I entered “lazy husband” into a google search, and along with a few other jokes and websites, this came up. Although entertaining, it portrays a wife’s wishes that backfire in her face. In this case, I don’t know that the husband’s listening to his wife was a good thing.

- G25, Afonin - Outline 2

This was an interesting website because it was a review of sorts of Joshua Coleman’s book. After reading it two or three times I’m still not sure if Lisa Parsons is being sarcastic or if she’s actually being completely honest. I haven’t been sold to the book, personally, I disagree with a lot of what Coleman believes is good advice and have to wonder how his marriage is doing.

- G25, Afonin - Outline 2

This website is a self-help guide for males and their relationships. However based on reading a few of their articles, it is totally dominance model based. The section on "Never be woman's friend," depicts everything against the Unity model and states that males are the victims of sexual blackmail. I found it interesting because it tells its readers that they need to stop being weak, and they need to not allow women to tease and control them, especially with the frequency of sex. The author says that it should be the guy to say when he wants to have sex and not the woman. The main thing that caught my eye was a line that says to "stop putting women on pedestals," which is the basis of the Unity model. You want your significant other to feel important and loved, as if worshipped like a goddess. I was also taken aback when the author said to "treat them like your bratty sister."

- G25, Akiyama - Outline 6

This is an interesting clip from a website called "NoMarriage.com." It tells the reader (specifically male) what makes a good wife. It says that sex shouldn't be everything therefore sexual blackmail is taboo, but it also has a strong doministic view of females doing the "house hold" chores. The author says that a woman should love household chores because she is meant to do them ever since long ago which is totally doministic and follows Dr. Laura's preachings. I thought it was interesting because at first it seems to start off with almost a sense of equity and unity model ingrained with the "sex" isn't necessary if she doesn't want it. But the rest of it is really strong on how a "good wife" is basically a no squabbling "house wife" which is what most of the dominance model is all about. There's mix signals from this author.

- G25, Akiyama - Outline 6

This seems to be a site that posts articles about a featured relationship-help booksthat and is acompanied wtih an excerpt from the book. This link hosts information about a book titled, "Dads and Daughters: How to Inspire, Understand, and Support Your Daughter When She's Growing Up So Fast," written by Joe Kelly. The book seems to be interesting because it reminds Dads, that males and females are different biologically and mentally which means their behaviors growing up may seem foreign. Although this could occur, Joe Kelly's book stresses that it is still important to be involved with their daughter's life. It follows with a strong emphasis that Dads do make a difference in the life of his daughter, which is one of the points that Dr. Laura gets across. It also backs Dr. Laura's words of how a life with or without a father will determine how she relates to males when she is grown up.

- G25, Akiyama - Outline 7

This article is pretty short but it puts certain points into perspective. The first statement in this article presents an important element of unity in marriage: the emotional/effective level. It also addresses “fairness” in marriages which reflects reciprocity in the unity model of marriage. Although this article is short, there are links right below it that provide even more relevant information to this section.

- G25, Biacan - Outline 2

I found this site interesting because it analyzes research that wanted to find out what type of femininity or masculinity in either male or female would produce satisfactory in the sexual area of the marriage.  The outcomes came to be that men appeared to be more satisfied if married to masculine women, and wives’ satisfaction was brought by feminine men.  Martial satisfaction was also positively related to mutuality of expressive behavior and negatively to perceived segregation of expressive roles.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 10

Here is a neat site that I found relevant to our class studying the Unity Model of Marriage.  This site compares a male dominance gender roles, versus complementarian gender roles.  This site is actually a site from a religious perspective on how the traditional dominant roles that men play will never prosper in a relationship since they are selfish and that he must realize that he must do for the sake of the family instead of himself. 

- G25, Bulda - Outline 4

Traditional gender norms were culturally and historically determined rather than derived from nature.  Dr. Judson and Mary investigated contradictory assessments of the typical American male and stated that although males were the weaker sex biologically, their struggles to conform to cultural ideas of superiority and dominance led to disastrous relationships.  Males are considered as the stronger gender due to the biological determinism of their endocrinological functioning.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 6

I chose this article to show you that there are a lot of people out there trying to get rid of this out dated dominance model.  I think it’s great for what this organization is doing, everyone could use a few pointers on parenting.  Some of these classes also teach how to be a better husband. 

