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| Dr. Phil - Advice - Relationship Communication Test
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Dr. Phil. So much to say. We’ve briefly discussed his thoughts in class, and I think it ironic that his website comes up in the search that I did. But nonetheless, I checked out the website and aside from selling his ideas, the man is selling himself. He just seems so self-centered it makes me want to puke. |
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| Live in Peace: Overcome nagging with prayer |
To be honest, this is the first time I’ve come across a website based on helping men rather than women. This website emphasizes ways to communicate with women. I find it interesting because it offers the opposite perspective, and gives me an idea of where men are coming from in their actions. |
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| Dr. Nadig's Guidelines on Communication and Relationships |
This website leads to a Dr. Nadig who is a clinical psychologist, a marriage and family therapist. I usually don’t judge by appearances, but the layout of the website, not to mention the picture of the doctor all tell me that he’s a dominance model enforcer. It also seems that he’s dumbing things down by the titles of his sections, for example: “How to express difficult feelings”. Seriously, it can’t be that hard to write something with a little more umph. |
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| Fighting in a relationship |
I was interested in the cause or the initial disagreement or argument in a typical relationship and where it stems from there. I found a website: http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/articles/relation/fightguide.html which helped me understand the root of the problem in many relationship in which leads to separation and then in to divorce. Communication is an overlooked word that is misunderstood by many couples of both genders because of the simple fact that it is more so said then done. It is easier for a male to walk away from an argument versus a female continuously earning to solve the problem, women need that sense of closure while men just don’t want to hear it. |
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| Guidelines on Effective Communication, Healthy Relationships & Successful Living |
After the last topic I was interested in what other people thought about communication in a relationship and why it is healthy in order to fulfill each others desires of becoming a long-lasting couple and Dr Nadig’s website: http://www.drnadig.com/ illustrates many levels of communication and specific details couples should acknowledge while in a relationship in order to satisfy the needs of the other person. This site helps enhance and encourage couples to be active and effective listeners by relating the techniques used in his practice. |
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| Communicating as a Couple |
I think that this site is very relevant to couples who lack communication in their relationship especially marriage. If you are unable to discuss issues either personal or public to your significant other your relationship will never be mentally connected. This internet article also gives you a list of “to dos” in order to make your partner happy if you lack in the communication area. |
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| How to Fairly Divide Talking Time |
This is an interesting short study created to determine who had the advantage in a conversation. |
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| Free checklist for better conversations |
At this site, I thought that it was interesting to know that there is a checklist for people who are in a relationship that may need that extra help in order to figure out where they stand in their personal relationship. |
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| Appreciation Expercises |
This internet site provides appreciation exercises that may help enhance your developing marriage into a stronger bond by allowing communication in an exciting and fun way. It gives three examples of improving your relationship with your partner and may be more enjoyable then it sounds. |
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| Good Communication in Marriage |
In this article gives a set of rules for good communication in a marriage and by following these steps should help your marriage. By understanding the following examples will guide the couple into a positive direction and eventually enhance the relationship |
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I chose this site because we have learned that there are many different ways to communicate with your partner. This site gives advice on how to create good communication, and how to prevent it from turning negative and possibly ruining a marriage. |
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| Arguments in Marriage |
This internet article provides links recommended by therapist who help resolve current problems consistent in disputes occurring in relationships. This site allows has outside links of information dealing with sex, relationships, self and life itself. The forum also has many problems that men deal with on a daily basis. The site allows views from a variety of sources they may have a particular view of the topic. I think that it’s healthy for arguments to occur in a relationship but ultimately the man must give in to his wife in order for there to be complete peace and happiness in the marriage. |
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| Power Struggles in Relationships |
I chose this article because it focused on communication in relationship. I think that if there is good communication in a relationship then the couple can work through any problems that they might come across. Also when there is good communication in a relationship there will be no need to try and figure out who holds the power. |
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| Arguing, Power Struggles and Emotional Communication |
