This site was created for victims of domestic abuse. The authors of this site defined domestic abuse as an abuser who uses force or intimidation to assert control over the partner. The site lists various different types of abuse that can often occur, for example, physical, emotional, verbal, spiritual, sexual, and economic abuse. It discusses the various symptoms that can often lead a spouse to be abusive or violent. The site also makes mention of the effects that abuse can have on the victim. I chose this site because I feel that it applies to the topic of mental abuse. Personally I feel that all abuse, physical or not, is mental abuse because the effects of the abuse can leave definite emotional scars. Although domestic abuse is often discussed in social circles, there is a bias concerning what can be constituted as abuse. Most often sites like these will discuss extreme versions of abuse and leave out other important ways that abuse can occur, Dr. James and Dr. Nahl’s readings encourages us to look at those abuses that are often overlooked.

- G25, Moa - Outline 4

This article looks at several different factors contributing to spousal abuse. It first looks at some common theories people have used to explain spousal abuse. The three common theories are Psychiatric explanations, Sociobiological explanantions, and patriarchy explanations. The author expresses that neither one of these arguments is complete by itself, but that spousal abuse could be a combination of many factors.

- G25, Murray - Outline 6

This website provides support for divorced persons. This article explains what abuse is and lists a man who forces his wife to have sex with him as one of them. It also argues that mental, emotional and verbal abuse leaves no scars but that does not mean it is not just as bad a physical abuse. I chose this website because this website must not be ran by a person supporting the dominance model of marriage because they considered sexual blackmail and abuse. This shows that there are a growing number of people who are aware that women should not be forced to have sex with their husbands.

- G25, Imose - Outline 4

Does Religion Have Anything to Say about It?

The writer of this article gives an interesting perspective on spousal abuse. I picked this article because the writer acknowledges the fact that most people have a hard time deciphering when abuse is occurring. Another perspective is also given concerning what the Bible says about abuse. I thought this might be an interesting aspect to read about because, as we discussed in class today, most psychologists would like to leave religion out of the analysis of marital satisfaction. However, as the readings reflect, spiritual intimacy is just as important in a relationship and physical intimacy. In order to achieve conjugial love one must achieve all levels of intimacy.

- G25, Moa - Outline 4

In this weblink, the basis of this site overviews that “Studies show that one's sex has little or no bearing on personality, cognition and leadership.” There are subsections in which there is a discussion on “Learning Gender-Myths” and another section on how you can move past gender myths.

- G24, Antonio - Outline 7

It says it there in plain view on the heading of the website, misuse of power. And I have to wonder, since when is a relationship about power? When and how did this type of relationship become an established and normal part of society? Why is it that people are constantly at a struggle to hold power over each other? Not just in relationships, but in general through government and through sports, competitions, through every aspect of our lives, why is power the most important most emphasized thing? The unfortunate side effect of power is abuse, of torture, of hurting another human being.

- G25, Afonin - Outline 9

This is an article on the Poor Magaizne website. Poor Magazine is an underground news site that reports news that is not covered. The article, "The Most Unrecognizable Form of Sexual Abuse" explains that sexual blackmail is a terrible thing, but it says that women are the one's who use it the most. It places the male as the victim, and the female as the culprit. I thought this was interesting because it reminds me of a psychology project I worked on about 'sexually aggressive' females existing, and how sexual blackmail was one of their tools to obtain sex. However, according to the dominance model and statistics, it basically says that females are usually the vicitms.

- G25, Akiyama - Outline 6

In this site, Annie Kaszina lists 7 things that may be acted upon a partner that you should take notice as mental abuse.  Most of her 7 issues generalize much of Leon James’s Lecture notes based on mental abuse.  It begins from “Sticks and Stones won’t break my heart,” where words are underestimated in terms of the emotional pain that results from them.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 7

This site pertains to breaking out of domestic, as well as mental abusive relationships.  This article is a personal story of a female’s experience in her relationship where she had undergone abuse for fourteen years.  This story reflects how she had put up with the abuse to finally realize that this wasn’t how a marriage was supposed to be.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 7

This site explains the different types of abuse that exist.  Once you are able to identify what each abuse involves then a victim is better prepared to recognize such behaviors.  Then a victim may begin to take steps to stop it from happening or repeating again. 

