The emotional spin cycle works off the threefold self comprises three distinct areas of behavior: affective, cognitive, and sensorimotor as described in the chart below.
Affective Self |
Cognitive Self |
Sensorimotor Self |
Feelings, thoughts, and motivations |
Thinking |
Sensations and physical actions |
This comprises all feelings, thoughts, and motivations in the mind. This is the highest level of the mind and influences the all other levels but is also the hardest level to be conscious of. Often our true motivations in life are hidden even from ourselves.
This area of the mind is classified as containing all cognitive thoughts. Anything we think about in our mind belongs to the cognitive self.
The sensorimotor self is all motor actions acted out by our physical bodies. This includes behaviors such as speech, movements, and typing on a keyboard. It also comprises all our basic senses such as perception of sight and smell.
The threefold self is our mind broken down into three categories. This classification is based on distinct differences in behaviors and levels of the mind. There is no overlap between the three levels and any behavior, even a though or emotion, can be classified into one of these levels.
Although classification is finite there is interaction between the levels. A motivation can create a thought and that same thought can lead to an action. Here is an outline of the threefold self in action in the context of a desire for milk that results in a drive to the supermarket.
Affective Self |
Cognitive Self |
Sensorimotor Self |
Motivation |
Thought Process |
Action |
The desire to drink milk. |
Realization that milk there is no milk in the house but it can be purchased at the local supermarket. Driving is the way to reach this destination. |
The act of driving the car to the supermarket and finally buying milk inside the store. |
Notice that in this example each of the higher levels work in smooth conjunction with the levels below and the desire of milk is fulfilled. This is referred to an error free situation because each level is in-line with all other layers.
Whenever an individual makes a mistake in life the mistake can happen in any one of these layers or in multiple layers. Identifying at which layer(s) the mistake occurred can lead to great insights within our lives, in essence a greater understanding of ourselves. Here is an example of errors at all three levels within the context of a college student writing a class assigned report.
Affective Self |
Cognitive Self |
Sensorimotor Self |
Motivation |
Thought Process |
Action |
Wanting to get done with the assignment coupled with a feeling of displeasure. |
Daydreaming of another activity while typing out the report. |
Misspelling a word while typing. |
In this situation the motivation is in error because the motivation is improper. The writer in the example is only looking to get the job done, this is in error because along with this motivation comes a negative feeling – which is an error by definition. A proper motivation would be one of motivation to learn, the intent of the assignment.
Here the writer is not paying attention to the task at hand and is instead thinking of another activity other than the report. This is an error by fact of the mind being fragmented or in a state of disjunction from reality. A proper behavior would be for the writer to keep his or her thoughts on what is happening in the current situation and not daydreaming.
Even a simple typo while typing out a report is classifiable as an error on the threefold self system. This error belongs in the domain of the sensorimotor self because it is a physical action. The sensorimotor part of the body comprising the senses of sight and touch working with the skeletal-muscle system to guide the fingers to press what in this case is the wrong key on a keyboard resulting in a typo that is quickly backspaced by the writer and forgotten.
In the outline above exemplifying errors along all three classifications of the threefold self it becomes clear that the writer from the example now has the opportunity to understand his seemingly insignificant action of a typo to deep understanding of his or her misplaced motivation. Using the threefold self system of classification the possibilities for self understanding are now aided by a guiding flow chart for anyone who is willing to take the initiative to follow through and has the desire for greater understanding of themselves and the inner workings of the mind. This will be the theme of this report and the threefold self will be the tool utilized throughout.
The emotional spin cycle is the threefold self extended into the broader context of interaction with others and the world in which we live. This creates a dichotomy between the self and those separate from the self i.e., the world around and other individuals. These two arenas are termed the arena of “self” and “others/world.”
Life Arena of Others/World |
Life Arena of Self |
Affective Self Cognitive Self Sensorimotor Self |
Affective Self Cognitive Self Sensorimotor Self |
Both arenas contain a threefold self and the possibility for errors at any level. However, since we are no long dealing with a single individual, errors are now termed “negative” as to be applicable to both life arenas. Similarly, correctness in the threefold self is now termed “positive.” Both “positive” and “negative” carry the same meaning in the emotional spin cycle as an error-free mind or error in the original threefold self model.
