Outline of My First Oral Presentation

Understanding the concepts of the threefold self of Unity Model Marriage, gender differences, and roles of the sexes.

This is a presentation of The Unity Model of Marriage by Leon James (2004) Section 1, 2. www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy22/409b-g22-lecture-notes.htm

By: Heidi Nakamura

1. The Unity model of Marriage is based off the 18^th century writer E. Swedenborg that deals with the concepts of the threefold self: semimotor, cognitive, and affective self.
2. Deborah Tannen who wrote the book Gender Discourse states that women are more aware of feelings and motivation than men and this creates a gender dynamic when the woman pushes her partner (man) to become as in touch as herself.
3. Dr. Laura Schessinger that wrote the book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands put emphasis on inequality, in which that men function on a simplistic level and women must cater to their desires and needs for them to function properly.

1. #1Swedenborg www.swedenborg.com.au/default.htm
1. Wrote Conjugal Love the basis for Leon James Unity model of marriage
2. Writings influenced the early anti-slavery movement
3. Well known for his spiritual philosophies

2. Unity Model of Marriage By Leon James
1. Sensorimotor Self: actions activities enjoyed by a couple.

a. Example: going to the beach, tennis, cooking together etc.

b. Involves communication, talking, expressions, sensations.

2. Cognitive Self: deeper existence of personal beliefs and thought processing

a. Example: experiencing and expressing how we live our life weather it is important to always be on time, go to church every Sunday etc.

b. Sensorimotor is governed by the Cognitive Self.

3. Affective Self: Deepest and most determinate component that deals with primary needs and satisfaction.

a. Example: The deep rooted beliefs such as, there is a God.

b. Strong driving forces with in a person that are not easily swayed.

c. Sensorimotor and Cognitive Self are governed by Affective Self.

3. Threefold Self
1. The Components of growing up in which sex, culture, and experiences have shaped a person.

a. Gender typical roles

b. Religion

c. Race

d. Personal Choices and experiences

e. Stereotypes

2. These components can be applied to the Unity Model of Sensorimotor, Cognitive, and Affective Self.

a. Sensorimotor: cruel words, racist violent acts, gendered violence etc.

b. Cognitive: Thoughts fueled by underlying beliefs, thinking racist thoughts, thinking of women as sex objects.

c. Affective: The actual feelings that onset the actions and thoughts, core belief that woman are worth less than men etc.

A.#2 Deborah Tannen’s book Gender and Discourse www.georgetown.edu/faculty/tannend/

a. Woman spend more time and energy focusing on feelings and motivations.

b. Women and Men have equal degree of feelings

c. Women are more aware and conscious of there own feelings and emotions.

d. Women tend to prod there male partners for this Affective Self information.

e. Men become irritated with a woman’s prodding and creates strain on the

relationship.

f. Tannen’s book analyzes verbal interactions of the male and female sexes and

how communication can unify them or create conflict.

A.#3 Dr. Laura Schlessinger’s book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands www.world-of-celebrities.com/laura_schlessinger/

a. This book serves a different view than the unity model favoring male

dominance.

b. Some views from the listed website about her books are:

1.”Stay at home” moms are the best parents. Dads should work, moms should not.”

2. “Teenage girls who wear crop tops and other revealing outfits are sluts.”

c. Her main view is for a wife to adjust to her husband’s needs and put aside her

own.

Websites:

http://www.unityworldhq.org/

http://www.christianitytoday.com/marriage/

http://www.smartmarriages.com/

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