- G25, Bulda - Outline 7

This website article discusses abusive relationships. It discusses what it is, how to recognize it in your partner, and what abuse really means. It also includes the idea of verbal abuse and not just physical abuse in a relationship.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 3

It says it there in plain view on the heading of the website, misuse of power. And I have to wonder, since when is a relationship about power? When and how did this type of relationship become an established and normal part of society? Why is it that people are constantly at a struggle to hold power over each other? Not just in relationships, but in general through government and through sports, competitions, through every aspect of our lives, why is power the most important most emphasized thing? The unfortunate side effect of power is abuse, of torture, of hurting another human being.

- G25, Afonin - Outline 9

This is an article on the Poor Magaizne website. Poor Magazine is an underground news site that reports news that is not covered. The article, "The Most Unrecognizable Form of Sexual Abuse" explains that sexual blackmail is a terrible thing, but it says that women are the one's who use it the most. It places the male as the victim, and the female as the culprit. I thought this was interesting because it reminds me of a psychology project I worked on about 'sexually aggressive' females existing, and how sexual blackmail was one of their tools to obtain sex. However, according to the dominance model and statistics, it basically says that females are usually the vicitms.

- G25, Akiyama - Outline 6

This articles defines power as the ability to impose one's will on others, even if those others as the ability to impose one's will on others, even if those others resist in some way.  This article provided another similar explanation of power that is analyzed from the sociologist perspective. This site illustrates power in a relational manner where one cannot meaningfully say that a particular social actor manner or one cannot meaningfully say that a particular social actor "has power" without also specifying the role of other parties in the social relationship.  Another similar finding that I found relative to “Gender and Discourse” was how the article explains how power almost always operates reciprocally, but usually not with equal reciprocity.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 2

Lucky Nickel is part the radical feminist movement, who wrote a journal pertaining to the how the male species has taken advantage of sex.  She mentions the current situation in which men are allowed free and easy access to sex without the drag of protocol, courtship and responsibility.  Women are just expected to take care of the children, chores, and wash their husband’s underwear.  An issue of sex positive is also mentioned where a revolution must take place to allow men to do what ever they want and to not take it as anything bad, which Lucky badgers, as a stupid conclusion to help society with their already set negative attitudes toward women.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 6

Traditional gender norms were culturally and historically determined rather than derived from nature.  Dr. Judson and Mary investigated contradictory assessments of the typical American male and stated that although males were the weaker sex biologically, their struggles to conform to cultural ideas of superiority and dominance led to disastrous relationships.  Males are considered as the stronger gender due to the biological determinism of their endocrinological functioning.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 6

In this site, Annie Kaszina lists 7 things that may be acted upon a partner that you should take notice as mental abuse.  Most of her 7 issues generalize much of Leon James’s Lecture notes based on mental abuse.  It begins from “Sticks and Stones won’t break my heart,” where words are underestimated in terms of the emotional pain that results from them.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 7

This site pertains to breaking out of domestic, as well as mental abusive relationships.  This article is a personal story of a female’s experience in her relationship where she had undergone abuse for fourteen years.  This story reflects how she had put up with the abuse to finally realize that this wasn’t how a marriage was supposed to be.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 7

This site explains the different types of abuse that exist.  Once you are able to identify what each abuse involves then a victim is better prepared to recognize such behaviors.  Then a victim may begin to take steps to stop it from happening or repeating again. 

- G25, Bulda - Outline 7

This site defines a taken hands relationship as a male-controlled sexually and socially exclusive monogamous relationship in which the man’s power is real and for the purpose of creating a deeply connected, fully engaged relationship with a sexual connection.  A man’s dominance role is assumed that it is for the benefit for the relationship rather than for self-serving.  The woman is then assumed to respond to her man’s control.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 8

This internet sites provides information about psychologists who examine power relations and choice of marriage partners

- G25, Gora - Outline 8

I chose this article because it focused on communication in relationship. I think that if there is good communication in a relationship then the couple can work through any problems that they might come across.  Also when there is good communication in a relationship there will be no need to try and figure out who holds the power.

- G25, Malala - Outline 3

This article goes along with the reading perfectly. In the article there is a great example of a women being in control and she doesn’t realize it.  They have a long distant relationship and when they talk on the phone she cuts him off and they fight over the littlest things and of course she always has to be right.

- G25, Malala - Outline 3

I chose this article because it gives a lot of good advice on things you can do to help better your relationship.  So pretty much it can help the husband realize that it’s not okay to be stuck in the dominance model. I really liked the five C’s; the 5 C's are commitment, communication, cooperation, collaboration and coordination. The advice in this article is helpful to people at all levels of marriage.