Negatives and positives at each level of the threefold self are represented by a particular behavior. For example in one option, Rage leads to emotionally impaired thought, which leads to aggressive behavior. Any behavior can be classifiable as either negative or positive at any behavioral level in a particular arena. This creates the “four options” of the emotional spin cycle illustrated below:
Notice that all behaviors of feeling, thinking, and acting out (the threefold self) are in accordance and support each other; this is because the illustrated behaviors are compatible. A negative flow of emotion will lead to a negative sensorimotor action while a positive emotion will lead to a positive action.
The two bridges of the four options chart are referred to the red bridge and blue bridge. Red represents the upper half of the diagram and refers to others/world. Blue is the lower half and refers to the self. By utilizing the bridging technique one can chance their behavior from negative to positive.
Schemas are emotional habits that all members of society have learned from their upbringing. Through living within a cultured society all people within that society learn the norms or acceptable behaviors associated with where they live. This creates a standardization that allows all people of society to interact with each other and the behaviors learned are referred to as schemas or social script that operate on a universal level.
Schemas are automatic reaction behaviors that many of us are unaware of. The routines by which schemas are acted out can be categorized by the four options of the emotional spin cycle. Some schemas are negative while others are positive. How we behave is dependant on the cultural norm in which we were raised.
The goal of the emotional spin cycle is to give people insight into their own schemas in order to induce change. It is now possible to show how to utilize the two bridges to improve one's life by going from a learned automatic negative habit or schema to relearning and implementing a positive schema in its place. The four options of the emotional spin cycle are just that, options. This means all people have the ability to replace negative habit with positive habits.
The idea is that since birth we have all been learning negative routines. At an early age perhaps we cannot tell what is positive and what is negative but because that is our environment we learn to live in it by acquiring its cultural norms. Even in adulthood when our sense of morality and ethics is more developed it is likely to acquire new negative behaviors if such negative behaviors as cultural norms.
Notice that within the four options a one-way bridge links negative to positive at the cognitive level. The bridging technique acts on the fact that we all have control at the cognitive level of our minds. All people are able to consciously control our thoughts, but we are not able to do such with are emotions or motivations.
The goal is to shift negative thinking into positive thinking in-spite of any negative motivations or emotions we may be experiencing. Over time our negative habits of automatic negativity at the affective level of our mind will be lessened because our new conscious positive cognitive thoughts are incompatible with them. With diligence at the cognitive level our affective level will also begin to shift to a positive schema through virtue that all levels of the threefold self must be compatible. Ultimately when both our affective and cognitive minds are in the positive option our actions through the sensorimotor level will automatically take positive action.
In essence consciously chancing the highest level of control to retrain the whole mind.
At all four options and at all levels of the mind behavior must be compatible. A positive affective mind is incapable and incompatible with a negative cognitive mind. This is why the bridging technique is able to operate. The “spin cycle” comes into play because compatibility also must be present between the arenas of self and other/world and behaviors in either realm influence the other. Our mind is not as segregated as the four options chart. Negative feelings of self ultimately lead to negative feelings towards others and vise versa. This is the “emotional spin cycle”.
Feelings of rage or arrogance are compatible with feelings of depression of inadequacy. If an individual operates off a schema of negativity in the affective/other option they will ultimately have negative feelings about themselves. The spin cycle means that feelings of rage and arrogance towards others will naturally also be directed towards the self. Feeling rage and arrogance about one's self leads to depression or inadequacy, which in turn fuels even more negative feelings towards others.
Here we see the spin cycle acting on the positive options of self and others. A feeling of resolve or compassion towards others ultimately leads to those feelings being inwardly directed at the self. This creates inner feelings of enthusiasm and self-confidence because they are compatible emotions in regards to self. Again these positive feelings of self will fuel further positive feelings to the outer world.
