Welcome to the
Spiritual Mind, Body, and Soul
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Psy 409b, Spring 2008, Generation 27
Dr. Leon James, Instructor,
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Section 1: Lecture Contents
By Jennifer Lee
Lecture
Notes 11 and Lecture
Notes 19
In
this week’s lecture notes, we discussed about the spiritual dimension of the
unity model and the examples of the Anti Unity Values. We discussed in the beginning of the semester
that psychology exists in the negative bias and the positive bias. People with negative bias don’t have an open
mind, and needs facts to find a research believable, leading to a non-theistic
and materialism psychology. Someone with
a positive bias has an open mind, and finds a way to understand what is trying
to be taught, leading to the terms, dualism and theistic psychology. The unity model is based on a dualist
approach, and therefore people need to have a positive bias when understanding
the model.
Emanuel
Swedenborg is the discoverer of the Swedenborg reports, which leads to the
Unity Model of Marriage that he, created. He claims that if the couples are in the
unity phase, they can achieve the greatest love, a conjugial
love, in heaven till eternity, which is endless marital happiness and joy. (Conjugial love
began to evolve around 1763, the age of enlightenment.) We are born with two different
types of body, our physical body, which is our physical features, and our
spiritual body, which is our sensations, feelings, and thoughts. The afterlife
involves a mental or spiritual world, and our physical body does not enter this
world, only our mental body.
In
class, we discussed that for us to understand the spiritual dimension,
we need to have positive perspectives, which means negative bias needs to be
non-existence. When both persons are
devoted to each other, they begin to form a bond that consists of their mental
organs functioning together, and they become interdependent in their mental
organs with the sensorimotor, cognitive, and
affective conjunctions. When we enter
the spiritual afterlife, we continue to live the immortal life in the mental
world with the spiritual body that we were born with, also called heaven in
eternity.
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Personal thought:
I feel that everyone should have an open mind to
everything. Nobody is forcing you to
believe what they think is right. The
Swedenborg reports might be realistic, and it might not, but it’s enlightening
to learn about new beliefs, and there could always be something positive that
can be adapted from it. I have an open
mind, because it doesn’t hurt me on not believing it. It would be spectacular on being with the one
you love for eternity, because that is the main goals in life is to spend the
rest of your life with happiness forever, with the person you admire and love.
Immortality in the minds of heaven or hell
The way people live and the traits they accumulated
determine if you will be living in the world of heaven or hell. If you are not willingly able to let go the
negative traits, such as being ego-biased, then you will be living with the
hellish traits/ mind in the afterlife.
However, if you acquire the positive traits, such as loving your partner
and being eternally happy, then you will be directed towards the heavenly
world. If one has any slight of hellish
traits, one begins to sink deeper into an irrational mental hell.
Depending on the negative characteristics, there are
different levels within the hellish world.
Swedenborg observed that the conditions within the hellish minds were
filled with stench-like habitats and darkness.
Couples in this world constantly try to control each other and live in
an abusive relationship. However, people
who are living within the heavenly minds are kept together by harmony and
mental unity, which is the greatest and highest level of affective intimacy a
married couple can have.
My personal thought:
From
reading about what Swedenborg observed, I willingly have an open mind to all of
his reports, but there are certain things that I still have questions on. It seems that to determine if one is going to
live in the heavenly or hellish world, Swedenborg only pertains
it to the husband. One example of a
heavenly trait is “loving your wife”. I feel that women should also be the ones who
are loving and caring to their partner, not just
men. I also thought that this heavenly
mental world is only for people that are married. Can there be a way
for just “couples,” who follow the unity phase partake in this eternity and
afterlife that married people live in?
I know it was stated that to be in a spiritual
marriage, they first need to be in a natural marriage, but what if something
drastic happens and before they could get married, one person passes? I feel that if both partner
agrees to follow what Swedenborg wrote, and commits to the unity model of
marriage, then I feel that they should carry on in the afterlife with the
greatest and highest point of conjugial love.
I find it that Swedenborg’s reports and observation
is very interesting, and I hope that my relationship can follow the unity model
of marriage. I believe that it will
greatly improve my relationship, because having my boyfriend not acting through
the male dominance phase; I would not suffer as much mental abuse and have a
greater mental intimacy with him.
