Psychology 409B, January 25, 2007
Outline 1: The Unity Model in Marriage
 Jenna Kawasugi

 

Instructions for this activity are found at:

www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy26/g26-oral1.htm

 

Instructor: Dr. Leon James

 

James, Leon. (2007). Lecture Notes, The Unity Model of Marriage for G26. 1. Introduction: Till Death Do Us Part or Till the End of Eternity?  Online at:
http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy26/409b-g26-lecture-notes.htm#Introduction#Introduction

 

 

Outline 1: Unity 1

  1. Unity 1, Part A - Unity Model of Marriage
    1.  “Threefold self”

                                                               i.      affective- feeling states (emotions)

                                                             ii.      cognitive- thinking processes

                                                            iii.      sensorimotor- sensory and motor functions of behavior

    1. Unity Model of Marriage- 3 Phases

                                                               i.      Dominance Model- male dominance in the relationship

                                                             ii.      Equity Model-give and take, equality in the relationship with the man reverting to the dominance phase at times, “Until Death Do Us Part”

                                                            iii.      Unity Model- men have to want to become spiritually connected with their spouse and completely believe in the idea that they will be together in the afterlife, women can also force the men to conform to the unity model without the man reverting back to the previous stages because she/he are the most important beings to one another, “Until Endless Eternity”

    1. Three Levels of Unity

                                                               i.      First level – sensorimotor consociation – what the couple does together externally or socially

                                                             ii.      Second level – cognitive affiliation – how each thinks and to what extent they agree in definitions and beliefs

                                                            iii.      Third level – affective conjunction – what they feel for each other and whether they are striving for the same goals

    1. “conjoint self” (a.k.a. “soul mates”)

                                                               i.      “Reciprocal union of the marriage relationship, when it is based on the unity model.”

    1. “conjugal” and “conjugial”

                                                               i.      conjugal

1.      natural marriage (life on earth with the physical world and body, mortality) – “Till Death Do Us Part”

                                                             ii.      conjugial

1.      spiritual marriage (afterlife, mental and spiritual body) – “Till Endless Eternity”

  1. Emanuel Swedenborg Reports
    1. Empirical data as proof of “the existence of the afterlife in the spiritual world of heaven and hell” 
    2. Conjugial Love (1768) – confirmation arguments of the existence of marriage

                                                               i.      A person lives on as a person after death.

                                                             ii.      A male is then male and a female is female.

                                                            iii.      Each person retains his own love after death

                                                           iv.      The chief love is sexual love, and in the case of those who reach heaven, that is, those who become spiritual on earth, it is conjugial love.

                                                             v.      These facts have been fully confirmed by eye-witness.

                                                           vi.      Consequently there are marriages in the heavens.

                                                          vii.      The Lord’s statement that after the resurrection people are not given in marriage refers to spiritual weddings.

  1. Unity 1, Part B
    1. Negative and Positive Bias

                                                               i.      Negative Bias

1.      ruling out scientific validity without evidence, an inability to think “outside of the box” and accept scientific statements as valid

                                                             ii.      Positive Bias

1.      the ability to accept the possibility that a scientific statement (ex. Swedenborg Reports) are valid scientific statements, after examination of the evidence you conclude the statement is valid or not, “The positive bias merely says that it’s possible that they are valid.”   

    1. Unity Model

                                                               i.      Male must be spiritually enlightened

1.      willing to think of his own relationship with wife as eternal

2.      love relationship continues in the afterlife, no parting- ever

3.      if he believes wife is eternal soul mate, then can self motivate to declare himself for the Unity Model and strive to achieve it

 

Related Links:

1.)  About Emanuel Swedenborg and his work (http://www.swedenborg.com/)

It is a non-profit publisher of Emanuel Swedenborg’s work.  At this site you will find many links to explore his background in a biography, a collection of his books translated into English available for purchase if you would like to continue researching his findings, his theologies, etc.

 

2.)  Online Library of Swedenborg’s Books (http://www.swedenborgdigitallibrary.org/) 

            This site enables you to read Swedenborg’s books online without having to purchase them.  For example, you are able to read his book, “Heaven and its Wonders and Hell From Things Heard and Seen (http://www.swedenborgdigitallibrary.org/contets/HH.html) all 603 pages by clicking on a few links free of charge.

 

3.)  Religious Integration of Swedenborg’s Philosophies (http://www.crosswalk.com/family/marriage/1460287.html)

            This website promotes the belief in an afterlife.  It also reinforces the notions of Swedenborg’s philosophies that unity is first becoming a complete person, then conjoining with your “soul mate” into an endless eternity in the afterlife.  Two separate people conjoining as a whole.  The idea of 50/50=100%.

 

 

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