PSY 409B – March 27, 2006
States of Conjugial Love
Howard, Rev. Geoffrey, Principles Relating to the
Selection of a Marriage Partner, The Swedenborg Project, 2005,
Ref 6d, Junge, Rev. Rovert S., “A name of glory and
honor”, 2005, www.swedenborgproject.org/page.cfm?pageid=181 and
Ref 6e, Schnarr, Rev. Frederick L., “The seed of man, ”
2005, www.swedenborgproject.org/page.cfm?pageid=104
Instructions for this activity are found at:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy24/g24-oral1.htm
Introduction:
The man receives conjugial love only through the wife. She is the born with the sense of achieving conjugial and has a mission to help the man find it too. When she find a man, she teaches and nurtures him in way to direct him in that direction so that they can enter the states of conjugial love together. The conjugial relationship is constant because both is loving each other more and more.
States of Conjugial love: Innocence, Peace, Tranquility, Inmost Friendship, Full Confidence, and A mutual desire of mind and heart.
1) Innocence: A child-like innocence in which a child seeks truth and good
a. This is when the husband reaches enlightenment and is reborn, like that of an infant. This enlightenment is new knowledge, intelligence, and wisdom from his wife, which she loves him for and nurtures for the growth of the relationship.
2) Peace: The happiness comes from the conjunction of the Lord with heaven and the church, and the conjunction of good and truth. This peace can only be granted to those who are conjoined together.
a. This is why a husband has peace through conjugial love with the help of his wife.
3) Tranquility: A state of external peace
a. When a man withdraws himself from the physical world, his mind comes into a tranquil state and thus this mind becomes immortal.
4) Inmost Friendship: The increase in conjugial love as friendship conjoins itself with love. It is continual and constitutes the heavenly delight of companionship.
a. Without friendship and love together, the love fades. A person sees his other half as a friend, which is to see the qualities in that person beyond the physical.
b. The wife is natural at this because she is born being more sensitive and more loving.
5) Full Confidence: Conjugial love conjoins the souls and hearts of two; therefore, it’s united with friendship and through this with confidence.
a. Confidence in the Lord brings tranquility and peace, so without this confidence there can be no tranquility or peace.
b. If there is ever conflict in the relationship, the wife will be the first to realize the loss of confidence and communication in their relationship.
6) A mutual desire of mind and heart: The soul of the wife is the husband, and the heart of the husband is the wife.
a. The man is born of an internal love and external wisdom, while the wife is born with an internal wisdom and external love.
b. This is how they are able to complete each other. Each of the person brings out the other’s inner character.
Sex: This is the physical unity of the couple. It’s the man passing his seed (sperm) to the woman is a gift. The first time the couple is united through sex, the man becomes a husband and the woman becomes a wife.
My Thoughts:
I thought that these two readings were very difficult to read. There were so many deep writings to comprehend that I had to read it more than three times to understand it. But I don’t think I really fully understood everything. All the states in conjugial love seems somewhat complicated for me because there’s more things that are deeper than what’s on the surface of a relationship. Learning that there is an eternal place is “out there” already, but to learn that there are six stages in reaching that place is just mind-boggling. What I found most interesting was the “Inmost Friendship.” We all start out being a friend on the surface and slowly move onto to knowing each other’s habits, likes, dislikes, and now a totally deeper level of intimacy of love. The couple’s love is dependent on each other for growth and support. They move from superficial friends, to close friends, to best friends, to lover, and then to soul mates in eternity. It’s like a pebble dropping into a pond of water and seeing it from the side of the pond watching it going deeper and deeper pulling back behind it.
Links:
In this link
http://www.theheavenlydoctrines.org/static/d6295/209.htm
It talks about what happens when two people break the commitment or vow they made on their wedding day. The Lord is also a large fact in the couple’s relationship. He tells that a person should never marry anyone who was divorced.
In this link
http://www.newchurch.org/resources/vineyard/2006feb/readings/Sermon_Obtaining-Conjugial-Love
Rev. Geoffrey explains Swendenborg’s experience of when he went to heaven. There are many interviews of the angel couples that explains what “conjugial love” is.
In this link
http://www.baysidechurch.org/Studia/studia.cfm?ArticleID=112&detail=1&VolumeID=37&AuthorID=54
Carl Yenetchi explains the Swendenborg views by focusing on gender, literary style, cultural biases, marriage levels, and applications of understanding all that he talked about.
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Class Home Page is:
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