Hopefully he will at least consider what needs to be changed, and at
least give Swedenborg a try.
Illustration on the Spiritual Sun:
Dr.
James drew a diagram that described the Spiritual Sun. The Spiritual Sun starts off at the top, and
is divided into two categories, the Good and the Truth. The good side is directed with Heat, while
the Truth is directed with Light. Each
of the Good and Truth has a branch that targets a mental organ; Good going
towards the Affective organs, which evolves into feelings, and Truth going
towards the Cognitive organs, which evolves into thoughts. The Affective organs are the receptor of
Heat, and the Cognitive organs are the receptor of Light.
In the beginning, the C and A (feelings and
thoughts), it is mandatory that the women do all the work, otherwise the woman
and man would be just friends. Women
have no choice, because if they try to dominate the men, they would just leave
and find some other women to have control over.
Anger vs. Zeal
A
key term that we need to understand is zeal. It is described as how the women act towards
their husbands to try and fight to work their way to a heavenly life. Women are trying to fight for their husband
to reach that unity phase, and it may seem as she is “nagging”, but she
isn’t. It’s an altruistic act that the
women do to unite with their partner, and it is discouraging when men punish
her for doing her job on trying to save his eternal happiness.
It may appear to be that women are angry, but it’s not
anger she’s exploiting, but zeal. Anger
is a form of a hellish trait, while zeal is a form of a heavenly trait. Women may come off as angry from the way she
talks and acts, but this is not anger.
The two are very similar on the outside, but on the inside it is two
completely opposite feelings. If they
men agree to what the women wants, the women instantly acts sweet and caring
again, proving men that this is the characteristics of zeal. However, when women are angry, women do not
become sweet again instantly, it takes time.
Men have damaged the women on the inside, and it takes time for getting
over and making up and making it right again.
Men can cooperate in the process of unification by
letting the women have more power than him.
Communicating to the wife on how he feels and what he thinks should be done, is a start of cognitive intimacy. If he allows her to influence him then it is
a step closer to affective intimacy.
Women understand that men can’t change their anti – unity values over
one night, and they know that it takes time and effort. Women need the comfort that men will try and
commit to have a change of heart. Women
are willing to wait; women can try if they men will try also.
Anti-unity values (AUV) are qualities, traits,
actions, beliefs and attitudes that inevitably prevent a successful and happy
relationship and marriage. Anti-Unity Values prevent both the husband and
wife from uniting and bonding together by forcing each spouse to remain
separated from each other. There are a
bunch of examples of AUV’s listed in Lecture
Notes 19.
Personal Opinion
I
understand what Swedenborg explained about the zeal, because I felt I have been
in zeal and also anger. In any situation
that I get mad about something, I either get really frustrated, I give the silent
treatment, or I just basically yell. I
try to help out my boyfriend with our relationship, and it may come off as me
being “nagging”, but I just want to improve our relationship.
Eventually
my boyfriend will agree to what I have to say, because he is tired of it and
wants to make amends. When that happens,
after he does obliged to what I have said, I instantly show the sweet side of
me again. But once in awhile, when I am
angry, and he finally agrees to my opinions, I am still angry. I still hold a grudge, because it could be
that I have been upset for a long period of time, or how he hurt me mentally,
because he doesn’t see things from my views.
Instead of me being cheerful again, I still am angry, and tend to still
have the angry traits.
For
me to calm down and retreat back to a peaceful personality, I need time to get
over all the fighting, or I need a lot of making up to
feel more comfortable, because I do need a lot of time for my wound to heal.
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Report Generation 23
(fall 2005)
www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/psy23/409b-g23-report2.htm
By:
Susan
Ventrucci
From the generation 23 report, I chose the question
on contrasting the four view of gender relationship from the four author’s book
that they read in class and how they relates to the three different perspective
on marriage that they had learned because for our class we already finished the
assigned book for this class. So, it would be earlier for us to understand the presentation.
Here is the question 2 from
the student report.
(a) Contrast the four views of gender
relationships expressed by Tannen in Gender Discourse, Schlessinger
in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Coleman in The Lazy
Husband, and James in The Unity Model of Marriage.