This article goes along with the reading perfectly. In the article there is a great example of a women being in control and she doesn’t realize it. They have a long distant relationship and when they talk on the phone she cuts him off and they fight over the littlest things and of course she always has to be right. |
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| Relationships can be a bit of a balancing act! |
This article talks about open lines of communication and a work-love-life balance. As I said before an open line of communication is key and a relationship but a close second is “couple time.” Couple time is the time you have together whether it be movie night or a nice dinner and a show. Relationships are not easy and you constantly need to work at them but making time for each other and good communication will make the process a lot easier. |
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| How to Communicate With Your Husband |
“If the communication is not affective then the whole relationship is thrown off balance.” All couples should listen to this advice because without communication there cannot be a successful relationship. I also chose this article because the title grabbed my attention. |
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This website offers ways for couples to communicate with each other. However, there is a focus on how wives can communicate better with their husbands and ways in which a wife can change her ways to accommodate her husband. |
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| Top Ten Ways to Avoid Arguing With Your Wife |
This article made me laugh because I know there are people out there who follow these guidelines. The first thing I noticed is that there just techniques to “avoid” arguing, they don’t solve any problems that you are having with your wife. Instead of pretending to be interested or to shut your mouth when you want to say something you should change your thought process and do those things because you love your wife not because you don’t want to have an argument. |
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| Happy Couples Fight |
I chose this article to help show other people’s opinions on arguing with a spouse. This article also has a lot of good pointers to use when in an argument. The whole reason I put both of these articles in the related links is because I wanted to help people with the hardest part of relationships, fighting. |
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| Better Couples Communication |
This article explains that yes, men and women have different ways of communicating which may sometimes cause conflict between the couple, but conflict isn’t always a bad thing. Conflict sometimes lets us know what’s really important to our partners and why. The article went on and gave six tips to have a better fight which is suppose to help the couple fight to get results, results that will help their relationship and help each other know what’s really bothering the other. |
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| How Couples Communicate |
When I read the first line to this article, it caught my attention because it talks about how a relationship is a journey to reach intimacy, which isn’t an easy thing to do. It requires effort, mostly from the man because men tend to desire more independence while women desire more social interaction. We’ve learned in our class that intimacy is what the woman yearns for and it is the man that needs to put much more effort in order to continue to keep her happy and reach that intimacy with each other. |
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| Effective Communication |
This article talks about how people holding managerial positions lack an important ingredient of communication when dealing with people they manage or supervise. It goes on to explain that if we’re not taught well, we won’t be as advanced in that area. They say that the main question you should ask yourself, whether communicating through fax, email, telephone, or memo is can the instructions be easily understood. I found this article interesting because I don’t think managers ask themselves this question. I believe their first instinct is to blame the other individual instead of first questioning themselves. I think it looked at a problem in a different way and came up with solutions to help managers. |
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| Effective Communication with Children, Young People and Families |
Effective communication involves listening, questioning, understanding, and responding to what is being communicated. The article suggests that communication isn’t only about the words that are being used, but the manner in which the individual is speaking, body language and effective listening skills. I believe this article gives insight on how we should speak effectively with families and children on one-one basis and in a group context. |
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| Interpersonal Conflict and Effective Communication |
This article was about conflict in a relationship and how it may not necessarily be detrimental to a relationship. The article suggests that sometimes conflict in a relationship is a healthy thing because it may strengthen a relationship. It held my attention because often we hear that conflict in unhealthy to a relationship and that it may ultimately weaken a relationship, causing rifts between couples.
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| States of mind in marriage |
This article points out three different states of mind women and men have during a marriage. Intimacy, conflict and withdrawal.
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| Women's effort for sexy talk |
This is from a magazine called Cosmopolitan which is meant for women and focus a whole lot on women pleasing men. Every issue has a section on pleasing men, how to get them to notice you, how to work out to look better for your man and much more related topics. Men do not have magazines that tell them how to communicate better with their wives or how to be better in bed. Their magazines focus around cars and sports with good looking skinny women in them.
