Psychology 409b

December 2, 2006

By:  Robyn Imose

Instructor:  Dr. Leon James                

Instructions for this activity can be found at:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (2004) The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands. (Harper Collins Publishers Inc.). Reviewing Pages 119-142.

I. Frump Syndrome

A. Symptoms include wearing flannel pajamas and socks, or sweatpants with oversized T-shirts to bed, not shaving her legs, taking off her make up before her husband comes home, not grooming nails, using the toilet with him in the room, not wearing perfume around him and never putting on sexy outfits.

B. Women should be wearing girly nightgowns with lace to bed, have her nails done, freshen up her make up and take good care of herself for her husband.

C. Men are attracted to the femininity in women. Women play up their femininity while dating, but after marriage don’t put much work into femininity.

II. Romancing Your Spouse

A. Both men and women should romance their spouse.

B. Men don’t get enough romancing.

C. Men appreciate when their wives care about their “male nature” of visual stimulation.

III. Men and Sex

A. Men’s desire for sex is not just about a “release”.

B. Men wanting to have sex is wanting to be close and intimate with his wife.

C. Men feel hurt and rejected when their wives refuse to have sex with them.

D. Women should never turn down their husbands if he wants to have sex.

Related Links

Romancing You Spouse

http://www.familyfirst.net/marriage/romance.asp

This website give advice to couples of how to romance your spouse. I thought the article was good because it was not directing the information to either the man or women, but to both. Some things that they suggest is to surprise them with plans and to ask what the other likes that way you will be better able to do things that they like. I also like the advice they gave about this not only being a one time thing, but trying to romance your spouse on a daily basis.

What Men Want

http://www.sideroad.com/bridges/column10.html

I thought this article was interesting because not only did the article tell women to initiate sex, they also said that men want to feel connected while having sex and that sometimes women only focus on the pleasure, but men also want to feel connected. Which is what Dr. Laura was trying to explain, that men use sex to be close to their wives and not only as a release.

Men Want You to Look Great

http://www.aspirenow.com/smooth_10_00_what_men_want.htm

The article talks about what men want in a partner. The concept that caught my eye was “Men want to you look great” which is related somewhat to Dr. Laura’s Frump syndrome. Here the writer says that men want women to watch their weight, exercise, eat well, dress sexy etc. He says that looks count to being sexy because then we have confidence. Well I think that women can have confidence and be sexy at any size.

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