(b)
Your analysis should also include a chart or table that shows the differences
between the four books in a systematic way.
(c)
As well, give your personal opinion on the elements or entries in your chart.
(d)
How do your own views compare to what’s in the chart?
(e) How are your ideas influenced by each of these
four three different perspectives on marriage?
This
the chart that the student created on their own based on their understanding of
the 4 authors and 3 models of marriage.
|
|
Author
believes gender relationships are based partly or all on biology |
Author
believes gender relationships are based partly or all on society |
Author
believes one partner exerts dominance over the other in some form |
|
Tennen “Gender
Discourse” |
No |
Yes |
No |
|
Dr.
Schlessinger “The
proper care and feeding of husbands” |
Yes |
Yes |
Yes |
|
Dr.
Coleman “The
lazy husband” |
No |
Yes |
Yes |
|
Dr.
James “The
unity model” |
Yes |
Yes |
No |
Tannen in The Gender
Discourse
Throughout
Tannen’s book, she perceived that gender differences
in communication are not caused by biological different between sexes but
rather by situational and society factor. She works to falsify that males and females are communicate in stereotypical ways
because of how they brought up and society expectation.
Tannen
views gender as something that we simply are, but it is not the core reason for
how we communicate. Although, she admits
that gender can lead to different, common ways of communication from a male or
a female based on what society expects from them. It is important to note here that she
attributes this common form of communication from a gender to environment, not
biology. So from the chart that it is not base on biological but society.
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What I think
is that in this class that we read gender discourse book. Her book is really
difficult to understand and confusing because this book is based heavily on
linguistic theory so it is hard for a person who does not have prior knowledge
of linguistic. This book does not discuss much about marriage but from my
understanding, it can be related to marriage in the way that communication is
the part of three-fold self. Tannen says that in some
societies one gender tends to dominate conversations. It depends on what kinds
of society you are in that shape your characters.
Dr.
Laura “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands”
Dr. Laura Schlessinger has
a very set opinion about gender relationships.
She bases her ideas strongly on sex, that is, biology of the male versus
the female.
Her view is that the male is the dominant one and the
female is the submissive one. She
believes male and female relationships today should, to a lesser degree, mimic
ideas from caveman times, that is, they should play on each gender’s biological
predispositions. The man should be the breadwinner and provide for and protect
his family while the woman should stay at home and care for the husband, kids,
and household. The male should conquer
while the female should nurture.
Along with these ideas comes the idea of the
dominance of the male with the female submitting to him. In gender relationships according to Dr.
Laura, the female needs to be guided by the male and is dependent on him not
only to provide financially for the family, but to make the major
decisions.
In Dr. Laura’s theory on gender relationships, the
male and female care about each other very much and they both are very
supportive of each other, but in very different ways. How they care for and support the other is
based on biology and innate tendencies of the different sexes that go way back
in the history of humans.
My
Personal Opinion
From the chart, the author had to think a little for
what to put in the societal influence category and she put yes here because
while Dr. Laura does have a lot of ideas that stem from biology, she also does
mention what it means to be a “lady” and to feel like a real woman or a real
man. My interpretation is that a good husband for Dr. Laura means he is be able
to support the family financially and has no affair. A good wife means that she
does a good job of taking care of the house, her husband and children. She also
refers to gender stereotypes in these situations as set by societal standards.
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Dr.
Coleman “The Lazy Husband”
In the book the Lazy Husband, Dr. Coleman offers a
similar view to Dr. Laura in that he sees the husbands with an overall
advantage in a power struggle between him and his wife. However, he does not believe that the
husbands’ advantage is based on biology; rather he says it is based on the fact
that our society has put women in a submissive role for so long. Being that he sees men as women as
essentially equal, he believes women can challenge men and bring themselves up
to the same level.
Dr. Coleman says that men and women are equal and
therefore both or either should provide an income for the family and they
should have an equal say in decision-making.
However, he does realize that while men and women are equal, they can
still operate in different ways. He
believes that men and women communicate very differently and tend to have
different ideas of what is appropriate and fair and what is not. The focus of his book thin is an approach for
women to better understand men and efforts they can make to relate to their man
in a way that he will understand and efforts they can make to get him to change
and treat her more equally.