To relate the emotional spin cycle to various real world situations and events through the exploration of the following:
• Cognitive Scripts
• Behavioral Routines
• Cognitive Appraisal
• Emotional Intelligence
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a) This is a study that investigates the effect of professional wrestling such as the WWF on young children. The motivation is it to find is professional wrestling's marketing demographic is ethical or if they are harming young children. It was found that there is a significant increase in the imitation of wrestlers by young children as reported by school teachers and that these imitations are dangerous.
b) Through cognitive scripts of idolization wrestlers viewed by young children are found appealing. Children are more likely to imitate the observed behavior of those wrestlers they find in accordance to their cognitive script, such as wrestlers that are found to be “cool”. The most visible influence these children are receiving is an increase to their aggressive destructive behavior on others. This behavior could be seen as mere play but it is compatible with emotionally impaired thinking and feelings of rage.
“…it is proposed that those wrestlers which children find attractive, “cool”, and/or identify with will be those on the programming most likely to contribute to their cognitive scripts. In order to gain insight into this, teachers were asked to indicate the names of all of the wrestlers that they had heard their students mention. Overwhelmingly, the most popular wrestler among children appears to be “Stone Cold Steve Austin” (mentioned by 61.4% of teachers). His character is one whose popularity stems from a take no prisoners, trust no one, rebel against authority (his main on-screen nemesis at the time of the study was Vince McMahon, the WWE owner) attitude. As previously mentioned, his language and gestures are coarse. Certainly, learning and imitation of his language and gestures by children go against injunctive societal norms.”
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Journal of Sex Research: Are love styles related to sexual styles?
a) This study examines the relationships between an individual's attitudes towards love and their attitudes towards sex. Its second purpose is to compare the sexual scripts of males and females. The results of the study find that men and women prefer different styles of sexual intercourse and the these styles are a reflection of evolutionary schemas.
b) Schemas for genetic survival, which have formed over the eons, remain intact today and are reflected in different the sexual strategies found between the sexes. Females prefer more intimate relationships than men in both sexual intercourse and relationship behavior. Regarding the emotional spin cycle this would indicate that women may have a natural tendency to adopt more positive schemas since they are the more outward loving sex.
“From an evolutionary perspective, each of the various sexual scripts may have evolved to imply or signify a certain degree of commitment in a relationship. However, because males and females have different concerns regarding such commitment (males being more concerned about curtailing their promiscuous impulses and females being more concerned about finding a partner who is loyal and responsible in caring for any offspring), males and females may attach different meanings of love to particular sexual scripts or engage in different forms of sex to express particular types of love”
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Research on the Effects of Media Violence
a) A brief analysis of research on the topic of the effects of media violence on viewer. This page lists various independent research studies. Some of the studies find that there is a significant effect and others report finding negligible effects.
b) Findings are attributed to the operation of role-model cognitive scripts. Viewing violence as an appropriate method of problem solving by a role model may trigger imitation of those violent behaviors by viewers. These negative images from the media strengthen the negative options of the emotional spin cycle. Having violent behaviors against the others will lead to negative hateful behaviors against the self, reducing self-confidence and esteem.
“…there is a connection between media violence and aggression disagree about how the one effects the other. Some say that the mechanism is a psychological one, rooted in the ways we learn. For example, Huesmann argues that children develop "cognitive scripts" that guide their own behaviour by imitating the actions of media heroes.”
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Mixing Memory: By Request: Cognitive Science of Humor
a) An investigation on the phenomenon of humor using many different sources and perspectives. The author expressed a concern as to the lack of attention given to this area of investigation and wishes to help fill that void. He explains that humor is manifested through the activation of two opposing cognitive scripts that results in ambiguity.
b) Here is an example of activation of two opposing cognitive scripts at the same time. This is how the bridging technique is able to function. We may have one script that guides us in the majority of situations but we are always able to enact our own choice to follow another script.
“Humor arises when one of two opposing scripts is activated, followed by the activation of the second opposing script, creating ambiguity. Thus there are three stages. In the first stage, one script (or schema) is activated. In the second stage, information that is incongruent with that schema is activated, creating ambiguity. In the final stage, the ambiguity is resolved.”
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Drug Addiction: A Brain Disease?
a) This is a student's view of how physical changes in the brain can cause immediate drug relapse in even the most successfully rehabilitated person through classical conditioning techniques. She states that when environmental cues signal to the brain of a former drug addict the presence of drug, their brain will have an immediate relapse due to their neurocircuitry, which has developed to be associated with a particular drug.
b) This brings up an important issue regarding the emotional spin cycle, how can a purely learning based technique hope to have any effect on physical changes in the brain? The answer is that power of the bridging technique is that it operates on cognitive schemas in the brain, the way we interpret environmental data and act on that data. Changing one's cognitive thoughts will ultimately change their motivations at the effective level.
