PSYCHOLOGY 459 – APRIL 20, 2006

THE MALE DOMINANCE MODEL

BY:  BRANDON CHANG

 

TTP 11.3.5.2.1 – 11.3.5.2.6, Textbook of Theistic Psychology,  nagging, Give Him Sex, DonÕt Try to Change Him, Keep Yourself Attractive for Him, ThatÕs How Men Are, Show That You Appreciate Him, by: Leon James, 2006

http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/theistic/ch11.htm - unity

 

 

I.                  Nagging

a.      When you use the word nagging, it insults the woman, and her femininity

b.     By using it you are hurting her inner core, and this is very damaging, and evil

c.      The job of the women is to keep order in the household, and by saying that she is nagging brings down her role as the maintainer

d.     The husband only wants the reputation of sharing the load, but he has not taken the responsibility for getting it done

                                                          i.      The woman should accept the fact that the man is willing enough to share

                                                        ii.      The wife knows that he doesnÕt do what he promises

                                                      iii.      It makes it one-sided when the man uses the word nagging towards the woman, but in essence the woman is just trying to help him keep his promises

e.      By nagging the man is only separating himself from the woman

f.       The male dominance model creates a mental separation between men and women

                                                          i.      The women have no other choice but to refuse sex from the man

g.     The man can improve his act by showing the woman he cares and relieving her stress

h.     The man has to maintain his focus on the wives emotional needs for mental intimacy

 

II.                Giving him sex

a.      There are a lot of words that are derogatory towards a woman that created the distance between men and their wives

                                                          i.      This is the cause of the woman not wanting to have sexual intimacy with him

b.     Women are biologically wired for conjugial love or the celestial marriage

c.      A womanÕs immortality lies in a complete total union with a husband

d.     A woman craves this mental state, and in which she finds herself completed as a true and genuine woman

                                                          i.      This is mental intimacy that a wife craves for, and this is the thing that a man naturally hates and avoids

e.      This is how men enter into relationships with women prior to marriage, and bring this outlook with them in marriage. You can see why so many women feel desperate after waiting for a few years within the marriage, waiting for the man she is with to be willing to conjoin himself with her mentally, not just sexually in accordance with his corporeal desires and physical and physiological makeup

                                                          i.      The wife longs for the day when the man will have sex with her after he fulfilled the need to be mentally intimate

f.       The male masculinity has to come face to face with the female femininity

                                                          i.      This is hard because the male hate femininity

                                                        ii.      He needs to lose his male dominance

                                                      iii.      The man wants to do everything from his own motivation and understanding, or else he feels like a slave

 

III.             DonÕt try to change him

a.      Mental intimacy is always sought out by the woman

b.     When a wife is mentally intimate she does many things

                                                          i.      Fix his hair

                                                        ii.      Straightens his collar

                                                      iii.      Washes his clothes

                                                      iv.      Shops for his underwear

                                                        v.      Reads his letters

                                                      vi.      Whom to avoid

                                                    vii.      What not to wear

                                                  viii.      What to do

c.      She just wants to be all over him all the time

d.     She also wants to be in his life mentally by roaming around in his thoughts and feelings

e.      Cognitive intimacy is not only sharing ideas and secrets buy gaining the right to roam around each others mind

f.       A man should never say that the woman should accept him for who he is because he is unique because this makes the woman think that he is cold

g.     A conjugial husband who has learned to love the femininity of his wife feels warm and expansive when his wife roams around his mind. He thoroughly enjoys mental intimacy with her and experiences it as romantic love.

 

IV.             Keep yourself attractive for him

a.      Men seldom give up their sexual interests in other women

b.     They boast that they have been faithful to the partner, yet they hide their unfaithful thoughts and fantasies

c.      Men say that they are faithful as long as they donÕt act out their fantasies

d.     To a woman sex is something that flows from mental intimacy

e.      A wife likes the idea of her husband wanting to have sex with her

                                                          i.      She is always willing

                                                        ii.      All he has to do is put her in the mood so she can be genuinely sexy instead of seductively or artificially faking it

 

V.               ThatÕs how men are

a.      The gender politics of male dominance is strict on women and easy on men

b.     Women are expected to adapt themselves to their husbands while men are the way they are

c.      It has often been said that men are by nature promiscuous while women are monogamous

                                                          i.      This is true in the unenlightened natural man before he is willing to go through character reformation

                                                        ii.      When he is enlightened a man will think back on his marriage vows, Ōtill death do us partĶ and wants to amend it, Ōtill death do us part in this world and then to eternity in the afterlifeĶ

 

VI.             Show that you appreciate him

a.      The feminine way would be to express her fondness of him by telling him that she is fond of him and what she likes about him

                                                          i.      Looking into his eyes

                                                        ii.      Kissing him on his lips

                                                      iii.      Writing a note

                                                      iv.      Grabbing his hand before crossing the street

b.     These action are the femininity in the woman

c.      A manÕs view of appreciation is usually sexual

                                                          i.      Grabbing his crotch

                                                        ii.      Getting a bikini wax in the winter

d.     A manÕs imagination thinks of things like this because he is in the socialized habit of sexualizing womenÕs body parts

e.      The male dominance model wants the women to act out to the manÕs sexual fantasies

f.       The unity model perspective wants a man to act in accordance with what makes a woman feel sexy

g.     Men who do not care for the woman's feminine sexuality demand that she "attack him with a surprise make-out session" or "Call him right before he leaves the office to tell him you have a sexy surprise for him when he gets home -- then follow up.Ķ

                                                          i.      This is something many women would do and do, but only as a duty, not of free choice or love

h.     Women have been giving up their own sexuality which belongs to their femininity

i.       Deep down women may perceive that they are not living the fulfilling life

j.       This causes women to look for fulfillment in all the wrong ways

 

 

 

Related Links:

1.  http://www.mtnviewhospital.com/Health Information Library/PFF Achieving Intimacy in Life.htm

               I was able to find this site while searching for mental intimacy on www.yahoo.com.  I thought that this site wasnÕt full of information, but it consisted of a few important things that I think can help someone learn more about intimacy.  This site did not only talk about mental intimacy but other types such as physical, spiritual, and emotional.  I think all of these things play a role in achieving mental intimacy.  Overall, I thought that this would be a good place to just go over and increase you general knowledge, and maybe even apply it to your own life.

 

2.  http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/409bs2005/ma/409b-g22-report2.htm

               I decided to choose this site because of its relevance to the material I have just covered in my outline.  This is a report done by a student who has taken the class on marriage by Dr. Leon James.  This class has a sole purpose of studying the different models of marriage.  This is why I think that it will be a good place to look if you are interesting in learning more about the different models.  There are many reports like this because it is a requirement for the class.  If  one wants to find out more about this, then it will be easy to find information on the web by looking for these reports and reading them.

 

3.  http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy23/409b-g23-lecture-notes.htm

               I was able to find this site on www.google.com.  I thought that this would be a great place to find valuable and reliable information regarding this topic of marriage.  The reason why I chose this site is because these are the notes of Dr. Leon James who is our professor, and he has been researching this for a while.  I think that the information in these readings can be helpful if one is interested in learning more about this.  I goes over everything that you might want to know about how to keep an eternal relationship, and his views on it.

 

 

My Home Page:  http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leon/459s2006/chang/chang-home.htm

 

Class Home Page:  http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy24/classhome-g24.htm