- G25, Malala - Outline 2

This article is a great example of how men don’t know what they want. They talk about romance and falling in love but they also talk a lot about distancing themselves and keeping their status as available. Honestly I think men are just trying to find that special someone to come in and sweep them off their feet and then they will change.

- G25, Malala - Outline 5

I chose this article because it’s just a regular Joe talking about how to treat a woman.  He makes some pretty good points through out the article but I think he is focusing on the how to attract a woman not focusing on how to maintain a relationship.  I know finding a woman is hard work but I am pretty sure it’s a lot harder to keep her.

- G25, Malala - Outline 8

This article got on my nerves a little bit because it talked about how once you get the girl of your dreams by dressing up nice, cleaning your house, and acting like a gentleman you can stop doing all of those things because she’s your’s now. Hopefully the woman will not stay around long after he changes. 

- G25, Malala - Outline 8

I stumbled upon this article because the title caught my eye.  It’s actually relates to my outline perfectly it talks about things that the husband can do to make his relationship with his wife smoother. Some of the suggestions on the list are quite funny you should definitely take a look.

- G25, Malala - Outline 7

In this article, they explain that men still underestimate the importance of male parenting within the family. In the 1800, most manuals and books were directed at man but as industrialization advances, men were removed from their homes causing them to be less involved. Society has come to accept the fact that men are the bread winners and therefore shouldn’t have to participate in child-rearing, but the article suggests that it is imperative that the husbands take on the male parenting role. I know that males must be involved for both the wife and the children’s sake.

- G25, Monteilh - Outline 4

I thought this article was really funny. I’m not sure how serious it was but they did talk about different statistics so I thought I would throw it up there anyways. It talks about how guys have the same urge to have sex one day after, when females have the same feeling 20 days after sex. It talks about how men don’t have to pay a high price like previous generations anymore to spread their genes, so they are going to take it anywhere they can get it.

- G25, Ide - Outline 5

This article talks about how men who lose status are more likely to develop depression than women are. It was found that men gain most of their self-esteem from their careers and jobs more than from their family.

- G25, Ide - Outline 5

This article would be the perfect combination with Dr Laura’s book. This article talks about what men need to say when their wives ask them a certain question such as “How are you thinking about” it’s an article for men to feel and express feelings like a woman

- G25, Ide - Outline 7

This article talks about the amount of involvement fathers have in their children’s lives. It also talks about the influence fathers have on cognitive ability, social behavior, and even touches a little bit on how the mother-father relationship stimulates kids and their development.

- G25, Ide - Outline 6

This article talks about how kids are affected when they get older after they have lived with an angry father. A study conducted among young teens concluded that their father’s anger prevented their kids to open up and confide in them. The article also includes a checklist of steps to follow when fathers lose their patience and start to become angry.

- G25, Ide - Outline 4

This is a list giving the men some advice about what women need out of them in order to understand their role with their wives and how they can better their relationship

- G25, Ide - Outline 3

This article was basically talking about why men don’t show emotions. The authors like to put the blame on how the male was raised. Men are raised as boys not to be vulnerable when it comes to their feelings, and to be the hardcore, stone wall type of man. The article also points out a video that is devoted to getting into depth about men and their feelings titled “Men and Emotion”

- G25, Ide - Outline 10

This website is for men, it’s about how they deserve respect and their accomplishments. But what about the women? Do they not deserve the respect in the home too? It focuses in on various aspects such as health and child custody.

- G25, Matsui - Outline 9

This site is about men hogging the remote and reason’s that they do. Some of these reasons seem to me to be excuses and are made up to justify their control over the remote and relationship. It is funny to read though.

- G25, Matsui - Outline 8

I choose this site because I thought it was nice. Having a lazy husband is such a common conception that people are constantly making jokes about it. If you look in the paper there are at least several comics that deal with the lazy husband.

- G25, Matsui - Outline 6

This site is also a funny one. It is a man and his child in the boat while the wife is pulling it. This gives a good reflection of life in the home could possibly be for the wife. She maybe doing all the work in the home while the husband sits down. But I did think that it was a funny picture.