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My
personal Opinion
While Dr. Coleman seems to believe that men and women
are equal, his book still has undertones of male dominance. For example, the
whole book is directed towards women and puts the task of change all on them
while expecting the man is going to resist change the whole way. This does not sound like equity.
Dr.
James “The Unity Model of Marriage”
Dr.
James offers a unique idea about gender relationships. He offers the Unity Model of Marriage. This model puts men and women as equals and
sees them as opposite and reciprocal.
That is, innate differences between men and women are recognized and
seen as necessary for a relationship to work.
However, these differences do not put one gender in a position of power
over the other. In the Unity Model, the
man aligns himself with the woman not because she is in a position of more
power, but because he wants to. He is
choosing to be in this kind of relationship.
In
the Unity Model, the man and woman care about each other very much and want to
try to align their feelings and ideas and support each other. Unlike Dr. Laura
that she based biology different in which men have more power rather than
reciprocal.
While
this is how gender relationships work in Dr. James’ ideal Unity Model, he
acknowledges that all relationships start in the dominance model with the male
exerting power over the female and the couple works up to the unity model from
there.
In Dr. James’ Unity Model, the gender relationship is
a result of the couple’s choices and efforts.
They are there because they want to be there with their partner. They are not there because of societal
influences or their biological tendencies as a certain sex.
My Personal Opinion
First impression for
most people that I try to explain about the unity model is that they said that
it seems like the women tried to control and become dominance over the men. So
far that I learn from this class and I tried to tell people the true meaning of
unity model. The man often conforms to the woman’s ideas and feelings, she is
not dominating him. The man is choosing
to do this because he wants to. The
woman cannot make him. He has to want
to.
Lecture Notes 11
Theistic
psychology exists in positive
bias, which addresses that there is more importance than just life and death in
itself, emphasizing on the connection between this life in time-space and the
afterlife in eternity.
The discovery of the Swedenborg Reports are facts
based on theistic psychology. Emanuel Swedenborg discovered that achieving conjugial unity is living in heaven. “Celestial” couples
have claimed their endless marital happiness and joy increases forever when
they have reached the Unity Model of Marriage.
The dualist approach in the positive
bias of science, defines the
afterlife of humans exists in the mental world in eternity where we are born
with a spiritual body, but at the same time we exist on earth with a physical
body.
A spiritual process begins, when a man and a woman
who are in love form a union of love and friendship together. In synchrony,
their mental organs become interdependent in the spiritual body.
Interdependence occurs at the sensorimotor
(S) and cognitive (C) levels in the male dominance and equity phase of the
Unity Model of Marriage. The mental organs in these two phases are not
considered heavenly until conjunction occurs at the affective level, which lies
in the final stage of marriage, the Unity Phase.
Conjugial love
requires that you have a desire to be interdependent affectively with your wife
as opposed to being independent. Each couple is unique and communicates mentally with one communal mind.
The
life of immortality is either in the heavens of our mind or in the hells of our
mind. What determines the path we go down depends on the traits that we possess
while living in this life. The organic law of creation states
that we can choose to let go of our hellish type traits and experience the kind
of heaven we can live in with the heavenly traits we have. This type of trait
involves loving one’s wife and giving to the community. There is no in between.
One way to determine whether you are committing to
the unity model or not is you have to first ask yourself before your actions
is, “Is this from heaven or from hell?”
The idea of eternal marriage
in the unity model gives women the opportunity to achieve three important
things:
ü
It allows women
to see more clearly where and why men are resistant in their relationship.
ü
Women can see
more clearly how the man’s resistance to mental intimacy affects her own peace and confidence.
ü
Women can see
more clearly where they can use rationality to apply mental pressure towards
the man to encourage him to get ride of his resistance and join her in mental
intimacy.
Process of Unification—Women’s role Vs. Men roles
A women’s role is central and needs to be understood
by the man, and a man’s role is to stop resisting and weakening the woman’s
self-confidence in her process to get them to reach the unity model of
marriage. It is considered a self-sacrificing altruistic act when a woman loves
her man and wants him to unite with her.
