Psychology 409B October
16, 2006
Power
struggle
By: Michael Malala
Instructions for this activity are found
at
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm
Dr. Leon James
Dr. Laura Schlesinger (2004). The Proper Care
& Feeding of Husbands (
1. “Help Groups”
A. Hanging with the girls also know as “male bashing
time”
B. When women get together they grip and complain about the inadequacy
of their husbands
C. Women don’t understand how simple men really are
D. How can so many women be angry with their husbands yet they expect to
have a
happy successful marriage?
2. Times have changed
A. Marriage used to be important, women used to search for “Mr.
right”
B. What happen to the values of religious morality, chastity, respect for
life, and a commitment to family and child rearing?
C. Today’s world has changed dramatically, there are multiple
marriages/divorces and abortions everywhere
D. The media has fueled the change tremendously with reality dating shows to celebrity make-ups to
break-ups
3. Micromanage
A. Husbands tend to give up when they try and help out and their wives
nit pick at the way their helping
B. The wives then have the nerve to complain when the husband doesn’t
help at all
C. Micromanaging is about control
D. The issue of control makes men feel inadequate, like they weren’t the
man of your dreams
4. Whose really in
control
A. When it comes to the home and relationships women
rule
B. But most in most situations women don’t realize their
power
C. Controlling and giving are opposites
D. Giving is a more powerful tool than controlling
is
Related Links:
Power Struggles in
Relationships
I chose this article because it focused on
communication in relationship. I think that if there is good communication in a
relationship then the couple can work through any problems that they might come
across. Also when there is good
communication in a relationship there will be no need to try and figure out who
holds the power.
http://healing.about.com/cs/uc_directory/a/uc_powerstruggl_5.htm
Arguing, Power Struggles and Emotional
Communication
This article goes along with the reading
perfectly. In the article there is a great example of a women being in control
and she doesn’t realize it. They
have a long distant relationship and when they talk on the phone she cuts him
off and they fight over the littlest things and of course she always has to be
right.
http://www.enotalone.com/article/1988.html
Relationships can be a bit of a balancing
act!
This article talks about open lines of
communication and a work-love-life balance. As I said before an open line of
communication is key and a relationship but a close second is “couple
time.” Couple time is the time you
have together whether it be movie night or a nice dinner and a show. Relationships are not easy and you
constantly need to work at them but making time for each other and good
communication will make the process a lot easier.
http://www.ivillage.co.uk/relationships/couple/commun/articles/0,,145_703026,00.html
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