Outline of My Second Oral Presentation

Anger Management

This is a presentation of Before Marriage and After Marriage by Peter M. Buss

Chapter 14

By Wing Kin Fan

Instructions for this oral presentation are found at:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy22/g22-oral.htm

1) Zeal vs. Anger

-anger is evil while zeal is good

-they may seem the same, but they are reaching the opposite goal

-the only way to determine them is the result

-anger is only a personal selfishness, while zeal is actually a bonding to

maintain the relationship

2) Spillover Effect

-spillover effect is one of the sign of anger, not zeal

-often when we say we forgive somebody’s faults, we don’t

-when spillover effect is going on, whatever you see will be negative

-problems are meant to be solved, not to be covered

-fight the anger, do not fight the person

3) Silence, silence, and silence

-first level: when you’re angry but do not want to express it out, you keep

silence

-second level: after the first level, you wait to see if your partner is going to

do something about it, you keep silence and wail

-third level: after the second level and your partner still didn’t do anything,

you feel nothing worth to talk about and you keep silence again

-anger is destructive; one has to restore the damages

-before saying anything, admit it; confess your mistake

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