Zeal is the passion that a woman has to help her man reach affective
intimacy. It is sometimes misunderstood as anger, but the difference between
the two is that zeal is from heaven, anger comes from hell. A real man will
remain gallant and be considerate of his wife’s feelings during her explosive
reactions from zeal. If he cooperates and lets her influence him, it is one
step closer to affective intimacy.
Women
do not expect men to stop their anti-unity values and habits all at once. What
a man needs to do to show her he is cooperating is to show that he is committed
to achieving the unity phase. To reach this success, a man must begin
self-witnessing acts and use it as a tool for observation and classification.
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Spiritual
Marriage can sometimes be mistaken
as “love without sex” or sometimes people use it to refer to a relationship
between God and the soul. As Swedenborg has reported, couples who are in
spiritual marriages are enjoying their conjugial
love, which is also called marital sexuality.
Lecture Notes 19
Anti-Unity Values (AUVs)
The
media exploits couples living together unmarried, which can have its
disadvantages. Living together before marriage can make it difficult for a
couple to move from the equity to unity in their mental intimacy. A woman is
less influential on her man while he resists to reach
the unity phase with her since they are already living together.
Our culture depicts the
image that its ok to agree and disagree on thing such
as family, sports and politics. However, this promotes the acceptance of
separate attitudes which will result in a lack of conjunction and intimacy. To
reach the unity phase, partners must discuss their opinions and beliefs in a
helpful way until they can resolve what they disagree on.
If you watch couples on television, it often promotes
the idea that you should never try to change your partner, rather accept then
unconditionally for their faults. This is considered an anti-unity value
because both partners should cognitively and affectively influence each other.
In the Unity Model, the wife is always trying to
understand her husbands humor, preferences, etc. By
doing this it makes her feel attached to him and makes him happy. The husband
makes an effort to not do anti-unity acts, instead he cuts out behavior and traits that upset her and lets her influence him into
behaviors that she does like.
If a husband is more
influenced by the culture of anti-unity, he will put a limit on how close and
intimate the two can grow together.
Section 3: Team Exercises
By Nicole Salviejo
This week, team exercise presenters discussed the
four rules of conjugial conversation. To help illustrate how couples can relate to
and implement these rules into their own lives, presenters also provided insight
of their own real-life relationship experience, as well as provided similar
stories shared by their family and friends.
(a) Summarize the main ideas presented by the team.
Class
exercise presenters discussed the lecture notes from 16c, which included
suggested rules of conjugial conversation for
husbands. The rules are as follows:
o Husbands must be reactive and friendly to their
partners at all times. As an example, Nacapoy,
spoke about his male friends’ interactions with their girlfriends. He mentioned how one of his friends displays
disjunctive behavior when he plays videogames during time that should be spent
with his girlfriend. Nacapoy
suggested how his friend’s relationship was still stuck in the male dominance
phase and how much his friend needs to practice this rule of conjugial conversation in order to make his girlfriend
happy—thus resulting in a happy relationship.
o Husbands must deny themselves from disagreeing or
saying no to their wives. Nacapoy describes this behavior as disjunctive, therefore, unsexy. He even
joked how his girlfriend would enjoy practicing this rule of him not being able
to disagree with her. When he discussed
this rule with his coworkers, Nacapoy’s male
coworkers didn’t understand and stated how unfair the unity model of marriage
was to men, while his female coworkers wished that their boyfriends enrolled in
this class in order to learn how to be better partners.
o The third rule involves husbands needing to create an
atmosphere that makes their wives free to discuss whatever they please—even
when the wife jumps from topic to topic.
According to Nacapoy, for a man to not keep up
with the conversation or to act like they don’t know what their wives are
talking about is a form of male dominance control.
o The last rule discussed involves, husbands using
conversation as mood enhancers for their wives.
Nacapoy discussed how husbands need to put
rationality behind everything they tell their wives and how they should pour
all focus on their wives in a respectful manner.
All
in all, Nacapoy felt that the first two rules were
doable, but still feels that he needs more time in order to be able to practice
the last two rules in his relationship with his girlfriend.
(b) Describe what they did
and how they interpreted it.
Team
presenters briefly discussed each rule then provided their own input and
related the rules to their own personal experiences. They also discussed the lecture notes with
family and friends to see what they thought about the four rules of conjugial conversation for husbands. Presenters felt that some of the rules were
relevant to their lives while others would be more difficult to practice
everyday in their own relationships.
