Tannen

Schlessinger

James

Swedenborg

Takashi

Power

One is subordinate to the other

Women shouldn't misuse their power

Power is shared until the unity model where the wife guides the husband

Power in heaven is given to those whose heart is truly interested in the good of the people

Husbands need to trust in the guidance of their wives for power to most effective

Interruption

Interruption as dominance.  Depending upon the culture and the context interruption may be viewed as either dominance or solidarity

Women spend too much time complaining and interruption is often seen as “nagging”

Interruption is usually viewed as dominance.  However, if a husband is in love with a woman who appreciates interruption.  He should allow the wife's judgment on the matter to guide their interactive style

Those who achieve conjunction will live together harmoniously and interruption is not a part of their reality, not a part of their heaven

It is best that when love is guiding a relationship, couples will not have a need for interruption and harmony will prevail.      

Conversation Style

Men choose to engage in conversation in a style that might be interpreted as being disinterested

Women get overly attached and bring up past issues. Men keep women at a distance unless it involves physical intimacy

Husbands should be in tune to their wife's needs and set aside time on a daily basis for face to face communication and affection

The degree to which couples interact will vary in heaven, but, the all couples in conjugial love will have a strong degree of attachment and engage with each other in an interested fashion

Conversational style is highly personal and unique.  It will always be best to have a more engaged and interactive style

Underlying Discord

People often try to create surface harmony by "sweeping things under the rug."  The underlying discord will remain

Men often sweep things under the rug to avoid "nagging" from their wives. 

Every issue must be dealt with and not ignored. Husband needs to align himself with the wants and desires of his wife

Couples who have conjoined have managed to do so by connecting at all levels with no disjunction whatsoever

Truly conjoined couples will have no place for underlying discord to exist

Dominance

Dominance is sometimes communicated via indirect mean

Women should comply with their men's wishes and be thankful for having them if they bring home a paycheck and not engage in an affair. 

Dominance is never communicated within the Unity Model of Marriage. Mental intimacy is the primary goal.

There is no place for dominance to exist when conjugial love in heaven is filled with the greatest joys one can ever experience.  

There is no good in dominance in a relationship.

Expected Outward Appearance

Women have to smile to be viewed positively while men do no

Women should dress in a flattering way and take care of their bodies for their husband

Women who choose not to smile may be unhappy with their husbands lack of mental intimacy, and it is the husbands responsibility to connect mentally with his wife before asking for physical intimacy with her.

Husbands and wives will recognize each other in heaven and see each other as they did at young ages

It is a form of control to expect wives to meet their husbands at the door dressed in a certain way for a husband's enjoyment with no thought of what a wife's needs may be