Psychology 409b
November 21, 2006
By: Robyn Imose
Instructor:
Dr. Leon James
Instructions
for this activity can be found at:
http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm
Tannen,
Deborah (1996). Gender and Discourse. (New York, N.Y.:
Oxford University Press). Reviewing pages 149-161.
I.
Pragmatic
Relationships
A.
Pragmatic
Synonymy
1.
Using
different linguistic devices to accomplish similar goals.
2.
Johan
and Marianne both like to avoid confrontation and addressing the issue.
3.
Marianne
uses verbiage.
4.
Johan
uses sarcasm.
B.
Pragmatic
Identity
1.
Using
similar devices to accomplish similar goals.
2.
Both
Johan and Marianne avoid confrontation but suggesting to go to sleep on
different occasions.
C.
Pragmatic
Homonymy
1.
Using
the same devices to achieve different ends.
2.
Johan
and Marianne both display this when they both use endless questions when
talking to each other.
3.
The
difference is that they each uses endless questions for different reasons.
a.
Johan
uses it to mock Marianne.
b.
Marianne
uses it to avoid the real question at hand.
II.
Individual
Styles
A.
Johan
uses sarcasm, irony, generalizations, and abstraction in complex sentences.
B.
Marianne
talks and acts like a child, she puts herself down and will also use verbiage
and non stop questions in simple sentences.
C.
Both
of their styles have them avoid confrontations and they avoid the issues in
their relationships. This causes
them to distance themselves further and further away from each other.
Related
Links
Does
Sarcasm Belong In Our Relationships
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-religion/1609834/posts
This
article talks about sarcasm and its negative effects of people. I think that normally when I think of
sarcasm, I think of someone joking and I believe that this is the norm today,
because we see sarcasm on television being humorous. But this article reminded me of the power words can have on
people even if it was originally said to be a joke. The article gives good examples of how sarcasm can be
hurtful and how one sarcastic statement can impact a person for years. This article made me realize how
important it is to use sarcasm only when appropriate, if it ever is appropriate.
DonÕt
Avoid Conflict and Confrontation with Your Spouse
http://marriagepartner.com/relationships/844.php
This
article talks about conflict and confrontations in marriages. She believes that conflict and
confrontation is important in a healthy relationship. She actually encourages couples not to compromise. I thought this article was interesting
because although I believe that avoiding conflict and confrontation is bad, I never
thought that compromise was also bad.
In my own relationship I always tried to compromise when there was a
problem and things seemed to be better.
But I do agree with her when she asks Òhow long has your compromise actually
lasted?Ó because sometimes compromises donÕt end up lasting very long. Maybe itÕs because the partners don't
have to give as much, they slowly give less and less.
Sarcasm
in Relationships
http://www.aspirenow.com/smooth_09_01_junking_jurassic_communication.htm
This is
another article about sarcasm in relationships. He also agrees that sarcasm does not belong in
relationships. He points out one
definition that he read said something about Òa cutting or biting remark poking
fun at someone elseÕs vice or follyÓ which seems it is something you would do
to your enemy not your loved one.
He also makes some reference to Dr. Grottman who was also talked about
by Dr. Coleman in the book Lazy Husband.
My
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Class
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