Report 6
“Spiritual Unity”
By: Rebecca
Alexander,
Brandon
Nacapoy, Josie
Garcia, Kimberly
Ushijima
Psy 409B, Spring 2008, Generation 27
Dr. Leon
James, Instructor, University of Hawaii
Class
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Section 1: Lecture Content
Lecture
Notes 11:
The Spiritual Dimension to the Unity Model
SS: Spiritual Sun
H: Heat
L: Light
A: Affective
C: Cognitive
The
Spiritual Sun is like our sun on earth: it provides heat, light, and warmth.
Heat provides Good which in turn translates into nutrients that allows one to
grow and feel Affectively warm and whole. Light provides Truth, being able to
see what is true and honest in others. In order to obtain truth we must think
about it cognitively and adopt it as our positive bias.
A: Affective
C: Cognitive
S: Sensorimotor
2: Spiritual Marriage
1: Natural Marriage
In
Natural Marriage, women’s external Affective organ is conjoined to the
man’s external Cognitive organ, which means woman’s love is
connected to
men’s wisdom. In Spiritual Marriage, his internal Cognitive organ is
conjoined to her internal Affective organ; his love is connected to her wisdom.
There are two biases of Psychology, Negative and Positive. The Negative
Bias deals with materialism, non-theistic psychology which does not allow one
to keep their mind open to perspectives of alternatives. The Negative Bias also
believes that the physical world exists- only natural marriage, not an
afterlife or spiritual marriage. Positive Bias incorporates theistic psychology
and the works of Emmanuel Swedenborg, allowing one to keep open mind in
scientific and empirical studies. Unlike the Negative Bias, Positive Bias
believes two worlds, a physical life now, and a mental life later, a spiritual
marriage, “until eternity.” Swedenborg (1688-1772) believed that we
should be given the choice, to choose a positive or negative bias that way we
can be intellectually savvy and decide what is better for ourselves, instead of
excluding anything that does not follow with your thoughts on the matter.
If a couple reaches level 2: Spiritual Marriage, then they are considered
to be soul-mates because they both have the same ideals and feelings in their
relationship. Like does not join with like, men and women who have different
mentalities are able to fit together, they are reciprocal. To reach total
spiritual interdependence between a man and a woman is what we seek to
complete. Swedenborg was able to meet such couples over the 27 years he had
dual consciousness. The man and the woman formed one angel, their faces were
one in the same, one masculine and the other feminine. If one spoke it was if
it came from the other, if one left, the other lost their composure and
intelligence. They are one in the same, they complete each other. I feel that
this is a sweet representation of the unity that they represent, that they form
one angel- represented by their reciprocal bond.
Once our physical bodies “die” we are soon resurrected 30
hours later into our mental minds. To reach heaven, one must practice
“heavenly” traits, by negating their “hellish” thoughts
of not thinking ego-centrically or being irrational. Couples who did not
release their hellish thoughts were placed into their own forms of hell, in
deep, dark forms of hatred towards one another. Heavenly couples on the other
hands are able to be in harmony and peacefulness with one another.
The only way to reach Unity is to believe and work with your partner to
achieve that status. The male may become hesitant in the process of reaching
Unity due to him wanting to dominate her and have his own way, how he wants and
when he wants it. He does not want to have to sit down and compromise, or
ultimately nod and agree to her wishes and actions. It must take time and
practice from both male and female, with plenty of appreciation and patience. A way for a man to understand and adapt to his woman, he must practice
self-witnessing. He must monitor what his mental organs are doing: his feelings
(A-Affective), Thoughts (C-Cognitive) and sensations and actions (S-Sensorimotor). By practicing this, he will begin to
understand that her actions are best and are meant to be beneficial for their
relationship.
In spiritual marriage, his understanding is conjoined to her will, not
his own. He then learns to love acting from his wife’s will. It takes
time and understanding for a man to agree on all accounts with a woman, so he
will practice conjugial simulation. He might inwardly disagree with his wife,
but outwardly agree with her. She might take notice of this, but she
understands that he is trying so she lets him learn this for himself. This is a
win-win situation, because he will outwardly be agreeing with her, which will
make them both happy.
Lecture
Notes 19: Exercise 19.2: Spiritual Marriage (or Eternal Marriage) Anatomical Conjunction of
Mental Organs of Husband and Wife
According
to Swedenborg, there are seven reasons why after one partner of a conguial
couple passes away, the other will not remarry.
