbands. (Harper Collins Publishers, Inc.) Reviewing pages 119-142
I)
Frump syndrome
A)
Happens as soon as
marriage starts
B)
Almost always happens
after the birth of the first child
C)
Signs
1)
Comfortable clothing,
pajamas, sweat pants, oversized t shirts.
2)
Not wearing something
sexy for her husband
3)
Doesn’t bother to
shave her legs
4)
Doing her nails
5)
Doing her hair
6)
Putting on makeup or
smelling nice
7)
Not even the thought
of wearing sexy clothing
D)
Women are unhappy with
their marriage but don’t realize they are directing these things toward their
husbands
E)
These signs don’t have
to be physical feminine features but feminine behaviors too
II)
Perfection
A)
Men don’t want their
wives to be a 10+ to be happy
B)
A wife can make the
most with her marriage by showing her husband the effort needed to make sure
he’s satisfied
C)
Men enjoy the fact
that women show they care about “male nature”
1)
Visual stimulation
2)
Men like to see their
wife’s body in order to maintain their emotional well-being
3)
Men want their wife to
feel comfortable with her own body
D)
Oddly enough, men
don’t have a perfect scale to rank what the perfect body is.
Related Links
1. Women
on posters
This article talks about how women who are portrayed as sex symbols on posters are trying to counter the typical thought people have about seeing them on.
2. marriage as a weapon
http://www.backlash.com/book/marriage.html
This article talks about how men use marriage as a tool to control female sexuality and gain control over women. It’s not about vows and love, it’s basically about control. It talks about how a shift is happening when men used to think that women used marriage to control them. Now apparently the shoe is on the other foot
3. Men want perfect bodies too!
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3600_state.html
This article was somewhat funny to me but so true. We don’t hear a lot about how guys want the perfect body just as much as girls. I think we always focus about women wanting the perfect body and don’t think about guys wanting the same thing and having the same insecurities. This article was interesting and definitely gave a different viewpoint which isn’t very often touched upon.
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