Psychology 409b (Tuesdays) November 20, 2006

Psychology 409b (Tuesdays) November 20, 2006

Outline 9: A man needs respect in the home, but so does the woman

By: Ashlee Matsui

Instructions for this activity are found at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (2004). The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. (New York, N.Y.: Harper Collins Publishing, Inc). Reviewing pages 143-160

I. Callers

a. Spitting child in the parking lot

i. Sick child riding with grandmother (maternal)

ii. Grandmother yelled at him when he spit in the parking lot

iii. Father angry and mother took her mommies side in argument

b. The cat incident

i. Wife wants another cat and husband greatly against it

ii. Dr. Laura tells her that she seems to want the cat more than she loves her husband

iii. Imposing on her husband

c. give and take relationship

i. both the man and woman need to feel that they matter a lot to each other

ii. it is important that they do not try and over power each other in the relationship

iii. men have general nature to please and live for their spouses approval

d. The truth about chicken

i. Caller: her husband hated chicken due to a past childhood experience but she kept feeding it to him telling him that it was turkey since he did not have a problem with turkey

ii. Dr Laura’s reaction: stop feeding him chicken and cook him the turkey that he wants and thinks he is eating if not he will feel betrayed

II. Anti-males

a. Men are people too

i. Men should cater to women’s various moods and have a sense of humor about it, but not all men are like that

ii. Submission

iii. Women grumble about doing all of the household chores but they don’t go to their husbands job and do their work for them

b. roles

i. no respect from society

ii. female nature to nest and nurture while male nature to protect and conquer

iii. study found that defying traditional roles in society may lead to heart disease

c. my husband the listening board

i. when a wife is done grumbling then she feels better about the situation

ii. but the man wants to help her solve her problems, not only listen to her grumble

iii. he is supposed to be the sensitive husband

d. destructive nature

i. stop and think about it

ii. there is much abuse that stems from a woman that is directed toward her husband

iii. fact is that wives are controlling

iv. sitcoms use this as a plot and everyone laughs about it

v. nitpicking at little things

e. venting to the children about their father

i. undermines relationship father has with child, bonds

ii. disrespecting the husband

iii. but mother feels child has a right to know what their father is like

iv. caller also wanted child’s sympathy

f. preparation of next generation

i. show the man that he is respected in the home

ii. treat him like he’s “the man”