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Schlessinger, Laura, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Harper Collins Publishers, Inc., 2001, pages 124-137

Instructions for this activity are found at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy24/g24-oral1.htm

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

A. Men finding pleasure with his wife visually

Husbands like to see his wife dress and undress
He loves her body the way it is, but sometimes when the woman lets herself go he may be turned off
Wives have a responsibility keep up her physical and emotional standards for her husbands such as looking beautiful, looking sexy, and looking physically fit for him.

B. Men finding pleasure with his wife physically

Husbands want their wives to satisfy them physically
They want to be able to hold their wives in his hands and feel like she wants him.
Men need to be satisfied with sex because they have hormones and urges. Wives should be the ones to satisfy them enough to keep him happy, healthy, and home.
Even if the wife doesn’t feel like giving him sex, she should because he does his part outside the house working and earning the big bucks.
Many women are busy with being a mom or someone else that she neglects being a wife to her husband. This is when the wife says she’s tired and doesn’t feel like having sex.
When wives deprive their husbands of physical loving, he feels rejected, hurt, and unwanted. This empty love results in an unsatisfying marriage.
In some cases, when husbands aren’t getting sex or satisfaction from his wife, he might start looking at porn or else where for sexual satisfaction
Sex is a connection between the husband and the wife. For men, sex brings him emotionally closer to his wife, and for women, sex is the result of the marriage.

My Thoughts:

I think that when it comes to sex, couples shouldn’t focus on sex as oppose to their relationship. I see sex as a result of their love for each other physically, mentally, and emotionally. Whatever they do in their daily lives together should have some physical satisfaction such as smiles, hugs, kisses, etc. In addition to the physical happiest, there are the mental encouragements and compliments that make a person feel good about himself or herself. When a couple first comes together, it is their first union of love. From there after, sex is something they share sacred. Husband should not ask too much from his wife. For example if the wife is tired or doesn’t feel like having sex when he wants to, he should find out why she doesn’t want to and not feel rejected. He should connect with her mind and help find a way for her to be happy. If she is happy he will be happy. For the wife, if the husband doesn’t feel like having sex, find out the reason why before judging. Neither of the two should do something they shouldn’t unless they want to. Another thing is if one wants and the other doesn’t, sometimes it’s better to give in to make one happy and maybe in the process both will be happy.

Links:

http://themarriagebed.com/pages/problem/desire/turn-him-on.shtml

This link explains insight on what a man’s view of sex is. Another thing it talks about a woman’s appearance and how a wife’s appearance is the only one the husband is really interested in. It also gives many ways for wives to turn her husband on and satisfy his sexual drive.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11348283/site/newsweek/

This links talks about what the man or husband can do that correlate with sex. One thing that makes the man happy isn’t just the sex; it’s the woman’s interest in the sex. This article also brings up many questions that interview men and their thoughts in a relationship, family, and women.

http://seattlepi.nwsource.com/books/263460_husband18.html

In this link, it is an interview of 70 husbands on why they marry, their feelings, their thoughts on giving their wives sex, etc. These are in-dept interviews where husband express their emotions about how their love is for his wife. It also brings up their sexual life.

My Home Page:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bs2006/wong/wong-home.htm

Class Home Page is:

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy24/classhome-g24.htm