Psychology 409B March 16, 2006

The Conjugial Sphere

By Lisa Tabon

Reverend Jungé, Robert S., A Name of Glory and Honor, Ref 6d, http://www.swedenborgproject.org/page.cfm?pageid=181

Instructions for this activity are found at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy24/g24-oral.htm

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

I. The Conjugial Sphere

a. The conjugial sphere flows in from the lord and is received by the female sex

b. It is then transferred to the male sex

c. Where there is love truly conjugial, this sphere is received by the wife and the husband solely through the wife

II. The Shared New Will

a. Both men and women possess understanding and will

b. Men=understanding predominates; Women=will predominates

c. Character is dependent on that which predominates

d. The will of the wife is also the husband’s will; the understanding of the husband is also the wife’s understanding

e. Each loves to will and think like the other mutually and reciprocally

III. Love to the Lord and the Conjugial

a. True conjugial love is from the Lord alone

b. True conjugial love in its first essence is love to the Lord

c. Love truly conjugial cannot be given except by the Lord

d. Each of the marriage pair loves the other as good loves truth and truth loves good, thus representatively as the lord loves heaven and the church.

IV. The States of Conjugial Love

a. Innocence

i. Genuine conjugial love is innocence itself, which dwells in wisdom

ii. Man is in the affection for knowledge, intelligence and wisdom, and woman in the affection for loving these in the man.

iii. When man reaches conjugial love it is as if he is reborn like that of an infant

iv. With this rebirth he acquires new knowledge, intelligence and wisdom from his wife which she loves him for and nurtures for the growth of the relationship

b. Peace

i. It is the very essence of all delight from good

ii. Happiness of love and soul arising from the conjunction of the lord with heaven and the church as well as the conjunction of good and truth

iii. Good and truth is conjugial love; this is why through conjugial love, man has peace

iv. Can only be granted to those who can be joined together by their hearts

c. Tranquility

i. It is the offspring of peace

ii. A man has to withdraw his mind from the physical world

iii. By doing this he comes into an interior light and tranquil state; from this the mind is immortal

iv. When man can accept immortality, he can accept the idea of an eternal marriage

d. Inmost Friendship

i. The conjoining of friendship and love

ii. Inmost friendship is continual and constitutes the heavenly delight of companionship

iii. Conjunction increases as friendship conjoins itself to love

iv. As husbands from wisdom love chastity and friendship so they are sensible of the delights of conjugial love communicated to them by their wives

v. Love is the image of one in the other, not an image of person but of quality; this is friendship’s love

e. Full Confidence

i. Love truly conjugial conjoins the souls and hearts of two, it is also united with friendship, and through this with confidence and makes them both conjugial

ii. Confidence in the lord brings tranquility and peace

iii. Husbands can learn from the opposite

1. self-confidence and the belief that he is wiser than all others attacks confidence in marriage

2. for he is unable to weigh and explore himself because he believes he knows everything

iv. In struggling for full confidence wives are too often confronted with the non answers of self intelligence

f. Mutual Desire of Mind and Heart to do Each Other Every Good

i. Conjunction of marriage (good and truth) comes from creation

1. man was created to be understanding of truth and woman to be the affection of good

2. through marriage, man becomes a form of love

3. it is from creation that all things of the husband, both of his mind and body, have their mutual in the mind and body of the wife

ii. the soul of the wife is the husband and the love of the husband is the wife

iii. To will to become one flesh is conjugial love; and such is the willing, such is that love