Psychology 409b September 28, 2006

Outline 2: Unity 5

By: Makalapua Monteilh

 

 

Instructions for this activity are found at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm

Instructor: Leon James

 

Leon James (2006). Seminar on the Unity Model of Marriage for G25. Section 5. Online at: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/409b-g25-lecture-notes.htm

 

I.                    Unity through reciprocity

A.     Man must give up equity power and give into the woman’s way of thinking.

B.     Man should willingly let the woman take lead in decision making when it comes to the relationship.

C.     If woman asks man to stop talking to old friends, without rational reason, and man disagrees, he’s putting a hold on affective growth.

    

II.                 Sensorimotor Conjunction

A.     Man often takes lead and exerts dominance role.

B.     The woman follows in order to keep the relationship going.

C.     His motive is to please himself; her motive is to get the relationship to a deeper level.

D.    All her efforts are to harmonize with the man and please him

E.     Women have a superior perception and understanding of the relationship.

 

III.               Cognitive Conjunction

A.     At this level, the woman takes the lead

B.     It’s more visible than affective conjunction because it’s displayed in their agreements and disagreements.

C.     Women strive to conjoin the man to herself at the affective level.

 

IV.              Affective Conjunction

A.     Man has aligned his feeling with this woman.

B.     Society allows a man to retain affective independence.

C.     Man is expected to love and be loyal to her but not to give up his own independent feelings.

 

V.                 Love of the sex (hellish)

A.     To love sex.

B.     Love of the sex by humans is very similar to the love of sex by animals.

C.     Exploitative because it’s tied to love of self and world for the sake of self and world.

D.    There is no love of others for the sake of others.

E.     Known as natural love

 

VI.              Love of one of the sex (heavenly)

A.     To love a person sexually.

B.     A mental operation in the affective organ.

C.     The love of others for the sake of others.

D.    It’s spiritual, monogamous and eternal.

 

 

Related Links:

 

ETERNAL MARRIAGE

I found this page to be interesting because it gave insight on the LDS and their perspective on eternal marriage.  The Mormons believe that

we are able to enjoy eternal marriage if we live righteously here on earth.  Not only can a husband and wife be together for time and all eternity

(in the afterlife) so can siblings.  An entire family can be sealed together for time and all eternity if they live according to the laws of the land and

follow the teachings of their gospel.  I thought it related to the Unity Model of Marriage that we’re studying because both believe in eternal marriage

and there are certain steps that one’s needs to attain in order to achieve and enjoy such a marriage.  I too believe that eternal marriage is something

that a couple and family can enjoy in the afterlife.

 http://www.lightplanet.com/family/marriage/eternal_marriage.html

 

HEALTHY MARRIAGES ARE GOOD SOCIAL POLICY

This article talks about how broken marriages may lead to poverty, social problems, gangs, and violence.  It suggests that instead of trying to remedy

the social problems, maybe funds should be given to help keep marriages together.  How would this be done? After given funds, programs would be

created to inform people on the value of marriages on men, women and children.  The Healthy Marriage Initiative would teach couples good marriage

skills to help build stronger relationships.  It would focus mainly on low income areas where crime rates and single parents are common.  This article

caught my attention because I never looked at marriage having such a big impact on other things.  I know to some extent, it affected individuals, but I

never took a social perspective on it.  At once, I believed a couple should work things out for the kids, I’m not so sure where currently stand on this issue now, but

I do believe that marriage skills may benefit them and help with their issues.

 http://www.allianceformarriage.org/site/PageServer?pagename=HealthyMarriages

 

MAINTAINING A GOOD MARRIAGE

This article gives couples advice on maintaining a good marriage and what to do when problems arise.  They say that most problems are fixable and that a lot of

effort should be put in fixing it.  It explains that your spouse should be your best friend and that one should tell the other everything.  This type of interaction is

good for the couple and helps bring the couple closer.  This closeness may help the spouses see certain pet peeves that irritate them.  It says that spouses need to

be patient with each other and not let such petty things get in the way.  Marriage isn’t only about being in love, it’s about communication and helping each other.

I was interested in reading this article because I was anxious to read what kind of tips they’d give married couples.  Marriage isn’t an easy thing to maintain and I’m

interested in hearing other’s perspective on it.

http://marriage.families.com/blog/maintaining-a-good-marriage

 

 

My Homepage:   www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bf2006/monteilh/monteilh-home.htm

 

Class Homepage:  www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/classhome-g25.htm