Outline of My Third Oral
Presentation
Table 8 and Table 9
This is a presentation of The Unity
Model of Marriage by Leon James (2004) Section 20.
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy22/409b-g22-lecture-notes.htm
By Tiffany Lee
Instructions for this oral
presentation are found at:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy22/g22-oral.htm
A. Table 8 demonstrates the interactions between husband and wife and states that disagreements are not tolerated within the unity model
B. Ex: “What restaurant to go to – Dominance model: Yes; Equity Model: Yes; Unity Model: No
1. Yes = tolerates at times a difference or disagreement about that issue
2. No = never tolerates a difference or disagreement about that issue
C. The majority of responses to items within the unity model are “no”
1. Couples see any degree of disagreement as a potential threat to their unity
2. They work to re-align their thought patterns to match those of their partners (mostly done by men)
II. Table 9 – Anti-Unity Values (AUV’s)
A. Table 9 lists the many AUV’s that frequently occur in modern media (primarily television)
B. Ex: “Accepting the idea that it's OK to "agree to disagree" about some things”
1. This contradicts everything the unity model strives to achieve
2. If partners agree to disagree, this means they are not aligned in their thoughts or feelings
C. Ex: “Promoting the idea that one should not try to change one's partner but should accept them with their faults, etc.”
1. The lack of influence partners have on each other prevents them from achieving total unity
2. Instead, partners should strive to become what their partner wants them to become – this is the way to achieving unity
III. Quotes from Emmanuel Swedenborg
A. Living in truly conjugial love
1. Partners who achieve unity do not wish to re-marry, even after death
2. They understand that marriage is eternal and continues after life on earth
B. Reciprocal love
1. Partners realize that their two bodies complement each other and are needed to complete themselves individually
2. Each have traits (women – love, men – intellect) that create a whole person
C. Finding love on earth (or in the afterlife)
1. The Lord provides a partner for everyone
2. If they are not found during life on earth, then the Lord provides them in Heaven
Related Websites:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/theistic
www.swedenborgdigitallibrary.org/marr/marrint.htm
My home page: www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bs2005/lee/home.htm