1. Because they have been United in respect
to their souls
They are one, his external Affective organs are connected to her external
Cognitive organs, his love is conjoined to her wisdom. Their souls are
connected as one. They are conjoined through both Cognitive conjunction and
Affective conjunction which allows their souls to be one: they are soul mates.
2. Because they have been united also in
respect to their bodies
All levels of Unity are matched in their relationship: Sensorimotor,
Affective and Anatomical Conjunction. Their touch, thoughts, and bodies are
perfectly aligned and that their souls are conjoined together in their
spiritual marriage.
3. Because an atmosphere of her love
Her love is conjoined
to his wisdom, their perfect presence and being conjoins with one another again
and again which reinforces their union in the Unity model of marriage.
4. Because married partners are so united
They strive for Unity
in life as well as in heaven, and their Conjugial love allows them to reach
their Unity. It takes them through
the stages of Male Dominance, Equity and finally Unity.
5. Because in consequence of the foregoing
they are no longer two
Their love and commitment
to one another through reaching the Unity model allowed their souls, minds and
bodies to become one. Much like how Swedenborg saw couples as angles, their
souls messed into one, when he saw one speak- it was like their words were
coming from the other’s lips.
6. Because such a oneness cannot be sundered
by the death of the other partner
The other is with the
surviving spouse throughout eternity. The passing of one’s death will not
be able to break the foundation of their relationship with the other. Their
physical body is gone, yes, but their mental mind is still alive and allows the
couple to still be one.
7. Because the two are not actually
separated by the death of one
The spirit of the recently departed will live on with the remaining
spouse, living on with the other in heart “they have never really gone.”
And once the other’s body physically dies on earth and is resuscitated,
they will be conjoined once again to their spouse. They will continue to have
their spiritual marriage now in heaven, being together until eternity because
they reached Unity.
If one is not
conjoined in the Unity model of marriage with their soul mate, then one will be
provided for them when they reach heaven. Soul mates are born for one another,
they are groomed and prepared for their marriage with their spouse, and if they
are not able to meet in life, they will be placed together in the afterlife.
This is dedicated and possible by Devine providence; their similarities are
what conjoins them together.
The remaining
spouse may choose to remarry, however, this marriage will not be in conjugial
love, because he has already discovered that with his previous wife, one can
not have more than one soul mate. If he chooses to remarry, this relationship
will now be considered an external relationship. It will be an External union
being the case if young children are involved in the family, a new parent might
be issued to ensue proper care and nurture to the children. This relationship
will not reach conjugial love, their love is simply a natural marriage, not a
spiritual marriage.
My Opinion
I feel that these
represented findings of Conjugial couples are consistent of what I learned and
how I felt the Unity model of marriage should be. I find it appealing to know that
if I were in a Conjugial relationship with my spouse and he passed away, our
union would still be conjoined through our spiritual marriage. If I adopted
Unity with my spouse I could see it possible for me not to remarry, and for him
not to remarry either- since we are soul mates and no one else can replace our
bond that we had formed in life. It
is often hard to find the “one” in life since many of us are
working and going to school, sometimes there is no time to be searching for
your soul mate. And if this is so, it is appealing to hear that a person has
been created just for you, to enjoy and surround in perfect harmony. I am still
looking for my soul mate. It is important for me to know that there will be
someone special waiting for me, somewhere, sometime, in the near or far future-
It does not matter because it will be worth it to reach Spiritual Unity at some
point in my life- or after life.
Every aspect of a
man and woman are interconnected, their minds, bodies, spirituality, loves,
desires, needs are all designed to fit perfectly together. I hope to be happy
in every aspect of my life with my relationships with others. It is also amazing
to learn that our mental minds are consistent with our minds right now- they
are one in the same. So all of our sensory feelings and emotions will still be
the same, we will just be without our physical bodes. Our Spiritual Sun will
replace our sun now, giving us warmth and light which will affect and guide our
feelings and thoughts. It is comforting to know that life will be warm with our
soul mates waiting for us in heaven.
Section 2: Team Presentation on Readings
By: Josie
Garcia
Yogi covered the Lecture Notes sections 11 and 19 for the readings oral
presentation. Section 11 covers the
Spiritual Dimension to the Unity Model and Section19 covers Examples
of Anti-Unity Values. O’Connell
covered a report from Generation 23 by Susan Ventrucci. In this report she covers a few topics,
but our discussion was focused on the views of books by Joshua Coleman, Laura
Schlessinger, and Deborah Tannen, and how they compare to lecture notes by Dr.