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| Can money lead to divorce? |
This website gives several suggestions for how couples can communicate in the area of money management. The most important thing is not to try to accuse your partner, but instead to focus on the things you are having trouble with. Using ÒIÓ language is always much better because it doesn’t make your partner feel like they are being attacked. “I feel this” or “I would like this” instead of “You always . . .” or “You are such a . . .”
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| How to improve your communication |
This website gives helpful hints for how you can get your point across clearly. The first hint is to think before you speak. Then, the article says that you should keep good eye contact. Also, you should keep what you have to say simple. Finally, you should listen to those around you so that you can truly be understood.
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| Frustrated and Interrupted Women |
A woman writes to Vera that she is frustrated often being the only woman in her conferences and also being interrupted often. She talks about how women and men have different speech patterns especially when it comes to Japanese-American culture. What she writes is a plea to other men in the business world to save women from being interrupted and mistreated in the work environment.
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| Ten Rules for Good Communication with Your Husband |
This website lists ten rules for wives to follow to help have good communication with her husband. Some things that are listed are to be gentle when telling the truth, say things with love, and timing is everything. This is some what different from Dr. James four rules but I thought this set was also interesting because it was a list for the wives to follow where as Dr. James rules are for the husband.
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| Ten Rules for Effective Communication |
This website is similar to the one above but is geared for both spouses. It suggests things like don’t exaggerate, do not attack and pick a couple of topics and stick to those. I thought these rules seemed to be effective in keeping order in a conversation between a couple that could tend to turn the conversation into an argument. |
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| Don't Avoid Conflict and Confrontation with Your Spouse |
This article talks about conflict and confrontations in marriages. She believes that conflict and confrontation is important in a healthy relationship. She actually encourages couples not to compromise. I thought this article was interesting because although I believe that avoiding conflict and confrontation is bad, I never thought that compromise was also bad. In my own relationship I always tried to compromise when there was a problem and things seemed to be better. But I do agree with her when she asks “how long has your compromise actually lasted?” because sometimes compromises don’t end up lasting very long. Maybe it’s because the partners don't have to give as much, they slowly give less and less. |
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| Communication is key to a healthy relationship |
I really liked this article, although it did not focus on how the husband could communicate better, but rather both partners. The reason why I liked this article was because she was defending a “Dear Abby” column in which Abby advised a woman that it is not okay to stay in a relationship that lacks communication. She compared it to living in isolation. The woman who reviewed this column, Deborah Brown, also gave advice to readers on how to communicate better. She said it takes three things: willingness on both parts to share information, more listening than talking, and empathy. Although this was an equity model of marriage approach, I thought this fit perfectly in the unity model of marriage. First of al, I think men do not like to share information with their partners. This is unsexy to women because most women love to share information. Men should also learn how to be better listeners. Deborah stated that you should listen with your mouth, eyes, brain, and heart. I think communication would be a lot better in relationships if men would follow this advice and REALLY listen to their wives. The last thing is empathy. This is just as important as the first two because if you really put yourself in someone else’s shoes, you would understand how they feel and how important your conversation is to them. |
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| Disagreement among spouses |
This article had some interesting points, although once again it was not in the unity model of marriage although it could be applied to it. The main point to this article was that couples disagree, not fight. It then gives nine principles that help you learn the art of disagreeing in a friendly way. One of the principles that go with the unity model of marriage is always keep your disagreements between yourselves, and never carry them to family, friends, neighbors, etc. One principle that goes into the equity model of marriage is to never let bitterness carry over the night. In unity model of marriage, it would state that the husband and wife should not even have bitterness to begin with. One of the principles that I thought was most important was guarding your tongue. This means that you never speak an angry word to each other. It is important to never do this because we always remember the harsh words, never the compliments. But once again, this does not display the unity model of marriage because in the unity model of marriage, your conjugial relationship does not permit you to ever have an unfriendly conversation.
