PSY 409B, May 3, 2006

Outline #10 – What’s Sex?  

By: Anthony Lagondino

Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr, Laura Schlessinger (Harpers/Collins Publishers, 2001) pages, 138-152.

Instructions for this activity are found at:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy24/g24-oral1.htm
Instructor: Dr. Leon James

I. Sex in Marriages

a. In a marriage, wives should try to accept all sexual advances from their husbands in order to keep a happy marriage

b. In order to keep the sex life interesting, women should be open to experimentation

i. If a wife wants to keep her husband from cheating she should satisfy him sexually

c. Men do not always want to be the aggressor

i. Women should make more sexual advances

ii. Men have called into Dr. Laura’s radio show and expressed they would like their wives’ to be the aggressor

II. A man needs to be respected in order to show love

a. The more respect a wife shows her husband the more he will love and respect her in return

b. A wife should also not disrespect a husband in his own home; this belittles him

c. Wives should also not side against their husbands

III. Women make life hell for men

a. Wives should respect their husband’s opinions and not go against their husbands word

b. Women sometimes try to deceive men on purpose for their own gain

c. Women should not use their homes as an excuse for their actions

IV. Who is responsible for the chores?

a. When a man has  a full-time job he should be able to relax a little at home

b. Stay at home mothers have a lot of responsibility so husbands should want to help

Related Links:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5045_qa.html - This link takes you to Marriage bUilders.com. This specific portion of the website has a question and answer portion where Dr. Harley answers some marital concerns.  I found it relevant because it had a question about how men feel they should be excused from doing chores because they helped “last week.”  It is a slightly different take from Dr. Laura’s but similar principles are touched upon.

http://marriage.about.com/cs/time/a/chores.htm - This link takes you to About.com and the discussion of chores.  The thought that the fact that chores are the main topic that instigates fights in marriages I found very interesting.  I also thought this link related to the section of Dr. Laura’s book because it does touch on the concept of who is responsible for the chores.

http://honeymoons.about.com/cs/firsttimesex/ht/pleasehusband.htm - This is also an article on About.com.  I think that if Dr. Laura read the information in this article she would be smiling wildly.  It is all about how a wife should satisfy her man and what she should sexually.  The section of the book that I outlined also touches on the subject of women submitting to their husbands’ sexual desires.

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Class Home Page:  www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy24/classhome-g24.htm