“…drug addicts may relapse and start using again because of many environmental "cues", which are external forces that are associated with drug use in their lives. When the drugs addicts see these cues, their brain circuitry, especially the orbitofrontal cortex become hyperactive and causes these people to start craving drugs again (2). No matter how successful the rehabilitation treatment is, once those "cues" are around, the drug addicts remember how pleasurable the drugs felt and relapse into drug abuse…”
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Research on Homeschooling Socialization (Learn in Freedom!)
a) This webpage is dedicated to informing parents that evidence shows children to not necessarily have to go to public school in order to be socialized, or learn behavioral routines that allow them to interact with their culture. The author cites various sources and personal experience supporting this hypothesis.
b) At first this information seems counterintuitive. The evidence presented shows that children in the home school environment actually show less signs of negative behavior. A simple explanation for this is that these children are not exposed to as many negative influences as public school children such as violent behaviors or feelings of inadequacy. This also infers that the majority of behavioral routines are acquired outside the school environment for children, or at least can be. If this is true then people other than schoolmates are influencing behavior, perhaps older role models such as parents are influencing these home-schooled children. Children who are given the opportunities to acquire positive behavioral routines will have a much easier life in terms of their emotional spin cycle.
“…that home-schooled children had significantly fewer problem behaviors, as measured by the Child Observation Checklist's Direct Observation Form, than traditionally schooled children when playing in mixed groups of children from both kinds of schooling backgrounds.”
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Process of Socialization: Socialization
a) This source outlines the research of Margaret Mead on the multicultural study of organized socialization (standardized settings such as public school). She finds that it seems to be a universal standard to control students through negative tactics like fear and punishment.
b) If true this implies that children are learning from the negative behavioral scripts of authority figures, such as teachers. Then, it is no wonder that the negative options on the emotional spin cycle are the cultural norm universally, instead of the positive options.
“Margaret Mead and her fellow researchers found that different methods were used to control children in these six societies. For instance, the Gusii primarily used fear and physical punishment. In contrast, the people of Taira used parental praise and the threat of withholding praise. The Tarong mainly relied on teasing and scaring.”
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Married women's employment, gender socialization, and divorce rates
a) This article is about the rapid change that has taken place in society that has allowed for women to enter the American workforce. The author expresses that a imbalance is growing because of the this new influx of working women however the stereotype of women not being able to participate in the workforce as fully as a man remains.
b) This exemplifies how hard it is to change the cultural norm. Even though women are performing in the working population the affective and cognitive behavioral routine that women are “not cut out for work” remains. These ideas are a clear detachment from the reality that exists around us. Participating in these behaviors is a form of emotionally impaired thinking, a negative option in the emotional spin cycle.
“Men and women have been socialized to perform different roles. Women were socialized to work in the domestic sphere and men were socialized to work in the labor sphere.”
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a) This study touches on the interesting finding that while many cognitive abilities decline with age those abilities that are “culturally saturated” remain more intact.
b) Again this shows the power of learned cultural norm and how ingrained they become in our automatic behavior routines. The quest to change one's habitual learned behaviors is not an easy one. Much effort and patience must be employed before true changes at the affective level develop through the bridge method.
“…many basic cognitive skills and processes, especially those that are ''culturally saturated" (Park et al., 1999), may not show the same degree of functional decline.”
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WorldNetDaily: Funds raised for arrested homeschoolers
a) This is a news story about a student and mother of the student's classmate being arrested by a plain-clothed police officer. The student and mother were in a park after school when the police officer spotted the student with a knife and proceeded to arrest him. The mother interfered with the officer as he was not in uniform she did not recognize him as an officer of the law. Later a uniformed officer witness to the event stated he was really to open fire should the student have threatened the plain-clothed officer with his knife.
b) This is an ironic story where an after school group gets together in a park located next to a police station specifically to feel safe and then end up being threatened by the police. Clearly the officers blew the situation out of proportion and were most likely operating on preconditioned negative behavioral routines they had previously acquired on the job resulting in a dangerous situation.