James.
Yogi summarized for us the Swedenborg reports, and his findings while
living a dual life both in the Physical and Spiritual worlds: the worlds in
which we exist in mind and body. He
gives us the great news of increased happiness in the Heavenly realms, and the
conjoint couples he spoke to. There
is also hope for those who fail to find their soul mate in this life. Some
couples Swedenborg spoke to were united in Heaven, after death. He sees what he refers to as
‘angel couples’ which is how couples appear as their conjoint
self. He also reports on
the hellish realms we may fall into if we do not let go of all hellish thoughts. We must choose to keep all heavenly
thoughts, and lose all hellish thoughts.
Yogi also talked about the male and female roles and the ways in which
males and females express themselves.
A big topic to understand is the difference between anger and zeal. These two emotions can appear the same
on the surface, zeal can often be confused for anger. In reality, Zeal is a woman’s
passion for affective intimacy and the conjugial relationship she so desires
with her husband. A man often
reacts to zeal with anger in the male dominance and equity stages. In the unity
stage the male wants to understand and have a positive reaction to the zeal of
his wife.
I think whether in a relationship or not, we all struggle with hellish
traits in this life, I hope to not have to struggle with them in the afterlife.
I also find it comforting to know it is possible to find a soul mate in the
afterlife if we are not blessed enough to find one here on earth.
Section 19 of our lecture notes consists of a list of Anti-Unity
Values. Yogi agreed with the
majority of these, but questioned a couple. This led to a class discussion on
the list and why or why not the values agreed with the Unity model. She believed a couple could still find
unity, even if they were living together or having children together while not
married. I feel that marriage is a
symbol of your commitment to your spouse.
If you are unwilling to commit yourself to someone, you will probably be
unwilling to become completely united with them on the cognitive and affective
levels. However, I do believe each
couple has to do what is right for them, and we are all different in what makes
us happy. I think this list makes a
lot of sense, and whether or not you are striving for unity, these are good
rules to follow to have a happy relationship.
A popular topic of discussion this semester has been number 13 “Accepting the idea that it's OK to
"agree to disagree" about some things.” This is still something that I also struggle within the Unity
Model. I understand the concept of
complete unity in order to be the conjoint self, but I find it hard to believe
a couple can truly agree on every single aspect of life. We all have opinions, and I find it
unfair to expect the male to always give up his in order to please his
wife. Disagreements, when approached
calmly and openly, can make for great discussions and learning
experiences. It’s how we
enrich our lives by seeing things through another’s eyes. I just don’t see how this can be a
bad thing all the time.
|
|
Author believes gender relationships are based partly or all on
biology |
Author believes gender relationships are based partly or all on
society |
Author believes one partner exerts dominance over the other in some
form |
|
Tannen Gender
Discourse |
NO |
YES |
NO |
|
Dr. Laura The Proper
Care and Feeding of Husbands |
YES |
YES |
YES |
|
Dr. Coleman The Lazy Husband |
NO |
YES |
YES |
|
Dr. James The Unity Model of Marriage |
YES |
YES |
NO |
As you can tell from the table above, these authors only agree on one
aspect unanimously, and that is the fact that our roles in relationships are at
least partially due to the society in which we live. O’Connell believes while
Schlessinger, Coleman and James are focused on relationships, Tannen is harder
to understand and based more on linguistics. However, Tannen does stress the
importance of communication, and how your society shapes your characteristics.
Through out this semester it has been interesting to read these different
books and look at relationships through the eyes of these authors. There are aspects within all of these
books that I both agree and disagree with.
I don’t think it is possible for one person’s opinion to be
completely right. I think it is a
good idea to read about and look at things from a variety of perspectives, and
then find the right combination of those perspectives that works for you in
your own relationship. I think
especially with Dr. James’ notes, it is important to approach new ideas
with an open mind and a positive bias.
If you are unwilling to do this, you could miss out on something truly
amazing.
Lecture
13 – Dynamic Elements of the Ennead Chart
|
PHASE THAT
GOVERNS THEIR INTERACTIONS |
THREEFOLD
SELF |
||
|
SENSORIMOTOR |
COGNITIVE |
AFFECTIVE |
|
|
UNITY PHASE |
Zone 7 |
Zone 8 Cognitive Unity
(CU) |
Zone 9 |
|
EQUITY PHASE |
Zone 4 |
Zone 5 |
Zone 6 |
|
MALE DOMINANCE PHASE |
Zone 1 |
Zone 2 |
Zone 3 |
In this lecture, the different
sections of the ennead chart are explained more clearly as to how it can be
used to identify specific emotions, moods, thoughts, and acts.
