PSY 409B – January 31, 2006

Sensorimotor, Cognitive, & Affective Conjunction

Naomi Wong-oral 1

 

 

Dr. James, Leon; Dr Nalh, Diane; Unity Model of Marriage ver. 11c, University of Hawaii, 2006, sections 5, http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy24/409b-g24-lecture-notes.htm

 

Instructions for this activity are found at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy24/g24-oral1.htm

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

 

 

A.     Cognitive and Affection in marriage

1.      The wife’s dept of perception of a situation is different from a man’s in order to be reciprocal to it.  This means that the two pieces of a puzzle fits together.

2.      Women have a greater awareness of feelings and emotions because of biological, socialization, experience, interest, and spiritual structure.

3.      For the Unity Model, the man has to voluntarily give up equity power and affective independent giving the woman the power in the relationship.

4.      Example:

A man is friends with his ex-girlfriend, and is planning to meet up with her.  He tells his wife this and she rejects the idea.  He doesn’t see the reason why this is a bad idea, but she does on the other hand perceives that something is going to happen to bring separation into the Unity Model.  The wife senses something on the Affective level and knows something might happen in the Cognitive level.  She doesn’t have to give a rational explanation or tell why she feels that way.  She is trying to protect their marriage.

 

  1. Sensorimotor, Cognitive, and Affective Conjunction

1.      Sensorimotor- physical activities: eating, playing, hugging, talking

a.       The man usually takes the dominant role

b.      The woman follows to keep the relationship going because she has a higher motive in moving to Affective conjunction

c.       Example: man asking a woman out, starting to put arm around the woman, and she moves in.

2.      Cognitive- humor, thinking

a.      Woman usually takes the lead

b.      She learns about the man’s humor, way of thinking, and tries to make him happy in order to harmonize with him

3.      Affective- man’s feelings are aligned with his woman

a.       The man have to give up his traditional role and expectations

b.      Society view:

 For Man:

Yes

No

1. Provide need

1. Be dependent on her for his feelings, motives, ambitions

2. Love her

2.  Give up independent feeling and striving

3. Be loyal to her

 

4. Be decent to her

 

5. Support her

 

 

For Woman: Love her mate, and be dependent on him for her feelings and emotions

 

  1. Difference in Men and Women

1.      Women surpass a man in perception, understanding, and consciousness.

a.      Biological nature- anatomy is different

b.      Rational nature- thinking can’t possibly be exactly the same

c.       Spiritual nature-difference in affective self

2.                Affective independent of Man- unwillingness to give up his thinking and traditional/social ways to achieve higher level of consciousness, intelligence, and wisdom

 

  1. Difference between Affective self and Sensorimotor self and the cycle it’s in

1.      People usually get confused between Affective self and Sensorimotor self because both use the word, “feeling.”

2.      Really, Affective is the feeling of the mind and Sensorimotor is the feeling of the physical body.

Examples:

 

Sensorimotor

Affective

1. Physical pleasures (all five senses)

1. Feeling good about the situation

2. Enjoyable sensations and movements

2. Feeling hesitant or resistant

3. Feeling calm, cool, and collected

3. Feeling afraid or scared

4. Being physically attracted to someone

4. Perceiving something that’s good or bad

5. Health

5. Feeling guilty, embarrassed, ashamed

 

3.      The cycle in order: Affective self, Cognitive self, Sensorimotor self, and Affective self.

4.      The Affective always comes first in the sequence.

a.      Affective self is motive, goal, and desire

b.      Cognitive self is thought process, thinking, reasoning, planning out, organizing

c.       Sensorimotor is the physical moving in getting things done

Example:

Eating a candy bar.

Step 1: (Affective desire from mental organ)-“I want to eat the candy bar.”

Step 2: (Cognitive plan)- “There is a candy bar in my pocket, and I am going to get it.”

Step 3: Once the affective and cognitive is connected, the hand (Sensorimotor) reaches in to the pocket for the candy

Step 4: (Sensorimotor action)- “So I am going to reach into my pocket to get it.”

Step 5: (Affective motive)- “Aww…I can’t!  I’m on a diet.”

 

5.1 Sexuality: Love of the Sex vs. Love of One of the Sex

Part A. 