“Continued Adams: "The plainclothes officer was incredibly belligerent and angry right from the moment he rushed under the shelter. He could so easily have stopped as soon as he came up to us, announced that he was a police officer and needed to talk to the boy with the knife, but he didn't do any of that. Instead he shouted, shoved, verbally abused, intimidated. He acted so horrible it never occurred to me, or to any of us, that he was a police officer. He just seemed like a crazy man."
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Your Life Changing Event --An article on Your Life, Your Story
a) This is a short article on life changing events. The author stresses the importance of learning from our experiences and how the way we respond to life changing events speaks about our character.
b) The majority of this article relates directly to the idea of cognitive appraisal. Cognitive appraisal is about recovering from emotional events and making a cognitive decision as to how these types of events will shape our lives. In the emotional spin cycle this is called the bridging technique and is how we aim to improve our innate behavior.
“You may be thinking, "Well, that's true, but actually I've had more than one such life changing event." Great! Not, "great" in the sense of celebration if any of these events were painful and traumatic, but "great" in the broader appreciation that such events have for stretching us and helping us to experience the fullness of life. You see, we experience that fullness even through loss.”
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Tearful Kobe Bryant Proclaims Innocence in L.A.
a) A news report on the popular Kobe Bryant trail. Bryant, a professional NBA basketball player, was charged with rape by a 19 year old woman. Bryant was quick to issue a press conference proclaiming his innocent after the charges were pressed.
b) Here is a story of a man going through an emotional situation and his dealing with the event in the public eye. After the trial is concluded Bryant must come to terms with how this ordeal will effect his post-trail life. Since he is a role model in the public eye, has a wife, and must deal with relations with others in the sport of basketball his cognitive decision on how to grow after the trail effects many people, not only himself. The positive option would be for Bryant to acknowledge his mistakes and move forward in his life with this behind him as a learning experience as to how not to behave.
“ Bryant, facing rape charges that could send him to prison for life, broke into tears and clutched his wife's hand as he repeatedly proclaimed his innocence while admitting to adultery with his 19-year-old accuser.”
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Yahoo! Sports - NFL - Rolle waives court appearance on assault charge
a) Another news story of a professional sports athlete but this time Samari Rolle is faced with charges of assault after hitting his wife. After sending his wife to the hospital with a cut over her eye, Rolle waived his right to a preliminary court hearing, indicating a possible guilty plea.
b) It seems money and power breeds negativity in many professional sports athletes. These type of individuals are raised to great heights for excelling at physical competition, an arena where civil morals and ethics are a weakness. Unfortunately for these people, life off the sports field is usually riddled with personal problems. Perhaps a program on the emotional spin cycle would be of great benefit to the world of professional sports. In their lives professional athletes are of such high status that the self need for positive cognitive appraisal is lacking.
“Samari Rolle was arrested the next day on a misdemeanor assault charge. He could face from probation to a year in prison if convicted. The next court date is April 6.”
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CNN.com - Kid Rock arrested on assault charges - Feb 16, 2005
a) A news story of a popular rock star being arrested for assaulting a DJ in a strip club. Kid Rock was under the influence when he assaulted the DJ after getting into an argument over the choice of music in the club.
b) Here is a story about giving into the negative option of rage towards others, which ultimately led to the assaulting of another individual. The positive option would have been to not act on the negative emotions of the argument but instead force positive cognitive thoughts and sensorimotor actions. Even though this event took place, Rock can use cognitive appraisal to see his negativities against others and make a change to stop his aggressive behavior.
"Inside the establishment there was a squabble concerning, I guess, the selection of music," Nashville police Sgt. James Smith told reporters. "Again there are no major injuries but an assault did take place."
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Love Reaches Plea Bargains In Assault, Drug Cases
a) Rock star Courtney Love pleaded no contest to assault charges after finding an ex-boyfriend in bed with another woman and guilty to drug charges. After a long history of drug charges the courts sentenced Love to a drug treatment program, community service, and a $1,000 fine.
b) Here is an example of an individual continually choosing to remain in the negative areas of the emotional spin cycle. Feelings of inadequacy and rage are spinning out of control for Love and her life is spiraling deeper and deeper into these negative emotions. If one ignores and does not choose positive choices in life nor makes any effort to change to the positive options life can get out of control, and the deeper one goes into the negative side of things the harder it is to see the positive possibilities. The chain of negative options indicates that Love is making no effort to utilize cognitive appraisal in her life.