This chart shows where certain
actions, thoughts, and emotions fall on the ennead chart. This makes it easier to determine where
an individual falls on the chart when he or she does or does not do something. Another way to look at it is like this:
|
PHASE THAT GOVERNS THEIR INTERACTIONS |
THREEFOLD SELF |
||
|
SENSORIMOTOR |
COGNITIVE |
AFFECTIVE |
|
|
UNITY |
7b |
<------8b CU |
<------ 9b |
|
EQUITY |
4b |
<------ 5b |
<------ 6b |
|
MALE DOMINANCE |
1b |
<------ 2b |
<------ 3b |
The numbers marked with the letter
“a” show a process in which the husband is growing from one zone to
the next. The numbers marked with
the letter “b” show that the husband has reached a higher level and
is able to move between the levels which he has already achieved. For that reason, the direction of the
numbers marked with the letter “b” show a deeper maturity than the
direction of the numbers marked with the letter “a”.
If a husband is stuck in zones 1,
2, and 3, or the male dominance zone, he will have to define his interactions
with his wife so that they are in line with zone 4, or the Sensorimotor Equity
phase, in order to move forward.
Because male dominance is more of a traditional idea, a husband might
make the jump from zone 3 to zone 4 because of adopting some modern ideas of
marriage. The jump from zone 6, or
the affective equity zone, to zone 7, the Sensorimotor Unity zone, comes when
the husband becomes spiritually and rationally enlightened.
The “best sex ever”
can occur when a husband is in zone 7b.
7b is in the Sensorimotor Unity zone. Because it’s marked with the
letter “b” this indicates that the husband must have developed
zones 8 and 9 and is going back to zone 7.
Sexual intimacy, please, and progressive enhancement is the result of
its origin from affective intimacy.
Because of this, sexual intimacy in zones 1a, 4a, and 7a, are less
intimate as zones 1b, 4b, and 7b.
I believe this to be true as far
as sexual intimacy goes. If a man
and women aren’t connected on any other level except for a physical one,
there sexual intimacy is shallow.
There is a lot more depth and maturity to sex when a couple is connected
on not only a physical level, but a mental and emotional level as well. It makes sense that the zones marked
with “b” are more intimate than the zones marked with
“a”.
Generation
23 – My
Understanding of the Unity Model of Marriage by Susan
Ventrucci
The Generation Curriculum
discussed in class was Susan Ventrucci’s Report 2. Her answer for one of the questions was
discussed in class. The questions
and answer is as follows:
Question:
Contrast the four views of gender
relationships expressed by Tannen in Gender Discourse, Schlesinger in The
Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Coleman in The Lazy Husband,
and Dr. James in The Unity Model of Marriage.
Answer:
Susan points out that Tannen
views the differences in the communication of genders not caused by biological
difference but by society and situational factors. Tannen believes that women and men
communicate a certain way because of how society expects them to
communicate. Different genders in
different societies communicate differently. If communication was only based on
gender, all women in all societies would communicate the same way.
Dr. Laura Schlesinger on the other
hand, bases her ideas mainly on the biological differences between males and
females. She believes that all
males are dominant and all females were created to be submissive. Males should be the conquers and females
should be the nurturers. She does
believe that men and women care about each other but they express those
feelings differently because of their biological disposition.
In the book the Lazy Husband, Dr.
Coleman has a similar view to Dr. Laura as far as both of them thinking that
men are at an advantage over women.
Susan points out however, that he doesn’t believe that men have an
advantage because of their biology but because society has placed women in such
a submissive role for so long. He
believes that men and women are equal but we operate in different ways. He believes that roles in gender
relationships are roles that society shows us how to play.
Dr. James’ Unity Model of
Marriage talks about men and women being reciprocals. He points out that women and men are
attracted to the others reciprocal difference. Dr. James’ model doesn’t
show men or women being in “control” of one another, but on the
Unity level: the man chooses to always agree with his wife.
|
|
Author believes gender relationships are based partly or all on
biology |
Author believes gender relationships are based partly or all on
society |
Author believes one partner exerts dominance over the other in some
form |
|
Tannen Gender
Discourse |
NO |
YES |
NO |
|
Dr. Laura The Proper
Care and Feeding of Husbands |
YES |
YES |
YES |
|
Dr. Coleman The Lazy Husband |
NO |
YES |
YES |
|
Dr. James The Unity Model of Marriage |
YES |
YES |
NO |
I think that when it comes to the
nature verse nurture argument there has to be a little bit of both. Communication and characteristics
can’t be solely based on biology or society. I think that the Unity Model is based on
biology, society, and will power to make a choice. The unity model points out that we have
to choose to communicate and live the life we do. If the man wants to reach unity, he has
to choose to agree with his wife and treat her like a woman and not an
object. The women also has to
choose how she can go about getting her husband to want to follow the unity
model so that he can start to see what he has to change in order for there to
be conjunction.