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| Communication for healthy relationships |
This is a similar article to the previous ones I chose. It talks about how to deal with communication problems. The same concept of being aware or mindful comes up again in this article. But the concept that differed from the previous articles is the concept of cognition. This article states that you need to give yourself a cognitive self-therapy approach. This is because most people take the aggressive approach by saying things such as “you are thoughtless,” or “you don’t care about me.” This is something you don’t know because you can’t read minds. You are jumping to conclusions about something you think you know but don’t really know. I thought this article was insightful because it gave a different approach about disagreement and what your real intentions are when you say the things you do in arguments. |
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| Mistakes in conversation |
The topic of asking questions comes up in this section in Tannen’s book. People use questions in their communication for different purposes (as we have seen in Marianne and Johan’s example). This article reviews some mistakes people make in communication. One of these wrongdoings include asking too many questions. Asking too many questions may make the person feel as if they are being interrogated. This is an interesting way to look at it. Some of the other things that the article says are mistakes in communication are not reciprocating, being in the spotlight, and being boring. Overall, this was an interesting article that gave new ideas to how to be a better communicator. |
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| How to have a great conversation |
This is a how-to on how to have a good conversation. Some of the points can be applied to the unity model of marriage, but not all. Some things that can be applied to the unity model of marriage is that a husband can learn to forget about himself during a conversation and find out what the wife is interested in. He can also participate in good active listening and ask clarifying questions. This will help show to his wife that he is genuinely interested in what she has to say. A tip from this article that cannot be applied to the unity model of marriage is that it is okay to disagree because it displays your difference to the person as well as your individuality. Once again, in the unity model of marriage, it is not okay to be an individual with your wife. When you are unified, you are not independent, on all three levels. This article was more of a how-to for people who want conversations with acquaintances, not their spouses, which is why it promotes individuality. However, I think all of the other tips are good to take into account when you are having a conversation with your spouse.
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| Exploring intonation |
This is an interesting site that talks about the structure of intonation and how it’s used. The funniest thing that the site said was that when intonation was documented, it was seen as a sign of a women’s insecurity and need for confirmation. How absurd! I chose this site because it was interesting to learn how a rise in pitch differs completely from a falling tone. It’s also interesting to see how many different components make up an intonation. |
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| Talking topically |
This is an essay written by Angela Downing which explores the structure of talking topically. It includes starting up a topic, getting restarted on a new topic, positive or negative responses to general topic elicitors, keeping a topic alive, topic drift, and gender differences in talking topically. She referenced Deborah Tannen’s book in the section of gender differences. She believes that Deborah Tannen does not adopt a judgmental stance and rather tells it like she sees it. I agree with Angela on this. I believe Deborah does a good job at informing us about the subject without taking sides. I chose this article because it references Tannen’s book on discourse and also because it delves deeper into the understanding of “talking topically.” Just like intonation, there are many components and factors that go into a conversation. |
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| The contributions of intonation |
It was really hard to find an article about cohesion and the gender differences in cohesion, so I found another article on intonation since I think this is an important subject on its own. This was another formal research essay whose purpose was to find the role that intonation played in discourse processing. They focused on the intonation in English and Dutch discourse processing. Their brought up two different examples: intonation in segmentation and intonation and information status. The most interesting thing was on intonation in segmentation. Their thoughts were that a change in intonation cause listeners to segment discourses. For example, phrases with an expanded pitch range are likely to be judged as a paragraph initial or beginning marker while pitch lowering references to finality. I guess people do this subconsciously because I don’t realize the changes of my pitch in intonation. I chose this research article because I found it also related to topical cohesion in that intonation plays a big role in discourse. |
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| The essential aspect of positive communication in marriage |
This site is from the National Healthy Marriage Resource Center. It entails a powerpoint which discusses the importance of communication in marriage. The powerpoint asserts that spousal satisfaction in marriage directly relates to and is affected by how well a couple communicates. It talks specifically about the types of communication that are constructive rather than destructive. It defines positive communication as well as negative communication. Negative communication, according to this site is when a partner criticizes, expresses contempt, or refuses to talk about a problem. I chose this site because of its significance to the topic in the lecture notes. Dr. James and Dr. Nahl both convey the importance of conjugial conversation in marriage. This site shows some similarities to the lecture notes concerning basic ideas of direct communication and the importance of it in marriage.