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ON COURSE: The Tutoring Session
a) This page is a self-evaluation of one's ability to rate the emotional intelligence of the characters presented in a situation. Rachel is a widow with two children who has enrolled in college hoping to begin a career. Ty is a student at the same university looking for work as a tutor. Rachel hires Ty for a study session but is forced to bring her daughter along. Her daughter spills some juice and Rachel leaves to find something to clean up the mess. While she is gone one of Ty's friends comes over and the two beging to talk. Rachel returns only to notice that she has forgotten her notes. Ty's response to this is, “How can I help you if you don't bring your notes?” Just then Ty's friend passes by again and teases Ty about being with a small girl. Ty decides to cancel the session.
b) Here two different people are displaying different emotional intelligences. Ty on one hand is being unintelligent in his emotions by not being considerate to Rachel's situation of being a single mother nor is he being intelligent by seeing how interacting with his insensitive friend while on the job influences Rachel's feelings too. The outcome is that Rachel does not commit to another tutoring session and Ty is out of a job. Rachel on the other hand is operating under restrictive circumstances that instigate negative behavior in others even though her intent is to improve her life. Ultimately both Rachel and Ty are not successful in their desires, Ty for not being emotionally intelligent in himself and Rachel for not being emotionally intelligent to others.
“Rachel arrives 10 minutes late for the 50-minute session accompanied by SHANNA , her three- year-old daughter. Rachel apologizes for bringing Shanna along, explaining that since she had a fever and sore throat this morning the day care would not allow her to attend. She settles Shanna in with crackers, juice, and a coloring book, then turns her attention to Ty.”
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a) This article is about the desirability for emotionally intelligent people in business leadership positions. High emotional intelligence is now rated as more desirable than traditional leadership qualities such as financial knowledge, planning, and marketing strategies according to a study of 265 corporate executives. Although emotional intelligence is a new idea within the business world executives are seeing the potential emotionally intelligent leaders can bring to their business' success.
b) This small article sheds light on the benefits of emotional intelligence to success in life. Emotionally intelligent people make positive choices in their behaviors towards others. Through the spin cycle it is no wonder that successful business leaders are perceived to be confident, energetic people because positive options towards others reflects to the self.
“ Experienced business leaders rank so-called "emotional intelligence" capabilities as critical to the success of today's leaders, according to research conducted by management consultants Julie M. Brown and Associates; Sharon Richmond, of Richmond & Associates Consulting; and Pam Fox Rollin, founder of IdeaShape Coaching & Consulting, of Palo Alto.”
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How reading improves a child's emotional intelligence - Partnership for Learning
a) This webpage lists four hypothesizes on the correlation that has been found between reading books and high emotional intelligence in school children. One is that reading broadens a child's expericenses exposing them to new people and attidues that refect real life. The second is that reading teaches children how to better express themselves through acquisition of new vocabulary and linguistic strategies. Third, books can show children the outcomes of both positive and negative behaviors. Fourth, reading about heros can inspire children.
b) The article does not go into detail about how these four theories work to expand emotional intelligence or if there is a causal relationship between reading children and high emotional intelligence. What can be gotten out of this article however is that there is a common theme that experience plays a key role in developing high emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence like all things in life require decisions of the mind. The bridging technique of the emotional spin cycle requires a conscious effort and dedication to work.
“Stories often show positive and negative behaviors, conflicts, dilemmas and the resolution of problems in relationships. They give children strategies to work out similar issues in their own lives.”
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Quit Smoking Story - Donna Quit
a) A personal story of a woman's quest to overcome her smoking addiction. Donna was afraid that her extreme addiction (craving for a cigarret every 20 – 30 minnutes) was putting her health at great risks and that if she should happen to become ill due to her smoking habits would bring misery to her family. With support of others also trying to quit smoking (internet forums) she was able to kick her habit.
b) In this story Donna makes a positive change in her life. Her motivations were not only based in the arena of self but also in her concern for those that she loved and those that loved her. Donna was able to utilize positive decisions and stick with them to make a change in her life before it was too late. Her emotional intelligence is seen when one realizes how she was able to quit her smoking behavior for the sake of others.