- G25, Matsui - Outline 6

Men are often viewed as being action focused and less focused on emotions. This website says this simply is not true. Men have feelings even though they often do not which to admit it. It also encourages men to find a support where they can talk and vent about their problems. Men need to vent just as much as women. It also suggests that men find healthy male support groups where they can learn to open up emotionally about male related problems.

- G25, Murray - Outline 8

This link explains why men don’t should their feelings because they are not brought up to share, and why they come home after a hard day to “dump” on their wives. It also brings up the men support group how they are helpful for men to express their feelings. In this support group, men only listen and not one person can give advice or pass judgment. This also improves men in their personal lives.

- G24, Wong - Outline 5

In this weblink, it discusses that men…apparently have feelings.  Larry James, the author explains that men and their feelings are misunderstood by women.  Because men refuse to acknowledge their feelings, women think it’s a sign of weakness.  However, James suggests that it is a sign of courage and strength—that there are possibilities with their feelings not being expressed.

- G24, Antonio - Outline 4

This website gives ten different ways that men can be better fathers and role models to their children. Some of the examples include passionately loving your wife, being a man of integrity, spending time with them, and making them know their self worth. Many men these days are failing when it comes to being a healthy role model for their children, but his website is encouraging because it gives examples of ways to be there for your children and also for your wife. I think the most important thing this man says is that men need to practice what they preach. If children hear you say one thing and then see you do another thing, then they will not listen to you.

- G25, Murray - Outline 7

This link is written by James A. Schaller. He talks about how many men are ideologically trained to worship the God of independence. It seems to be better when a man gets to the top of his own accord and it is often seen as weak for a man to depend on another person. He also makes an interesting reference to how violence is more often used by men to get what they want. However, the unique thing is that violence is not at the heart of many divorces in America. His final line is that “more marriages and families are dying from silence than from violence.” This truly made me think about how the Dominance Model and our ideals of what a “real man” should be is truly ruining American marriages.

- G25, Murray - Outline 7

This website talks about what men generally want in marriage. One thing that baffles many men is how long their wives can go without wanting sex. For women, they are more confused by how long a man can go without doing housework. There are unique differences among males and female but the report overall looked positive. 93% of the people they interviewed were happy with the person they had married and if given a chance to change their mind would not do so. Those men who had wives who were happy with the division of housework reported having better sex lives. The reason they report this is because their wives are not as tired or burdened or stressed. So men should do more around the house and they will get more sex!

- G25, Murray - Outline 7

This links talks about what the man or husband can do that correlate with sex. One thing that makes the man happy isn’t just the sex; it’s the woman’s interest in the sex. This article also brings up many questions that interview men and their thoughts in a relationship, family, and women.

- G24, Wong - Outline 8

This article asks men of many different professions what they think women do to drive men away. One of the things the author says women need to do is give their men more space. He explains that some women have a choke-hold on their men and it is not healthy. He also explains that men need their independence and it drives them away when they feel they are not free to be independent. This goes directly against the Unity Model and falls into the Dominance Model, because it encourages women to allow men to have independent prerogatives. It also involves woman bashing because it claims that these women have “problems” for wanting to be united with their partners instead of independent.

- G25, Murray - Outline 6

This was a research study by sociology professors that came to the conclusion that men do more housework than women think. According to their studies, husbands do 39% of chores around the house (women estimate men do 33%). However, women overestimate the tasks they do around the house. Women believe they do 67% of the housework when in actuality they do 61%. According to this study, women still feel burdened even though men are doing a bigger share of chores than their wives think. I thought this article was funny because 61% and 39% is still a huge gap in doing chores. This article made it seem like just because men have increased their role in housework (from the past), they are doing a good job and their wives are not giving them the full credit. I think this is a good example of anti-unity in marriage because just because men are doing a little more, does not mean the times have changed into a non-dominant model of marriage. Men still have a lot of work to do!!!

