Psychology 409b, April 14, 2006
Outline #4, Presentation #3
A Love Like No Other
By Ryken Ako
P.M. Buss. "Marriage love: The vision and its realization" How to build a marriage, from day one. www.swedenborgproject.org/page.cfm?pageid=173
Instructions for this activity are found at:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy24/g24-oral1.htm
Instructor: Dr. Leon James
A. This book identifies three essential concepts of marriage.
1. Marriage is forever, in heaven after death.
2. Marriage is the most perfect love two people can have.
3. Marriage is from the Lord and therefore it can be trusted to keep on going.
II. Rules of Marriage
-Swedenborg says that the rules of marriage are the same rules as those by which we get to heaven. He says that the principles of marriage and those of the Christian life are the same.
A. Honor
1. Marriage is a promise and this bond should be treated with the utmost respect.
B. Integrity
1. A couple that marries in a Christian way will not look for love outside of their marriage.
C. Honesty
1. Be truthful with each other and not say things like “I hate you” to the person that you love the most just because you wish to hurt your partner.
III. Rewards of True Marriage Love
A. Innocence
1. When two people love each other, they often act with the innocence that many children have.
2. A couple may enjoy playing with one another and may have an openness of feeling with each other.
3. Married partners can learn to ask the things of love and to offer them with total trust.
B. Peace
1. Tranquility is described as married partners not having to worry about competition and knowing that your partner will not stop loving you. A partner will always care and be there to support you during tough times in life.
2. Peace is deeper than tranquility. Peace is described as doing good things with your partner and never as a competitor amongst each other. It is also the working together as a team in regards to the events of life and the wonderful feeling inside of you when you know that no angry or hurtful feeling is going to come between you.
C. Friendship
1. Married partners learn to share aspects of themselves with each other. They essentially learn to become friends as well as marriage partners.
2. Confidence is often brought about through gaining a friendship with your partner.
D. The heartfelt wish to do whatever good things you can for your partner
1. Concern for the mind and body of your loved one.
2. This concern is the most tangible blessing of a complete love.
Related Links:
1. http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Plains/8218/marriage.html
This website discusses the aspects of a Christian marriage. It contains various articles that deal with the principles that are associated with a Christian marriage. This site discusses marriage that continues for all eternity and also addresses marriages that may be going through difficulties.
2. http://www.marriagedivorce.com/
This is another website that deals with marriage from a Christian perspective. This site contains letters that have been written to pastors and the pastors’ responses to those letters. It is also emphasized in here that marriage is a lasting bond and that divorced is strongly discouraged.
3. http://www.westarkchurchofchrist.org/library/christianmarriage.htm
This website takes a look at the development and different aspects of marriage by citing specific passages from the bible. Topics discussed include the divine origins, patterns, and purposes of marriage.
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