Psy 409B: The Unity Model of Marriage-April 29, 2007
Unity 18 & 19
By: Jamie Gomes
Instructions for this activity are found at:
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy26/g26-oral1.htm
Instructor: Dr. Leon James
Online at: http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy26/409b-g26-lecture-notes.htm
Unity 18
1.
Happiness
according to the Ennead Chart
a.
Dominance:
Self-centered sensations like being pleasured by partner
b.
Equity:
Intellectualized sensations with equal pleasure; one doesn’t give more than the
other; you give to receive
c.
Unity:
Altruistic sensations with desire to pleasure partner
2.
Unhappiness
according to the Ennead Chart
a.
Dominance:
Having to pleasure the partner, being abused or intimidated
b.
Equity:
Not receiving as much as you gave, feeling competitive and arguing without
resolution
c.
Unity:
Not pleasuring the partner, thinking they’re not perfect for each other, seeing
the partner as independent
Unity 19
1.
Contrasting
the Three Phases
a.
Within
the Unity model, there aren’t many disagreements or differences between the
couple when considering everyday issues such as how to deal with family, money,
what friends to socialize with, what to eat for dinner, or choosing a
movie-they see any small disagreement as a threat to their unity
b.
The
other two phases tolerate disagreements and differences and choose to work
towards peace and comfort
Related Links:
1.
Decisions
in Marriage-http://marriage.about.com/od/loveisadecision/a/decisions.htm
a.
This
article is about what decisions should be made together. It stresses the many topics that were brought
up in Table 8 that are classified as “important” and need to be agreed upon
such as parenting styles, money spent, where to live, and future plans. It pushes for equal decision making to be
done.
2.
Recipe
for Happiness in Marriage-http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=46357
a.
This
article pushes more of the dominance and equity phases by telling the reader to
make yourself happy, and you can make your spouse happy. They also go on to say that pleasing your
husband will make you happy as well.
3.
When
Marriage is a Pain: Happiness and Healing-http://love.ivillage.com/lnm/0,,michon_8zkc2p25-3,00.html
a.
This
article basically discusses study done by a researcher from the