- G25, Kim - Outline 4

This article challenges Dr. Laura’s teachings that men are simple creatures. In the last paragraph of this piece, the writer establishes that men have just as many feelings as women. Men often have deep emotions, however, they often express them differently or have trouble expressing them at all. Society has played a role in conditioning men to believe expressing their emotions is not manly or excepted. Instead of reinforcing those behaviors by expecting less from our husbands, as Dr. Laura presumes, we should encourage them to communicate and express those emotions to us.

- G25, Moa - Outline 1

This suggestive article, written by Marty Friedman, is a comment on how to get a man to do more housework. She acknowledges that men are not raised to feel responsible for participating in housework. They consciously or unconsciously see the work as women’s work. Friedman continues by saying that a woman should respectfully state her request in order to elicit a good response. I chose this site because Friedman comments on some similar concepts as Joshua Coleman does concerning men and housework.

- G25, Moa - Outline 2

This link is an article by foxnew.com about husbands and fathers in society. It also states many quotes from authors who have written books to men and about lazy husbands. Another thing is this article brings in the childhood experiences and different examples in the media about men.

- G24, Wong - Outline 9

In this link, it is an interview of 70 husbands on why they marry, their feelings, their thoughts on giving their wives sex, etc. These are in-dept interviews where husband express their emotions about how their love is for his wife. It also brings up their sexual life.

- G24, Wong - Outline 8

This links talks about men not knowing how to express their feelings, and how they are focused on physical concrete things. It also talks about how it is not good for men not to know how to talk about his emotions and that a men’s group is helpful to improve him. It’s interesting having a man write this article explain the feelings of a man.

- G24, Wong - Outline 5

This link takes you to the Saskatchewan Libraries website to an article entitled, Men Have Feelings by Peter Griffiths.  The article was posted in The Daily Herald newspaper in 1995.  It discusses the simple fact that despite stereotypes or what society has told, men do have feelings.  It also addresses a similar point mentioned in the pages discussed in the outline, men are often afraid to discuss or show their emotions.  This column gives a brief but accurate description of how men feel about their feelings.  This website also has many other columns by Peter Griffiths that discuss men in relationships and their feelings and how they feel about their marriages.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 6

This website supports Dr. Schlessinger’s view. The article introduces the male ego and what a man needs. The articles then goes on to say that women need to accept a man’s sexual desire and that he must feel desired.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 9

This link leads to an online forum in which members try to answer the question: Why do men cheat? Some say that some men have an issue with their self-worth, while others say that they commit adultery to fill a void. Also, one member feels that it is an act of selfishness and men who cheat do not value or respect their partner.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 9

I chose this website because it contained helpful information for parents.  This site also contained information on how to keep romance in a marriage after children are born.  There are also many numerous links to aid in parenting older children. 

- G24, Lau - Outline 3

This site helps people, especially women, understand men better. They talk about very interesting things such as the male ego and how to change a man! I think this is very much related to Dr. Laura’s ideas of understanding naturally male characteristics.

- G24, Montague - Outline 4

This is a link to a very straightforward site which offers insight into understanding the complicating nature of men. They talk about the male ego and offers advice for men on how to change. This site is a little more closer to unity than the one’s I have been seeing up until this point.

- G24, Montague - Outline 10

This web link leads to a blog site which I found quite interesting. It has comments from different users, on their opinions about men’s egos. I thought this was a good site because it shows the perspectives of a whole array of people interested enough to comment about this topic.

- G24, Stipek - Outline 7

this site led me straight to a 4-paragraph page.  Although it was a joke, I recommend that all of you see it because it pretty much summarizes this reading.  This was a perfect example of a “lazy husband”.

- G24, Saito - Outline 1

This CNN website is about a study that was done at the University of Maryland and it determined that children who have fathers in their lives learn better, have higher self-esteem and show fewer signs of depression than children without fathers.  The study did not address whether a bad father is better that no father at al.  And the findings don’t necessarily mean that children who grow up in single-parent homes can’t be successful.  This website goes to show that there is a significant difference in children that don’t have fathers or father figures in their lives.  Men should think about this before they decide to have children or not.  Maybe a test should be first if they can be a involved husband or not.

- G24, Saito - Outline 6

This article was titled “why men leave women” and pretty much summarized the reading.  Men basically feel left out or neglected in the relationship and seek the companionship that was engraved in to them from a young child.

