This is my fourth outline
This is an outline of “Gender Discourse”
by Deborah Tannen
Page161-171
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Example: When the couples discover that neither of them is satisfied in their
sex life. One become visibly upset, and the other withdraw from the
conversation using “Let’s drop this talk”. Both partners use similar methods to
end their conversations.
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I think that many
couples use this method to end their conversations, and I think that reasons to
use this method could be varies such as;
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The couples don’t care about
each other no more
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Irresponsible (not willing to
take actions to fix things) and so on.
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Example: Conversations about
the couple’s divorce between Marianne and Johan.
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Marianne = try to reveal her
ideas by throwing many questions.
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Johan = try to create more
distance by using sarcasm.
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This is when the
partners use different talking methods to achieve similar end.
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“Avoid Real Issue”
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Example: When Johan is about
to tell Marianne that he is leaving.
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Marianne uses verbiage (talk
non-stop) to avoid taking real issue.
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Johan uses pontification (not
polite) to avoid talking real issue.
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I think that women tend
to talk indirect when she wants to avoid real issues, but wish to express her
feelings. In contrast, men use his power and use pontification to avoid or try
to create distance from his partner.
Helpful Links
http://www.georgetown.edu/faculty/tannend/
http://www.geocities.com/Wellesley/2052/genddiff.html
http://www.members.tripod.com/Caroline_Bowen/devel1.htm
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