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| Aligning Styles of Communication |
This site belongs to Family and Community Development @ eCitizen. It is a site discussing the importance of communication in marital relationships. This site discusses of a different angle of communication than site I chose above. It recognizes the different style of communication that each gender has. It discusses various details of the gender differences that can sometimes cause conflict in marriage. The site gives various tips for effective communication between couples. I chose this site because it emphasis the importance of listening. Dr. James also asserts that listening is a very important aspect of communication. A wife needs her husband to really listen to what she is saying to him. I feel that the structure of this site relates to the concepts that we have learned concerning the unity model of marriage. The unity model of marriage directly talks about the fact that men and women automatically communicate differently. The site I chose coincides with this idea as well.
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| Rules for fighting |
This site was created by a group called “Marriage Today by Jimmy and Karen.” It deals with the various different ways to deal with conflict in marriage. In order to establish ways to deal with conflict, the site discusses the various reasons why conflicts arise. It asserts that conflicts between husband and wife always begin with a harsh, mean, or critical word. This site discusses, clinical psychologist, Les Parrot’s ideas about the various different ways that couples can use harmful language to induce arguments. I chose this site because I feel that it has similar attributes to the material in these lecture notes. Dr. James asserts that the unsexy language a man uses can be very harmful in a relationship. Although Les Parrot does not specifically refer to the conversational style the men use, he does touch on the basic idea of the huge effects of words in conversation. |
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| How to improve communication in marriage: How to get a man to talk more |
This website deals with improving communication in marriage. This website is in direct line with the views of Dr. Laura in that it states men are the simple creatures. The site further takes the position in which the wife is the more talktative partner. The site offers helpful information on how couples can better understand and communicate according to the different communication styles of their partner. The site also addresses the issue of men who are not very talkative; the information provided suggests ways in which to help women in their communication with this type of a man.
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This website attempts to explain the reasons behind the different communication styles of men and women. It is based on the viewpoint of a male and it is an interesting link to explore his reasoning. It is also an interesting site to compare his ideas with those of Dr. Leon James and the Unity Model of Marriage because this author has the tendencies of one in a Dominance or Equity relationship. |
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| The Perils of Perfectionism: Discussion |
This website includes several responses from members to an article they have all read about the perils of perfectionism. Most members comment on their struggles with being a perfectionist or dealing with a perfectionist and how they got through it. |
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| Assertive Communication - 6 Tips For Effective Use |
this page is extremely helpful in learning about assertive communication, which Coleman believes will help women to get their husband to do more. They explain how you can become more assertive in your communication with people. It discusses why it is important to be assertive, as well as the advantages and disadvantages.
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| Improve Your Communication Skills - Articles from Mind Tools |
They offer advice on how to communicate better. They offer tips not only on private communication but also public, such as for business. I believe that improving your communication skills is essential to expressing your thoughts and feelings to your partner, and to gain a greater understanding about the other person. |
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| Differences Between Men and Women |
I think this site is really interesting because it explains the many differences in men and women. They not only go into the psychological differences, but also the social differences. It allows us to examine the differences between men and women in depth. |
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| Successful Women, Angry Men |
This website describes a book written by Bebe Moore Campbell about egalitarian marriages. The book includes information about the author’s own marriage, as well as interviews with over 40 couples. The book is divided into three parts describing what goes wrong within these types of marriages, with the last section describing how to improve the situation couples often find themselves in (emphasizing communication). |
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| Conversation |
This web link leads to a page off of the main website called marriagebuilders.com. I liked this site because it gives another perspective about how important conversation is in a relationship, just as Dr. James emphasized in the lecture notes I outlined. I hope this site is helpful to people, I found it to be helpful. |
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| South Carolina Family Law Blog: Secrets to a Happy Marriage -- Part Three |
