Psychology 409b November 28, 2006
Got to do what you got to
do
By: Michael Malala
Instructions for this
activity are found at:
http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm
Instructor: Dr. Leon James
Coleman, Joshua Ph.D.
(2005). The Lazy Husband. (
1. How to structure a complaint
A. Begin with an appreciation
B. Say how serious the situation is on a scale of one to
ten
C. Use non blaming language and ask for suggestions on a
solution
D. And finally take responsibility for your end of the
problem
2. Stonewall
A. Women hate when men shut down or withdraw
B. Shutting down breaks all ties of communication in a
relationship
C. Shutting down also puts the relationship on a dangerous
course
D. Men need to open up to their wives and give them a
little more attention
3. Affection
A. Grab her by the hand while the two of you are walking
down the street
B. Give her a daily hug
C. Offer her a massage at least once a week
D. Take her face in your hands and tell her how much you
appreciate everything she does for you
4. It’s a marathon not a
sprint
A. Most divorces happen when the children are still
young
B. It’s a hard period of time where couples face a lot
obstacles and a lot of stress.
C. On the average men need to change if they want to be in
a successful, healthy, loving relationship.
D. Women are doing a lot more in the household then their
male counterparts
Related Links:
Being a Good
Spouse
This article has a great list of things that women can do to
make their husband’s return home extra special. As I was reading through the list I must say that it
would be nice to come home to that ideal house and family every night but in the
real world it’s very unlikely. Most
people cannot afford a house keeper or a quick visit to the Lancome counter and the rarely have time to relax for
fifteen or twenty minutes when the children need dinner and they have homework
that needs to be done.
http://www.re-marriage.com/articles/article-5.htm
10 Easy Ways to Not
Get Dumped
I stumbled upon this article because the title caught my
eye. It’s actually relates to my
outline perfectly it talks about things that the husband can do to make his
relationship with his wife smoother. Some of the suggestions on the list are
quite funny you should definitely take a look.
http://www.americaninventorspot.com/self_improvement
Should You Treat
Marriage Like a Job?
This article talks about how men stop trying because they
think their wives expect too much. To me that’s lame because there basically
giving up without putting forth any effort at all. At least sit down and tell
your spouse how you feel about all the pressure that is put on
you.
http://www.marginalrevolution.com/marginalrevolution/2006/01/secrets_of_marr.html
My Homepage:
http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bf2006/malala/malala-home.htm