- G25, Malala - Outline 4

This article talks about how women now contribute economically to the well-being of their family to the same degree as their husbands. Does making more money give you more power? This article suggests that women’s earnings have increased their control over the money in the marital relationships and because of this, husbands take on greater shares of the domestic burdens. Although they may have a say in the financial aspect of the marriage, earning an income doesn’t guarantee that women can exercise power in the marriage. A husband usually out earns the wife which limits her power. This article seems to portray the phrase “money talks.” If you earn more in the relationship what you say goes. Is that for both men and women, or just for men? I know of instances where women exercise their power, regardless of the income. I guess it just depends on the individual.

- G25, Monteilh - Outline 3

This article talks about how men use marriage as a tool to control female sexuality and gain control over women. It’s not about vows and love, it’s basically about control. It talks about how a shift is happening when men used to think that women used marriage to control them. Now apparently the shoe is on the other foot

- G25, Ide - Outline 9

This is a psychological article that talks about how many different children learn to control social interactions. It suggests that young men who come from families where the parents are in the dominant model often behave dominantly in their relationships. It also talks about how sibling interactions also influence which children will be more dominant and which will be more submissive. Overall, this article was just looking at control in relationships.

- G25, Murray - Outline 8

This site offers a paper that was written by Robert A. Pollak. He focuses more on the financial aspect of marriage, in which he believes that wage rates determine well being and bargaining power in a marriage.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 1

This site takes a woman’s perspective of prenuptial agreements. The article focuses on the idea of taking using a rich man’s tool. It is centered around the new trend in marriage, in which women marry later and so go into a marriage with substantial income and therefore possess bargaining power.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 1

This site explores the idea of discrimination limiting the disadvantaged sex to undertaking household chores. Similar to the previous sites, it also mentions the notion of the amount of money a person earns establishes relative marital bargaining power.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 1

This website article discusses abusive relationships. It discusses what it is, how to recognize it in your partner, and what abuse really means. It also includes the idea of verbal abuse and not just physical abuse in a relationship.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 3

This link leads to article that further discusses the use of questions between men and women.  The article goes on to discuss the fundamental difference between men’s and women’s linguistic behavior and introduces the term of questions tags. 

- G24, Tabon - Outline 10

This first website is based on Deborah Tannen’s, Genderlect and was written by Anne Larbes.  In Larbes’s writing she explains the idea of power and solidarity.  I felt this site was useful because it was based on Tennen’s idea, but the perspective is from another person.  

- G24, Lau - Outline 5

I chose this next website because it presents ideas from sociolinguists.  There are many useful links to explore this topic further.  This site also brings other cultures around the world so that we may further explore this ides of power and solidarity. 

- G24, Lau - Outline 5

I think this site will be really helpful in understanding what Dr. Laura is trying to say about a power struggle in a relationship. This site focuses completely on control in a relationship. It talks about the negative effects of having too much control and the consequences of the inability to stand up against this control.

- G24, Montague - Outline 4

At the beginning of this article, the author explains how there should never be ANY justification for any type of violence or physical abuse within a family. This could be an example of the NO, NO, NO pattern. Although, this is only from one source, I am pretty sure a majority of all people out there feel the same way. There is also a list of reasons towards the end of the article explaining why women stay in a marriage with a husband who is abusive. Two from the list really stuck out to me, which were “She believes if she can work harder to please him, he will treat her better,” and “He isn’t always brutal… he can be very loving when he’s not abusive.” I feel very bad for these women in these situations because women who are getting treated this way should NEVER feel or WANT to please their husband. And the false idea of believing they will treat them better is absurd. They are not going to change no matter what their wife does for them. Also, a man is NEVER loving if he is abusing his wife. That is NOT love, and it never will be

- G25, Fields - Outline 9

I chose this site because in marriages like Johan and Marianne’s, where he dominates her by the way he talks to her, I felt that it would be useful to give a site that talks about why women are submissive to their husbands. This site also gives reasons why women blame themselves and why they stay with their dominating husbands.

- G25, Hasegawa - Outline 8

This is a site for women, to fight against violence. They provide support for women from related links, to contact information and the facts. I found both his page and the related link no. 2 to be totally against each other. Both fighting for different sexes but I could not find a site that respected both.

- G25, Matsui - Outline 9

In this article, it talks about how emotional abuse is just as harmful as physical if not worse. What makes emotional abuse more harmful is that it is harder to detect. Many women are used to being mistreated and may have thought this behavior was okay. It gives the common warning signs for if you are being emotionally abused. A couple of the questions it asks are: “Does your partner isolate you from others?” or “Does he/she limit your access to monetary funds?” There are many other questions but basically it is a how-to guide for detecting an abuser.

- G25, Murray - Outline 10