Psychology 409B October 2, 2006

Is Dr. Laura for real?

By: Michael Malala

Instructions for this activity are found at

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Dr. Leon James

Leon James & Diane Nahl (2006). TOGETHER IN ETERNITY: The Unity Model of Marriage--Everyday I'm Yours More and More. (Lecture Notes Version 12a). Online at: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm. Reviewing Unit 9.

1. Dr. Laura: 3 letter by 3 husbands

A. Single women show thighs and breasts and wives dress like Eskimos

B. Sex is to a husband what conversation is to a wife

C. We need more sex. Once a day is fine

2. Wives should listen to their husbands so they can find out how to take better care of them

A. A man needs a clean house to come home to

B. A man needs a nice dinner to come home to

C. A man has the right to expect his wife to have sex with him when he wants

3. Unity vs. Dominance

A. The unity model focuses on the mental union of husband and wife as the primary interaction and physical interaction is second

B. The dominance model focuses on physical sex as the primary interaction and mental union as second

C. In the dominance model after a fight husbands want to make up by having sex

D. In the unity model there would be no fighting

4. Dr. Phil and Dr. Laura

A. Both doctors are always questioning the wife on why she isn’t having sex with her husband, like she is the problem

B. They should be asking the husband!

C. Need to go directly to the source of the wife’s aversion towards having sex with the her husband

D. Husband needs to find ways to make the wife feel like being intimate with him

5. 1,2 Step

A. Teach the husband that things can be fixed if he realizes that he’s the problem not her

B. Teach the husband on how to figure out what turns his wife “off”

C. In doing so learning how to turn is wife “on”

D. She wants to be intimate and passionate not some sex slave

Related Links:

Dream Job: Stay-at-Home Mom

I don’t know if you are going to like this article that I found but I did. It kind of shows men that it’s not a easy job by any means. Stay at home mom’s should saluted because they really do have it hard, from changing diapers to cleaning the house all the way to having dinner on the table when her husband comes home. One thing that really caught my eye was the 189,000 stay at home dads compared to the 11 million stay at home mom’s. I thought there would be a lot more stay at home dad’s then that.

http://www.salary.com/careers/layouthtmls/crel_display_Cat10_Ser253_Par358.html

Sex and love--or should it be the other way around?

It is true, there are very few people out there, now a days, who fall in love and get married before they have sex. That would be an interesting survey, I wonder what the numbers would be on that? I don’t necessarily agree that men are obligated to think about sex I think it’s biological. But why are women so different?

http://divorcesupport.about.com/cs/sexualissues/a/sexandlove.htm

Can fathering be taught?

I chose this article to show you that there are a lot of people out there trying to get rid of this out dated dominance model. I think it’s great for what this organization is doing, everyone could use a few pointers on parenting. Some of these classes also teach how to be a better husband.

http://www.gothamgazette.com/article/20060515/200/1851

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