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(c) Describe some of the
ideas that needed a better justification or greater amplification.
I
felt that the exercise presenters did a great job in explaining the rules of conjugial conversation as well as used relevant examples
that everyone could relate to. If any
changes were to be made, perhaps the group could have provided more general
examples of the rules and tips on how men can make their relationships with
their girlfriends better and more intimate.
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(d) What was the success of
the approach they used?
One
success I saw was in their use of real-life examples that were relevant to the
class material. Their examples were all
experiences that we all could relate to.
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(e) What improvements are
needed in the procedures or in the instructions?
No
improvements needed. The presenters did
a great job in presenting the exercises.
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(f) What are the limitations
of these types of exercises?
The
only limitation of these types of exercises that I saw was how they all seem to
be discussing the same material each week.
If anything, perhaps a change in the lecture notes would be great. It just seems like we are discussing the same
things over and over, with the only exception being that the title of the topic
being changes each week.
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(g) Describe what happened
when you did some of the steps of the exercises.
When
I practiced the exercises myself with my own family and friends, I found that
the people I spoke to also agree with the presenter’s own responses to the
material. My family and friends found
some of the material relevant to their own lives and others not so relevant,
especially the last two rules of conjugial
conversation, which are a little hard to adhere to day in and day out.
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Section 4: Annotated
Web Links
1.
Positive and
Negative Words
http://www.christianitytoday.com/mp/2008/001/7.26.html
This
website helps marriage couple work out their differences by communicating in a
conjunctive way, rather than an AUV way.
3.
Spiritual
Beliefs and Marriage: A National Survey Based on ENRICH
http://www.prepare-enrich.com/files/Article_Info/beliefsandmarriage.pdf
This
article uses the survey to see the relationship between spiritual beliefs and
marriage and how the spiritual beliefs lead to successful marriage.
4.
Chris Rock: View on Love & Relationships
http://youtube.com/watch?v=R6OaRcsfnY4&feature=related
Comedian, Chris Rock,
shares a comical perspective on love and relationships that relate towards Dr.
Swedenborg’s description of men and their refusal to have conjoined
intimacy with their female partners. In order to transcend to the next
level of unity, a man must be more open and more flexible towards his partner.
5.
Nagging Wife
http://youtube.com/watch?v=ELZlqwR68zs&feature=related
The “Nagging Wife” is
a commercial that serves as an example of the first two levels of conjunction
as described by Dr. Emanuel Swedenborg, in which the husband displays cognitive
disjunction by ignoring his wife and her needs. The husband in the
commercial doesn’t wish to be bothered by his wife while he is working on his
laptop, so he presses a button on his computer to get “rid” of her.
6.
Women and Men : No big differences
http://www.psychologymatters.org/nodifference.html
This
website explains studies show that one's sex has little or no bearing on
personality, cognition and leadership
7.
Creating a spiritual marriage
http://www.susankramer.com/SpiritualMarriage.html
This
website helps aid people in having a spiritual marriage. It shows 12 different ways on helping your
marriage improve and build it to a spiritual level.
8.
Guy Ditches Girlfriend in labor to play World of Warcraft
http://youtube.com/watch?v=aRh7qHU6LqM
Talk
Show host, Tyra Banks, interviews a woman whose
fiancée is addicted to playing video games.
The wife, like many women described by Dr. Swedenborg, wishes to achieve
all level of intimacy with her fiancée, but cannot because he is unwilling to
let go of his independence and his own self-interests in order to please his
partner.
9.
Love and Marriage Survey: Advice Before You Get
Married
http://www.arnoudforyou.com/love-marriage-survey-advice.html
Do you want to know if marriage is right for
you? This website informs its readers about the perfect marriage, the
purpose of marriage, the importance of love, etc
10.
Marriage Stress Busters: Don’t Let Stress Tear You
Apart
http://marriage.families.com/blog/marriage-stress-busters-dont-let-stress-tear-you-apart
This website relates to the article in the lecture
notes about marriage and stress. Here you can find some tips to combat
stress and bring you and your partner closer together.