- G24, Saito - Outline 2

“A real man…”  Online article on societal expectations on what a man should be.

- G24, DeCaires - Outline 1

This website provides information on men’s flaws and issues in marriages.

- G24, Kanemaru - Outline 10

This is a list of different self-help books on relationship troubles and communication tips.

- G24, Kanemaru - Outline 6

This is a link to ABC News for Good Morning America.  The title of the piece is “Husbands, Your Wives want you to Read this”: Tips from the Author of "Secrets of Happily Married Men."  I thought the article from the show was great in that it is telling men the same things that Dr. Laura advocates to women.  Things like; Make Marriage Your Job, Know Your Wife, Expect Conflict and Deal with It.  It goes to show that there are basics in a marriage that should be used by both the Husband as well as the Wife.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 2

This article is written by a woman named Hara Estroff Marano who discusses the differences between men and women cognitively.

- G24, Kanemura - Outline 2

This link takes you to an article, “Becoming a More Affective Father” written by Israel Helfand, M.S., Ph.D.  The article initially talks about the fear that some fathers have with respect to becoming a father.  It also discusses what to expect, how you might feel, and the importance of spending time with your children.  There is a very key point that is also made, “It is important for us to address our issues with our own fathers and come to terms with the struggles of our own childhoods. Our training to be a father begins as a child being fathered by our own fathers, or surrogate fathers.”  I think this sums up the chapter in Joshua Coleman’s book entitled, Childhood Revisited.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 5

This link takes you to DateSeeker.net where there is an article by Larry James who is a professional speaker and provides relationship coaching nationwide, entitled, Men Have Feelings Too!  It is another article that explains the differences of men and women with relation to how or when and to whom they express their feelings.  It also talks about the importance of being good listeners.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 6

This link takes you to the Oprah Winfrey website, with a discussion by Dr. Phil called, Dr. Phil’s "MAN-UAL": Men Express Their Feelings through the Currency They Value.  I thought this was interesting because he brings up a lot of valid points.  One of these points being, that if you want to know how a man really feels, pay attention to how he treats what he values.  And an important question he raises to women is, “Do you want your man to really love you, or do you want him to love you the way you would love you?”  I think that this discussion supplements the section of Dr. Laura’s book very well.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 6

This article looks at several different factors contributing to spousal abuse. It first looks at some common theories people have used to explain spousal abuse. The three common theories are Psychiatric explanations, Sociobiological explanantions, and patriarchy explanations. The author expresses that neither one of these arguments is complete by itself, but that spousal abuse could be a combination of many factors.

- G25, Murray - Outline 6

This website talks about why men commit adultery. This article claims that one reason why men cheat is because the woman cheated; therefore, they retaliate back. And the number one reason why men cheat... because the man doesn't love his woman anymore. This can be due to being together with her for a longtime, resulting in losing feelings that he had once had for her.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 10

This website gives the top reasons why husbands and wives cheat. Reasons why men cheat include more sex and to satisfy a sexual curiosity. Reasons why women cheat include for emotional closeness and intimacy and a desire to feel "special".

- G25, Delapena - Outline 10

This website talks about how woman should just accept their man who he is. It claims that a man's most fundamental need in marriage is for his wife to accept him and not try to change him. It gives several reasons why trying changing him won't work.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 10

This website is describes some reasons of why men are addicted to sex." But then it goes on say it's not really sex men really want, it's emotionally strong women." Through sex, he will use her and see how she really is.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 3

This website talks about men who are sexually coerced by women.Ý Women are most likely to use psychological pressure such as pleading, emotional blackmail, and deception.Ý A study revealed that men who are very upset by an incident of female sexual coercion are likely to experience subsequent distrust and wariness around women and to have relationship difficulties.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 3

This website has a number of questions in regards to why men act the way they do. I found this site funny because it talks about random things that women usually complain about and are then answered by men. Some of the questions included why men can't pick up after themselves and why men are so uncommunicative.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 4

This website talks about low-sex drive men and how women who are in committed relationships wonder why their partner is uninterested in sex with them. One reason is that may be having an affair. Another reason included that the sex is unfulfilling to the man, such as poor hygiene or he just doesn't like the sexual interactions.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 4