This website provided a section from the book, “The Little Blue Book Series of Secrets to a Healthy Marriage” by Rev. Dr. Trey Kuhne. In this particular article he emphasizes praising in public and private between the spouses. He says that words can do a lot of damage and equally words can bring inner healing and health. Everyone would love to be praised and will make the environment around you more enjoyable. He also emphasizes that if you praise your spouse in public it draws attention to your spouses strengths and weaknesses. This Rev. has lots of words of wisdom. |
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| Divorce Magazine, information about separation and divorce |
this website was geared to married couples that are having problems in their relationships as well as with the family. Children usually come between the parents and this site offers some suggestions to balance the marriage and the family |
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| Stay-at-Home Parents |
this is a guide to stay at home moms. It goes through different things like, housecleaning, money issues, and anger. How to deal with it and how to have a successful marriage at the same time. |
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| Six Common Conversation Mistakes |
This website is very interesting because it’s titled “Six Common Mistakes That Spoil Conversations”. These are examples of mistakes that injure the integrity of the conversation by blocking its flow, creating frustration, and reducing understanding and satisfaction. The six most common types of mistakes that spoil conversations are: blabber mouthing, the “take-away” and “me-too” syndrome, unsolicited advice, interrupting, contradicting, and stingy contributors. The one that pertained to my readings was the interrupting. They described it as butting in before your partner has completed the thought. Usually this is done because the interrupting people are impatient and are afraid of not getting their thoughts expressed. |
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| Remarriage Advice: Mastering Communication - Equality in Marriage Institute |
This website was pretty interesting because it was kind of a review of what we learned in class. The only thing that was different was that this was a view of the equity model of marriage. This gave advise for both the wife and husband to change their communication styles to better benefit their relationships. The unity model of marriage asks the husband to change his communication styles and to pay close attention to your wife. Otherwise, this website is a starting point for a marriage to look at before going on to the unity model of marriage. |
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| Mental Help Net - Networking |
This website is very helpful for couples that have problems communicating or empathizing with each other. They define empathy as understanding another person so well that you identify with him/her, you feel like he/she does. This gives a couple steps to increase their empathy for one another and to communicate better. It also gives levels of empathy responding. This supports the equity model of marriage because it tells couples how to better understand each other and change to benefit their marriage. |
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| Effective Communication - University of Maryland |
This site informs on the various ways of communication and the way to listen as well as speak effectively. |
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| Relationship Advice |
The official website of John Gray offers relationship advice on how to communicate with your partener. |
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| Relationship books for men |
This is a list of different self-help books on relationship troubles and communication tips. |
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| The Art of Marital Communication |
I thought that this website that this link takes you to was interesting in that it discusses the way couples in marriage communicate. The section I prepared the outline for has dialogue from a couple on the verge of divorce and focuses on the way they interact. This website has good points as to how to keep the communication flowing in marriage. |
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| Improving Communication in Marriage |
This website offers advice on how wives can get their husbands to talk more and how husbands can get their wives to give them some peace. Going over this web page, I realized that the author (who is a male) takes very much in the dominant perspective. He seems to justify the husband's behavior and turn many things on to the wife. |
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| How to Talk to Women |
This website talks about a book written by two men. In their book, they discuss specific flirting skills and conversational techniques men must use with women if men want them to think they are potential romantic material. Reading this was kind of funny to me because it suggests men to put up a front and be fake just so women can fall for them. |
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| How to Communicate Better With Your Husband or Wife |
This website offers what not to do in a marriage. It then offers exercises to help the spouse from doing that action. I thought this website was quite interesting. |
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| Communicating With Your Partner: Suggestions |
This website offers tips on how to communicate with a partner better. One tip is to understand yours and your partner's communication behaviors and patterns. Another tip is to learn and practice effective communication together.
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| Communicating is Not Optional |
This website points out problems and gives tips on how to communicate effectively with a partner. In this article, it says that communication is not optional, but necessary for the relationship to be successful. This website gives tips on how to be a better communicator and how to be a committed listener when conversing with a partner.
