PSY409b Dec 5, 2006
AUVs are everywhere
By Paige Kim
Instructions for this activity are found at:
http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm
Instructor: Dr. Leon James
http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm
I.
AUVS
a.
Anti-unity value
= anti intimacy
b.
Often promoted
in the media
c.
Difficult to
move to unity if your relationship has AUVs
II.
Examples of AUVs in the media
a.
All of these
examples promote disjunctive behavior:
i.
Living together unmarried
ii.
Having children
out of wedlock
iii.
Making each
other jealous on purpose
iv.
Adultery for various
reasons
v.
Promiscuity and
bi-sexuality
vi.
Sexy dressing
for men other than one's partner
vii.
Having a same
sex best friend who is placed ahead of the partner or in competition for
certain things
viii.
Having a
heterosexual best friend who is placed ahead of the partner or in competition
for certain things
ix.
Same sex friends
going out as a group for fun and entertainment without their partners
x.
Flirting with other
gender as retaliation against one's partner (or other reason)
xi.
Etc… the rest
can be fount at: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm#Table%209
III.
Conjugial love
a.
People who have
before lived in conjugial love do not wish to marry
again after the death of their partner
i.
This is because
they are united and yearn for eternity
ii.
Also because the
two are not separated by the death of love
1.
The spirit of
the deceased continues to dwell with the spirit of the one not yet deceased
IV.
Lord’s Divine providence
a.
Most specific
and most universal in connection with marriages
b.
It is by fate,
by instinct, because when one is unaware of divine providence, that is when it
occurs
Related
Links:
I really wanted to include this link because it gives
a general background about Emanuel Swedenborg.
It talks about his life and his visions to learn about the spiritual
world. Swedenborg was a very ambitious
person and wanted to present a new idea everyday. The idea that was very profound and what we
have learned in class was his concept of “Conjugial
love.” Emanuel believes that “A
righteous marriage is intended to be a continuous spiritual refinement of both
parties, and such a union would be maintained in the afterlife.” Marriage is the union of wisdom (represented
by the man) and love (represented by the woman). I thought that this was a very informative
article about his life although it was very brief on his studies of marriage
and conjugial love.
2. How to have a discreet
affair
When I clicked on this link, it said the best way to
have a discreet affair is to do it online.
Then it leads you to an online dating website in which they claim a lot
of others are looking for affairs as well.
The site claims that “the key to a successful affair is keeping things
as discreet as possible.” I chose this
website because it illustrates AUV 4 (adultery). This site is encouraging you to have an
affair and basically promising you it will be kept a secret since it
online. Whether or not these people are
actually meeting is not the issue, it is still an affair. You are mentally abusing and cheating on your
partner. This is also disjunctive
behavior because you are keeping secrets from your wife.
3. 6 signs your
relationship is bad for you
This is a site that has some references similar to
the unity model of marriage. One of
their signs that the relationship is bad is jealousy. This is AUV 3. According to this article, jealousy is when a
person doubts the other person’s love or commitment. This makes me think about all the men that I
have dated who was jealous and in turn tried to make me jealous. They were doubting
my love and then intimidating me by trying to get back at me. Making each other jealous on purpose is an
anti-unity value and should be a sign that you need to get out of that
relationship.
Class
Homepage: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/classhome-g25.htm