“I didn't want to put my daughters, husband, family, and friends through what I watched Terry's son, husband, family and friends, go through! I also knew I didn't want to die! I knew how bad it hurt to lose Terry!”
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a) This is the story of Wendy, who was able to lose weight that was causing a negative impact on her life. She was the subject of ridicule from others, suffered from a lack of motivation to do anything, and had trouble interacting with society all because of her weight problem. Finally she was able to gather the motivation needed to bring her weight problem under control and her life has improved dramatically for her health and her relationships with others.
b) Donna was emotionally intelligent enough to see how her negative eating behaviors were effecting her outlook on life. While in her overweight period she was locked into the option of self inadequacy and even though it is not mentioned in the story her relationships with others probably suffered as well – the emotional spin cycle. Donna made a positive choice to change her negative behaviors by finding support from others and sticking to her new motivations, both cognitive decisions and sensorimotor actions. Eventually her lost the weight and her affective self changed to feelings of self worth and enthusiasm for life.
“I hated clothes shopping. I used to come home in tears most of the time after shopping. I felt really big, that everything looked awful on me. My words at the time were that I looked like a beached whale.”
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WorldNetDaily: Funds raised for arrested homeschoolers
Ron Strom – WorldNetDaily.com
http://worldnetdaily.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=42995
Nat'l Academies Press, The Aging Mind: (2000), Appendix F: Cultural Variations in Cognition: Implications for Aging Research
Shinobu Kitayama – The National Academies Press
http://www.nap.edu/openbook/0309069408/html/218.html
Married women's employment, gender socialization, and divorce rates
Anita Lichman – PageWise, Inc
http://wi.essortment.com/genderrolesoc_rivr.htm
Process of Socialization: Socialization
Dennis O'Neil
http://anthro.palomar.edu/social/soc_1.htm
Drug Addiction: A Brain Disease?
Nicole Pietras – Bryn Mawr College
http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/bb/neuro/neuro02/web1/npietras.html
Research on Homeschooling Socialization (Learn in Freedom!)
Karl M. Bunday – Learn in Freedom!
http://learninfreedom.org/socialization.html
Mixing Memory: By Request: Cognitive Science of Humor
Chris (Blogger.com)
http://mixingmemory.blogspot.com/2004/11/by-request-cognitive-science-of-humor.html
The Sport Journal: Volume 6, Number 3, Summer 2003: The Effect Of Professional Wrestling Viewership On Children
Matthew J. Bernthal – College of Hospitality
http://www.thesportjournal.org/2003Journal/Vol6-No3/wrestling.asp
Journal of Sex Research: Are love styles related to sexual styles?
Kurt Frey & Mahzad Hojjat – Yale University
http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m2372/is_n3_v35/ai_21123357
Research on the Effects of Media Violence
Jonathan L. Freedman – Media Awareness Network
http://www.media-awareness.ca/english/issues/violence/effects_media_violence.cfm?RenderForPrint=1
Your Life Changing Event --An article on Your Life, Your Story
Tom Gilbert (your-life-your-story.com)
http://www.your-life-your-story.com/your-life-changing-event.html
Tearful Kobe Bryant Proclaims Innocence in L.A.
AllStarz.org
http://www.allstarz.org/kobe/trialcharge02.htm
Yahoo! Sports - NFL - Rolle waives court appearance on assault charge
Yahoo! Sports
http://sports.yahoo.com/nfl/news?slug=ap-titans-rollearrested&prov=ap&type=lgns
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The Associated Press (CNN.com)
http://edition.cnn.com/2005/SHOWBIZ/Music/02/16/people.kidrock.charge.ap/
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Jonathan Cohen – The Associated Press (Billboard.com)
http://www.billboard.com/bb/daily/article_display.jsp?vnu_content_id=1000798779
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American City Business Journals Inc. (San Francisco Business Times)
http://www.bizjournals.com/sanfrancisco/stories/2004/06/28/daily15.html
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http://www.partnershipforlearning.org/article.asp?ArticleID=1825
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