This website describes what kind of questions men should ask their wives on a yearly basis. Tom (who is the author) and his wife Jeannie were having an intimate dinner and he decided to ask these questions so he can hear her answers that came straight from heart. Ever since, this has become an annual exercise.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 5

Obviously from the title, you can tell this is in the dominance perspective. This website gives tips to women on how to treat a man like a man. Tips include not undermining the husband and giving him space with his friends.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 9

This website is for "males only, no women welcomed". This gives men a place where they can express what they feel towards women and tell stories of how they were used and abused by them. Beware, this site degrades women in many ways.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 6

This article talks about if men are benefited by being married and having a family. There are two sides of this article. The supportive side says yes, men have longer lives, better health, and higher earnings than single men. The opposing side says no, and that they are high divorce rates and biased laws that have made marriage a gamble for too many men.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 6

This article is a good example of how marriages are viewed by society today, the differentiation between men and women, and what their specific roles are. It states how men and women are equal today in relationships, but if their occupational or economic status is equal as well, it will cause problems in identity roles in their relationship. Intimacy is also discussed as an important part of obtaining a stable marriage.

- G25, Fields - Outline 1

This link is a good example of how common male dominance is in society today, and the relations that are attached to dominance. One thing that stood out in this article for me was the statement, “…social-dominance levels support group-based inequality.” It also stated how social-dominance is related to sexual jealousy and extramarital affairs; with dominance, these two are more likely to occur. It is interesting how the Dominance Model is the most common in society and is viewed as normal or good to some females, when I know for a fact, that those two areas are aspects women absolutely hate in a relationship! Women are letting men get away with these traits and actions by believing it is not a problem, when it really is. One would think that if a woman really despises those characteristics, the last thing one would see her in would be a male dominance model in a relationship.

- G25, Fields - Outline 2

This website discusses equality in relationships, but I found it interesting because it also emphasizes at the same time how men and women are not equal. It shows differentiation between a man and a woman and how they are reciprocal to each other, indicating that a man and woman cannot be equal. I liked a statement in this article where it said, “ Looking for constant equality in a relationship tends to limit one’s focus to the immediate situation.” This reminded me of my own relationship right now. Numerous times I will keep thinking of a particular situation and ONLY think of that until I know each of us have done our equal share. Which, now, I think is ridiculous because I know I could have been focusing on more important issues in my life. If a couple can get beyond this step, it will bring them towards the Unity Model, which follows directly after the Equity Model.

- G25, Fields - Outline 2

This is a very good article that pertains to the Unity Model. It is also one of the very few that I have seen out there that isn’t, for once, blaming all relationship issues on the wife. This is addressed to husbands, which is telling them they must show respect for their wives, learn to appreciate them more, and the site provides examples on how they can achieve this. I really enjoyed reading on how the author emphasized husbands treating their wives the way God designed men to treat them. The only problem I found within this site was that it is perceived as if men should only treat their wives this way every once in awhile or occasional, rather than on a daily basis. After learning about the Unity Model, men need to treat their wives this way every single day, and if they don’t, the woman has or should have every right to get her husband back in line, and let him know how she feels. If he doesn’t know his wife feelings already, which he should. I agree with this website on the content, and for the most part, all of the examples the author gave. I just think they could have brought it out to be more assertive as a daily need and focused on the woman, instead of when the male wanted to appreciate his wife.

- G25, Fields - Outline 5

There are two questions that I want to address that I found on this page. The one is, “Isn’t it my responsibility to make my partner happy?” The answer here was NO!! How is it not your job to make the person you love happy? Wouldn’t a person WANT to make their significant other happy? I was very shocked by this answer. In the Unity Model, the husband needs to always be doing what the woman wants and needs, and when this is accomplished, there would not even be a question of her being happy or not. Reaching the affective level in the Unity Model is far beyond making a woman happy. It is actually the utmost happiness two people can reach here on earth. The second question was, “ Sometimes I know what’s best for my partner… Isn’t it my job to take care of them?” Once again, the answer was no!? I do not agree with whomever is giving these answers, but once a couple is married, especially if they are in the Unity Model, the husband and wife should be dependent on one another for almost everything. Once the couple has reached that conjoining union, they are one mind in two separate bodies. One cannot function or live with out the other, or at least it is very difficult to do. So, of course, the couple should take care of each other. Plus, why wouldn’t a couple WANT to take care of the person they love?

