Psychology 409b Nov 12,
2006
Men…Men…Men
BY:
Makalapua Monteilh
Instructions for this
activity are found at:
http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/g25-oral1.htm
Instructor: Dr. Leon James
Coleman, Joshua Ph.D. (2005). The Lazy Husband. (
I. What’s with Men Anyways?
A.
Men prioritize
their careers over their families
B.
Men’s childhood
affect their view of themselves
C. Biological
differences shape men’s perspective and behavior
II. Status
Seekers
A.
Status
determines the quality of the women they attract
B.
Most people
define a man’s success in economic and social status
C. Although they
stated that they value their families over their job, they fail to put these
priorities to practice
D. Men may have a
fear of being stigmatized
E.
Men worry that
spending time at home instead of work may decrease their
status
III. Are
Men Wired to Care Less About Parenting?
A.
Men’s lower
investment in child-rearing may have something to do with
Paternity
B.
Women know who
their children are but men are not 100 % certain
C. Men wouldn’t
want to be contributing to the survival of someone else’s
genes
D. Women apparently
push men to be more involved
E.
Men in the
F.
Women’s
communication is geared toward intimacy and consensus building while male’s
communication is geared toward preserving feelings of
independence.
IV.
Communicating in Marriage
A.
Women feel more
disadvantaged in conversations with men because they expect
reciprocity.
B.
Men sometimes
seem more self-involved than women because of the way they
listen
C. Men seem more
self-centered in conversations.
D. Males of all age
groups use far less eye contact when communicating
Related Links:
Why we Strive for Status
This article talks about how
males were more assertive than females at 13 months, more aggressive than
females as toddlers and more competitive at almost any age. They suggest that men aren’t the only
ones who crave status, they just go about it in a more
aggressive way. I found this to be
true because I know a number of females who are status seekers but I know they
don’t act the same way as males and choose that over their own
family
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/3068971/
May Men Still Abdicate Their Parenting
Roles
In this article, they
explain that men still underestimate the importance of male parenting within the
family. In the 1800, most manuals
and books were directed at man but as industrialization advances, men were removed from their homes causing them to
be less involved. Society has come
to accept the fact that men are the bread winners and therefore shouldn’t have
to participate in child-rearing, but the article suggests that it is imperative
that the husbands take on the male parenting role. I know that males must be involved for
both the wife and the children’s sake.
http://www.psychologyhelp.com/fmly167.htm
Parenting Together: Men and Women Sharing the Care of
Their Children
There were interviews done
with 40 shared parenting couples who have chosen non-traditional setups to split
the parenting chores. Most say that
it has helped dissolve the division of labor and raise their children in a
non-sexist way. The men in the
interviews love parenting and do as much as the females, except breast feed
them. Many are jealous of the bond
formed between the mother and the child due to breast feeding. I found this article very interesting
because it’s rare to come across fathers who are more involved with their family
than with their job and who love doing it.
If there were more males like this out there, women would have nothing to
complain about.
My Homepage:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bf2006/monteilh/monteilh-home.htm
Class Homepage:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy25/classhome-g25.htm