1.      Sex is on everyone’s affective organ, which is also different between male and female.

2.      There are two forms of sex: Heavenly sex (love of one of the sex) and Hellish sex (love of the sex)

 

Hellish-love of the sex

Heavenly-love of the one of the sex
  1. to love the activity
  1. to love a person sexually
  1. lowest point we share w/ animals
  1. rational consciousness which animals don’t have
  1. Lowest portion of the natural mind sexuality is indiscriminate, non-exclusive, and temporary
  1. In the affective organ of the spiritual and celestial mind is exclusive, monogamous, and eternal
  1. man=sensorimotor experience
  1.  
  1. attitude=love of self=altruistic sex, the world for the sake of self, and the world
  1. attitude love of others for the sake of others
  1. “Roaming”-non-exclusive
  1.  
  1. Natural love
  1. Conjugial love

3.                  Two intense and passionate forms of sex:

Natural-sensuous

Spiritual-sensuous

Non-exclusive

Exclusive

Feel good with many people, not just one

Feel good with one chosen person

Usually men-social view

Usually women-social view

 

 

Part B.

1.      If couples have a positive deeper feeling after loving at the natural love level, they can then enter into conjugial love.  However if the couples have a negative deeper feeling, they would separate and go their own way.

2.      The destinations of the couples may be, both in heaven, both in hell or one in heaven and the other in hell.

3.      The ones that go into hell suffer, and this section explains how men suffer from sexual activities.

 

Part C.

1.      A man’s semen- his DNA, “A man’s soul is in his semen,” which means his spiritual organ

2.      It also talks about what happens if men have more than one wife on the external state, but he either has to take one or none in the internal state.  This refers to the Christian law.  Same thing goes for the woman.

3.      The consequences of where we end up, heaven or hell, depends on our internal feelings and motives rather than our external.

 

My Thoughts:

 

            This section of reading made me realize why mothers are so involved in everyone’s lives and how they know what’s going on most of the time in the children’s lives, the husband’s lives, their friends’ lives, and their own life.  All the emotional awareness and the differences between a man and a woman do work like a puzzle piece.  She is the one who moves the relationship and keeps it going.  She is the one who wants everyone to be happy and wants harmony in the relationships she has.  I agree with the stereotypes portrayed by society.  It’s a shame that we put certain characteristics on people because if a man steps out of the frame, it either makes him too much of a man or makes him look weak.  It looks like a woman’s job in the relationship is hard work or difficult because of all the things (and people, especially her man) she has to keep in happy or in harmony (peace).  One of the main things that I struggled with in this section was the three self cycle.  I understood the physical (sensorimotor) and the cognitive (mind) part, but when it came to the affective, I just didn’t know where the feeling came from.  Eventually I learned from Dr. James that there is a separate self of mental organs that give and begin these feelings.  It makes sense that something of a higher level gives sensation to the body.  This is the drive and motivation for the person.  Moving on to the sex section, I thought this was very well explained.  I knew there was a difference in sex between people.  I knew of the love because man and wife, and the physical pleasure of sex between two people.  The difference explained by Dr. James makes sense to me. Once again, heaven and hell was brought into the picture and I then I was a bit confused on that and about multiple soul mates because some people remarried.  I think that there needs to be more explained about the after life and who a person will end up with if they had more than one marriage.  However, what is presented there gives the person a choice to choose, but I’m thinking there is something else that I don’t know what it is.

 

 

Links:

http://www.ewtn.com/library/ISSUES/ZMANWOMN.HTM

This link is about Q and A from a Catholic point of view of the relationship between a man and a woman.  They use biblical scriptures to support their reasons, which are interesting.  They also compare the relationship of a husband and wife to God and his church.

 

http://www.webbmt.org/EngHTML2/Woman-Man's%20Completion.htm#4%20MAN%20AND%20WOMAN%20IN%20MARRIAGE

This link explains false views of a marriage and explains the relationship between a husband and wife from a Christian point of view.  It also talks about divorce and how the couple should treat each other.  There are many aspects of marriage brought up too.

 

http://www.guilford.com/excerpts/baxterEX.html

This link is an observation on men and women monologues that relates to the cognitive level.  It evaluates the quality of the monologues, the time, conversations, and other factors, which can determine “how close” and man and woman can be.  It also brings up dependence, interdependence, and independence from the other person. 

 

My Home Page:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bs2006/wong/wong-home.htm

 

Class Home Page is:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy24/classhome-g24.htm