Section 3: Team Presentation on Exercises
By: Brandon
Nacapoy
*This next section discusses the
group’s oral presentations on Exercises
16c.1 and their personal interpretation of the concepts followed by my
personal interpretations and thoughts about how the presentations were.
(a) Summarize the main ideas presented by
the team.
The main concept of the
group’s presentation was “Conversational Rules for Husbands in
Conjugial Interactions.”
Under this concept, the four
rules of conjugial conversation were described. I presented the first two rules of
conjugial conversation and Xuying presented the last two rules. The first
rule is to be “reactive and
friendly whenever his wife is talking to him.” This is something that most men do when
they are first dating their woman because that is the stage they are trying to
impress her the most but it slowly begins to stop as the relationship
continues. This is why he must
continue to want to do it for himself.
He stops in the beginning in part due to the male dominance phase.
Males want to retain their independence and do things the way
“he” wants to do it.
So, being reactive and friendly to her may not be on his to do list because
sometimes he doesn’t want to listen to her and may want things only his
way. He later, through his
commitment to the unity model, will
try his best and convince himself that this rule is the right thing to follow
for the relationship to strive towards unity. The second
rule is to “deny himself the
right to express disagreement with her.” This principle is to deny himself from
saying “no” to her.
When a man says “no,” this causes disagreement and this is disjunctive behavior and is also unsexy for her.
This is another habit that occurs
a lot in the male dominance phase because
the male doesn’t want to do things her way he wants it his. I also talked about how their shows the lopsided male dominance model because
he expects her to never say “no” to him but, it’s should be
ok for him to be able to say “no” to her when he wants to. This will continue to change as they
move upwards in the levels of the unity
model once his commitment is strong and true towards unity. The third rule is “create a conversational atmosphere in which his wife feels
unoppressed, free, and safe because he shows that he cherishes everything about
her.” He should always
try and let her speak her mind to however she pleases. She may jump from topic to topic and
this may begin to anger her but she should be able to do so freely and with his
acceptance. He needs to liberate
his own thoughts and desires of becoming angry at her and support and converse
with her freely, no matter how the topics may continually change. The fourth
and final rule is “to use the conversation as a method
of enhancing her mood, of making her feel young in heart and stimulated in
mind.” The woman is
the one who conjoins herself to “his wisdom and rationality and
intelligence” because she loves how he thinks. He should also do that for her. Unlike in the male dominance model, the focus of the male should not be on
himself; rather the focus should be on her and how to please her once there is
a commitment to unity.
(b) Describe what they did and how they
interpreted it.
Both presenters related this
particular section to their own personal lives. I related it to my personal relationship
and I discussed how I have noticed that as a male, I may not have followed the rules in the beginning of my
relationship, but as we continue to move further and with me in this class, my
ideas are changing. Xing also chose
to use her personal relationship with her boyfriend to discuss the last two
rules. She gave examples about how
her boyfriend shows his male dominance
perspective when she is talking and how true to their lives these rules
seem to be/not be. This was really eye opening for us both and it shed a lot of
light on what the male should be doing to make a relationship work.
(c) Describe some of the ideas that needed a
better justification or greater amplification.
For the most part, I feel that
both Xuying and I really did a great job considering there were supposed to be
three people in the group and only the two of us presented. I feel that more time could have been spent
going through the theories as they relate more to the unity model and Swedenborg’s ideas rather than a lot of
examples and ideas about our personal lives. This would have definitely been more
helpful to truly get the ideas about the four rules across to our
classmates. Moreover, if they had
greater amplification here, the class would truly be able to relate and
understand the material through the unity
perspective. For most of the
G27 students, they feel that they are somewhere between the male dominance
and equity phases, so if more time was spent on these four
rules, the class could figure out exactly what needs to be done in their
relationship if they are striving towards unity
and maybe how they can achieve it.
