Psychology 409b October 31, 2006

Elements of the Enead Chart

By: Michael Malala

Instructions for this activity are found at

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Dr. Leon James 

Leon James & Diane Nahl (2006). TOGETHER IN ETERNITY: The Unity Model of Marriage--Everyday I'm Yours More and More. (Lecture Notes Version 12a). Online at: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm. Reviewing Unit 15.

 

1. Beginning the life of conjunction

            A) Sensorimotor Dominance (SD) = acting physical with each other

            B) Cognitive Dominance (CD) = husband’s ideas/ decisions take precedence over wife’s

            C) Affective Dominance (AD) = the husband’s will is imposed on the wife

 

2. There is a pattern

            A) 1a à 2a à 3a is followed by 3b à 2b à 1a

            B) CD in zone 2a is not fully connected to 3a (just building up)

            C) When pattern 3b à 2b à 1b is complete the relationship is stuck at the dominance phase

            D) Cannot get out until husband decides to move into the equity model

 

3. Time to change

            A) Husbands realizes wife has human rights that he should cater to

            B) Path 4a à 5a à 6a à gets husband into habits where they negotiate outcomes

            C) Not good enough, must follow pattern 6b à 5b à 4b to ground him into affective equity

            D) He now must respect his wife’s views and opinions as much as his own

 

4. This is not the end

            A) Wife doesn’t want to negotiate all the time

            B) She wants husband to understand how she wants to be treated

            C) She wants him to grant all of her unspoken requests and desires

            D) Couple is stuck

 

5. Almost there

            A) Husband begins to think of relationship as going on into the afterlife

            B) Eternity together means total conjunction

            C) Following the final pattern 9b à 8b à 7b the couple reaches celestial marriage

 

Related Links:

 

People tell their stories: family and relationship issues

I chose this article because it gives a lot of good advice on things you can do to help better your relationship.  So pretty much it can help the husband realize that it’s not okay to be stuck in the dominance model. I really liked the five C’s; the 5 C's are commitment, communication, cooperation, collaboration and coordination. The advice in this article is helpful to people at all levels of marriage.

http://www.gmrdesign.com/lifechallenges.org/people/cocreation.html

 

Building a “Good Relationship” Story

I chose this article because it references stories pertaining to relationships.  When I think of stories I think of the ending where it usually ends, the lived happily ever after.  What do people mean by that expression, happily ever after until they died or happily ever after until the end of time? I want my wife and I to reach the celestial marriage level so I know we will be together forever.

http://www.relate.org.nz/article_000060.asp

 

What I learnt from a bad relationship. Stories of courage and resilience

Not every marriage or relationship is perfect; you are not always going to find the man or woman of your dreams that is why I chose this article.  This article talks about divorce and break ups, these things happen.  I chose this article to show that if you are unhappy with the way things are going in your relationship you might start thinking about finding someone better.

http://lifestyle.indiainfo.com/relationships/divorce/bad-relationship.html

 

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