409b November 24, 2006

Characteristics of Husband’s Discourse

By: Michael Malala

 

 

Instructions for this activity are found at:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Instructor Dr. Leon James

 

Leon James and Dr. Diane Nahl (2006). Lecture notes version 12A on the Unity Model of Marriage, Everyday I’m Yours More and More. Reviewing Section 17a Part 4 Pages 75-77. Online at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm 

 

1. The Affective Self Controlling the Cognitive Self

A.     Husband’s Cognitive Self, he does all of the thinking

B.     Dominance (Focus on self), think women are less intelligent then men

C.     Equity (Focus on topic/task), he hides his feelings to control her

D.     Unity (Focus on wife), he thinks his views are not as important as his wife’s are, he tries to adopt and understand her views

 

2. Husband’s Affective Self

A.     Motivates what we are thinking and saying

B.     Dominance, loves to dominate more than being intimate with wife

C.     Equity, loves to keep a hold of some of his independence, resists conjoining to wife making her suffer

D.     Unity, loves mental intimacy with his wife as a woman, loves to learn how to make his wife more important than himself

 

3. The Affective and Cognitive Self Controlling the Sensorimotor Self

A.     Husband’s External Sensorimotor Self, effect what we think and feel, for example words spoken and tone of voice

B.     Wife’s External Sensorimotor Self, through her sensorimotor self (or external sensations) she can identify what her husband is thinking (cognitive) and feeling (affective).

C.     Dominance Model, interrupting the wife and calling wife degrading names, using body gestures to intimidate wife

D.     Equity Model, when talking he still tries to defend his rights/views he also lies to control wife

E.      Unity Model, he tries his best to talk in a friendly manner towards his wife, does not interrupt her, and is always interested towards her.

 

 

 

Related Links:

 

I'm Not Sure If I Know How to Treat a Lady

I chose this article because it’s just a regular Joe talking about how to treat a woman.  He makes some pretty good points through out the article but I think he is focusing on the how to attract a woman not focusing on how to maintain a relationship.  I know finding a woman is hard work but I am pretty sure it’s a lot harder to keep her.

http://www.theonion.com/content/node/33972

 

How to Treat a Lady

This article got on my nerves a little bit because it talked about how once you get the girl of your dreams by dressing up nice, cleaning your house, and acting like a gentleman you can stop doing all of those things because she’s your’s now. Hopefully the woman will not stay around long after he changes. 

http://www.writing.com/main/view_item/item_id/1123680

 

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