- G25, Fields - Outline 6

I chose this website because I thought it would be interesting to focus on what a wife should do in a marriage as well as the husband since usually in class our main focus is towards the man. This website gives ten commandments for both the husband and the wife. Within the lists, each of them had one commandment that stood out for me. For the men’s it was, “Thou shalt hold thy wife’s love by the same means that thou won it.” That one caught my attention right away because I just previously read in the lecture notes how a man will treat a woman wonderfully when they first begin dating, to show the girl what a nice guy he is, and then once they are married or together for awhile, most men do not continue treating their woman that way. The one that stood out to me for the women’s was, “Thou shalt not nag… hit him with thine frying pan, it is kindlier.” I actually thought that was quite amusing, but it is true. If women do “nag” and let the man get away with something they do not like, men will continue to do the same thing over and over again, and will never change. Women need to let them know it bothers them immediately after they did something they don’t like. And if that means they need to hit them with a frying pan to get their attention, then that is what they need to do in order to get their man to listen.

- G25, Fields - Outline 6

This article discusses the emotional, physical, and sexual differences between a man and a woman. I would like to focus on the following statements from this website, “Do you realize that your wife's natural ability for developing relationships can help you fulfill the two greatest commandments taught by Christ—loving God and loving others (Matt 22:36-40)? Jesus said that if we obey these two commandments, we are fulfilling all the commandments. Think of it! Your wife has the God-given drive and ability to help you build meaningful relationships in both these areas.” This is directly geared to focus towards the Unity Model of marriage. I never really thought of a man listening to his wife as a way to fulfill ALL commandments, but now that I think of it, it is clearly true that this would occur. I think it is so intriguing how God created men and women in this way. And the funny thing about life today, is that almost everyone thinks it is the other way around. MEN are the ones who guide women… because of the dominance role men have in society today.

- G25, Fields - Outline 7

I like this site because it is new and done by BYU, so it is college students and professors alike doing research on couples who are becoming parents and still trying to uphold their marriage together. It was very interesting reading through the few sections that they already have up.

- G25, Georgeo - Outline 3

By going to this website and reading the tips that Marty Friedman gives the women reading this website. I say women because he directs it towards women and how they should handle their husbands/boyfriends with doing the household chores and other such things in their relationship.

- G25, Georgeo - Outline 6

This was a great site, I even made my husband sit down and read this with me, seeing how we have a daughter. It was really nice to finally see a site directed towards males and their roles that they play in their children’s’ lives.

- G25, Georgeo - Outline 6

I liked this site because it goes into detail about how wives in a marriage just need to be cherished, known and respected. This falls into the category of how as long as a husband can do this and have a desire to want to do this in his marriage, his wife will forever be happy. A wife just wants to see that her husband is willing to try and she will hold on to the hope that her husband will eventually change.

- G25, Hasegawa - Outline 7

I chose this site because I felt that it gave a good description of stonewalling and how it can negatively affect a marriage. It also explains that when a man can tear down his stonewalling, it means that he has accepted the influence of his wife, which will help for a more successful marriage.

- G25, Hasegawa - Outline 6

I chose this article because I felt that it directly discusses the different types of husbands. It broke down the different categories in which your husband may fall into and also give advice to women on how to deal or handle their particular husband.

- G25, Hasegawa - Outline 4

In the previous years, each person had defined roles and duties in becoming a man or becoming a woman. Men were expected to go to School, get a job, get married and have children all in this order. Females were to move from financial dependence on men to financial dependence on their husbands. However, times have changed and now roles are changing too. It is rare to see anyone follow these roles specifically and there are some who defy the roles altogether. This author suggests that it is the changing roles that have influenced how people choose to grow up. She also suggests that men who are in their 30s and are still living at home are not necessarily childish, but rather they are selfish. The change in roles has affected how we perceive individuals.

- G25, Murray - Outline 4