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| Relationship Enhancement |
This article deals with a couple therapist explaining how husbands and wives deal with their relationships through rewarding behavior. If one partner decreases their normal rewarding behavior towards their spouse, the spouse will feel like they are not getting back anything (rewards) from their significant other. This can also work the other way around, where a spouse gives plenty of rewarding behavior, therefore, the other spouse feels like they are receiving plenty of rewards from their partner. Two questions were asked to this therapist, “How can I know what he/she likes?” and “Why should I have to tell him/her what I like? He/she should know what I like without my saying.” I thought these could relate to anti-unity values. One must learn everything about their partner in order to change themselves to please their partner. If a partner is unwilling to let their spouse know something about them, they are only going to stay in this anti-unity stage. They will never be able to move on into the Unity Model of Marriage. |
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| Marriage and Health |
I chose to use this article because of this author’s definition of Stonewalling. Dr. Sharma wrote, “Stonewalling. People who
stonewall simply refuse to respond. Occasional stonewalling can be healthy, but as a typical way of interacting, stonewalling
during conflict can be destructive to the marriage. When you stonewall on a regular basis, you are pulling yourself out of the
marriage, rather than working out your problems. Men tend to engage in stonewalling much more often than women do.” I think that
this whole statement is accurate, after reading Joshua Coleman’s definition of Stonewalling, except for the second statement;
Occasional stonewalling can be healthy? How can a refusal to respond to a significant other EVER be healthy for a relationship?
If anything, it is hurtful every time is occurs, and does not build a loving relationship stronger. I think that if one refuses
to respond, to supposedly their loved one, it just shows a lack of respect for the other. If a person really just does not want
to talk about something, all they would have to say is, “I really just do not want to talk about this right now,” rather than
ignoring them completely. I don’t believe writing that Stonewalling is healthy occasionally is good for any relationship because
men are going to think it is okay and will continue to do it. |
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| An essay |
It’s really hard to find a site that I like about conversation styles so I chose to just get an essay. This was a great essay, it has definitions, goes more into detail and even has tips on what you can do in the future. |
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| Communication |
I chose this site on communication because Lynn Meade seemed to explain communication and communication competence very well and had sources to back it up, not just her opinions. This was also a good site because Lynn Meade also gives tips on how to bridge the gap of differences.
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| Need Help Communicating? |
If you do, go to this website and it can help you with communication skills, in all aspects of life, from speaking in front of an audience to writing an effective email, this is one of the reasons I liked this website. It was very informative about all different topics of communication, although you could not see the whole text, the summaries they did have for each of the articles helped me a lot. |
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| Communicating with your Partner |
This site has topics from relationships to fashion, and it’s for women, considering the title, Women Today, but it is a good website because women from all over write in and ask for advice or, give advice to those who need it. The article on communication was really good because it talks about how everyone is different and how we all see things differently. |
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| Partner Communication |
I like this site because it has the different types of communication, verbal, nonverbal, body language, and what it really means, deep down. It also has links to various other articles on issues of relationships and topics relating to cohabitating. It is also gender savvy, so both male and females can use this site. |
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| Communication |
I chose this site because it gave a lot of good links to different sites that all talk about how communication is important in any marriage. It gives advice on stonewalling, negativity, and different forms of talk. Communication is a vital element in a good marriage.
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| Healthy Relationship |
I chose this site because it offered many other links that deal with relationship conflicts, infidelity, trust, and communication issues between two partners. It seemed very informative and a good site for others to visit, and find out more information on how to better communicate with your partner and how to better deal with problems that arise.
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| Misunderstandings |
I felt that this site related to this section because it discusses the importance of communicating with your partner. It also talks about different reasons why communication may fail in a relationship and the effects of it. Johan and Marianne failed to communicate in a healthy style with each other. |
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| Talk, Talk, Talk |
This site offers good discussion on the importance of keeping conversation alive in a marriage. A good conversation keeps a couple giving each other undivided attention. This site talks about how conversation is necessary to learn new things about each other, hear each other’s feelings and thoughts and to be connected to each other. It also gives related links that people can go to for more advice and discussions. |
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| Stonewalling |
I chose this site because I felt that it gave a good description of stonewalling and how it can negatively affect a marriage. It also explains that when a man can tear down his stonewalling, it means that he has accepted the influence of his wife, which will help for a more successful marriage. |
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