Outline of My Second Oral Presentation

Paths To The Perfect Marriage!

This is a presentation of The Unity Model of Marriage by Leon James (2004)

Section 16 and 17

By Hiroko Kikuchi

Instruction for this oral presentation are found at:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy22/g22-oral.htm

1. My way is your way!

• Dominance Phase – The wife need to complies with husband’s demands. If not, the wife might be punished emotionally or physically.
• Threefold Self (Diagram)

- 1a: Sensorimotor – External physical behaviors such as talking.

- 2a: Cognitive – The wife needs to think like how husband’s thinks.

- 3a: Affective – The wife needs to satisfy her husband.

• Example: Which restaurant to go to? What kind of movies to watch? Who has control over the TV remote… and so on.

2. Stable Marriage

• Equity Phase – The husbands realized and acknowledge the wife’s right.
• Threefold Self (Diagram)

- 4a: Sensorimotor – The husband takes out garbage when the wife asked him to.

- 5a: Cognitive – The husband accept some of the wife’s request and reasoning

- 6a: Affective – The husband shows respect and care for his wife.

* The husband could go back to dominance phase whenever.

• Example: Which restaurant to go to? What kind of movies to watch? Who has control over the TV remote… and so on.

3. Unity Model

• Unity Phase – Total union, unity, and conjunction.
• Threefold Self (Diagram)

- 7a: Sensorimotor – The husband takes actions according to what his wife needs.

- 8a: Cognitive – The husband think like how his wife thinks.

- 9a: Affective – The husband satisfy his wife’s needs.

* The husband could go back to equity or dominance phase whenever.

• Example: Similar to honeymoon phase. The husband complies with the wife.

Helpful Links

http://www.completemarriages.com/

http://www.no-problem-marriage-counseling.com/

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/

My Homepage

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bs2005/kikuchi/home.htm