(d) What was the success of the approach
they used?
In my perspective, our success
was talking about our personal lives and having an understanding of the four
conjugial rules of conversation.
Since both of us were successfully able to relate the four rules
to our own relationships, the audience members were able to connect and relate
our examples to their own lives. I
think that the way I shared my struggles as a male and how Xuying shared the
struggles that her and her boyfriend go through, it was good for the women in
the class to connect it to their own boyfriends and his mannerisms. It was a very successful approach.
(e) What improvements are needed in the
procedures or in the instructions?
I think that
the instructions are clear for everyone read. This section really goes into great
detail about what can be done on the male’s part for a couple’s
continued effort towards unity. Maybe it would be more helpful to more
examples and explanations that came directly from the lecture notes with each particular
rule of conversation. This way
everyone could really see how their relationships fit into the different rules
and how they themselves as a couple need to improve and move through the four
rules to reach unity.
(f) What are the limitations of these types
of Exercises?
I actually feel there
aren’t too many limitations on doing an exercise like 16c.1. It is very helpful to relate the
concepts and ideas of the Unity Model to everyone’s own lives. This section was a lot shorter than most
of the previous exercises so it was a lot easier to read through the material
thoroughly with a better understanding.
I feel that exercise 16c.1 is a great length for an exercise which seemed
to correspond to a great oral presentation by Xuying and I and a better
understanding by our classmates.
(g) Describe what happened when you did some
of the steps of the exercises.
I am
the one who presented so when I was doing the questions of the exercise I found
it more personally related to me and my feelings about the unity model. I also realized how much the model
really relates not only to my relationship but men overall. The unity model, especially in
this exercise, is kind of eye opening to everyone who doesn’t follow the
model or who doesn’t believe that it’s possible and chooses the negative
bias rather than the positive bias. One of the
questions was “Are they willing to go along with this
perspective?” It was
interesting to see that mostly all of my male friends, whether they are in a
relationship or not, was less reluctant to follow the four rules and most of
my female friends, including my girlfriend, was all for it. I guess it shows that unless the unity model is thoroughly understood,
men think that it is a female serving and female centered model but we know
that to be completely false and not what Swedenborg reports.
Section 4: Annotated Web Links
1)
Great
Conversation to Better Relationships: This is
Joshua Poyoh’s take on what it takes to better a relationship. These rules to conversation are somewhat
similar to the “four rules of Conjugial conversation” discussed
above but this idea is contrasting for the most part.
2)
How
to Make a Man Fall in Love with You:
This is an interesting article to read because it takes the male
dominance perspective on a relationship and gives tips on how the woman
should act to get the man to love her.
3)
How
to Get a Girl to Fall in Love: This article gives some tips on the
opposite view, what the guy needs to do to get her to fall in love with
him. It is quite interesting and
funny.
4) Creating
Intimacy: This
website points out different things that couples can do to create more intimacy
in their marriage. It suggests things like leaving romantic notes and
deepening the relationship. This shows that there is more to intimacy
then just being the Sensorimotor phase.
5) Intimacy: This website has resources that help
couples to develop their sexual intimacy. It refers to sex as a
"natural impulse to express your emotions to the highest
degree." This shows that sexual intimacy is not just a physical
thing.
6) The
Closeness of your Relationship with your Spouse: This article refers to intimacy as "the
closeness of your relationship with your spouse - emotionally, spiritually,
intellectually, sexually..." This again shows that intimacy isn't
just Sensorimotor as the unity model points out. There is also the
Cognitive and Affective areas that need to be worked on in order for a marriage
to have intimacy.
7) Spiritual
Sun: This
website introduces our concept of the Spiritual Sun. It encompasses our
knowledge of God being the center of a Unity couples relationship, his heat and
light brings forth breath and life into all creatures. Our physical body receives
warmth from our sun, and our mental mind receives warmth from our Spiritual
Sun.
8) A Sure Remedy: Charles Fillmore preaches us to have a
positive bias when thinking of others. We must forgive them and allow them to
forgive us. “God is love, and love is manifest as life. God is thus manifest in and
through all His creations.”
9) Sensorimotor,
Cognitive and Affective Conjunction: Dr. James wrote about Conjunction on his webpage of Theistic
Psychology. Their course offers similar details of discussing the Unity model
of marriage which offers another viewpoint of how to reach Unity with your
spouse.
10) Love: Love must be a center viewpoint of making a
relationship last and transfer it from Male Dominance to Equity and finally
into our goal of Unity.